All Alone (Part 1)

It's storming outside tonight. Again.I'm craving sunshine. Yes. This rain-loving, born-in-San-Diegan wants warmth from the sun and natural, bright light.But, it is still May. One more day anyhow. And another shower can't be bad for the rainforest that surrounds us here. So, I'll just write about last night. When it wasn't raining. When it was surprisingly cold out and the sun was setting beyond the forest's edge.~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~...more

Cooped Up

It rained all winter. A mix of rain and snow actually. And now that the sun has come out. Spring has arrived. Warmth has freed me from all of the layers.  And I'm feeling awfully cooped up this week. It's raining again. Today was Day 2. Only. And it verged on the brink of beautiful and then hilarious followed by insane every hour. ...more

Vaginas are Cool--I'm Glad I Have One

Vaginas Are Cool: I’m Glad I Have One Not to worry, my friends, I'm not lowering its standards or discretion (sentence to follow completely contradicts this statement).  I had my annual trip to the gynecologist this week, and I got to see my favorite nurse practitioner.  Everything was fine–I love her–but at the end of the visit, she gave me a bunch of samples of some kind of cream that women find beneficial “as they get older.”  Okay, I have a 5-year-old.  I’m young!  I’m hip!  Fine, yes, I have teenager...more

Making of a Mother

Here it is. May 8th. Mother's Day! My in-laws just left from a wonderful visit. Husband is off to work. The kids are a bit off. Something to do with staying up extra late, candy, birthday cake, major busy-ness all day long. Heck, the chicken coop is done. Whew. And I just turned on the computer to take a deep, calm breath of computer time. (You know, the house is a bit of mess, after all.) And Google has to tell me it's Mother's Day. What?! ...more

Parenthood, Actually: This Day Is For You

Happy Mother's Day! I hope that you are reading this as you relax on a sunny porch while your children bring you lemonade and paint your toenails. Even if that's not quite the case, I hope you are able to find some relaxation, some joy and some peace on this day. ...more

A few years ago, I wrote a blog post for Mother's Day and it reaches out to a lot of people in ...more

My Good Boy

I miss my boy. ...more

How to Make Green Chili Stew, and a Lesson in Life

How to Make Green Chili Stew...more

The Power of Denial: Parenting in the Age of Fear

Recently, one of my best friends was out biking in a very safe neighborhood with her husband and two children. Suddenly, her nine year old son disappeared. Her first thought was that he’d been abducted. Then, she tried to calm down, since his aunt lives in the neighborhood and it was more likely he took off for her house. After much biking around and yelling, they arrived back at the aunt’s house, and there he was. My friend didn’t scream about abduction at him, just yelled at him for not letting them know he was taking independent action....more

Princess Proofing :: An Introduction, Of Sorts

Ah, princesses. I was a tomboy, an animal lover, a Little House on the Prairie watcher.  I don’t think I was ever enamoured of princesses as a child.  But then, I didn’t grow up in the current monochromatic pink landscape of today’s commercialized childhood, either.  A landscape where children are marketed to from the cradle, as the Big Companies seek to earn your loyalty from the womb. And I will be frank, it ticks me off. Our children being reduced to little consumers....more

Lessons on becoming a mother

This spring I feel like I’m coming back to life after a long period of hibernation. Over the past several months I’ve been dealing with one health issue after another. Our home became my sanctuary as I focused on bringing my body, mind and spirit back to health. This also gave me lots of time to think about a major question I’ve always had: Will I be able to live up to the role of being a mother? Everything about it – from pregnancy and childbirth to parenting - has always intimidated me. ...more