An Amazing Letter From My Mother

We're getting ready to start our donor egg IVF cycle and I was talking with my parents about it over the weekend. They are hugely supportive of what we are doing because they know exactly what we are going through. You see, when I was 2 years old my Mother had a stillborn son. The cause was doctor error,, they pierced the umbilical cord during an amnio in the 8th month. She had no idea anything was wrong until the next appointment when they found no heartbeat. This was back in the 1970's when people weren't nearly as sensitive to these things....more

This Mom 2.0

If the search for the Confirmation dress was agony, the search for shoes proved to be sheer ecstasy.  After a rocky start at a shoe warehouse, we struck gold with black shoes at Payless.  Comfortable, not too high a heel, and an open toe with a sliver of a platform.  What happened on the way to Payless, however, was a moment I won't soon forget.  I was preparing to spend a week at a professional conference with other college writing teachers and program directors ...more

Sweet, Sweet Sleep

What is it about a clean home, eucalyptus spearmint wafting from the nearby outlet (courtesy of Bath & Body Works’ Wallflower) and two quiet children off doing their own thing upstairs, that makes me so… restless! I feel like I should be doing something, other than doing nothing.  That’s crazy, right? Having a few moments to myself to do absolutely nothing and feel oh, so wrong about it. How many times have I longed for ten minutes of peace and quiet during times of chaos? Did I really want that or was the idea of it so appealing....more

Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde

You wonder where the kind loving person went? The sad news is they were never there. They might look like a monster. Like Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. You might wonder "who is this person? Where did the romantic, sensitive, dashing lover go?" The sad news is, they were never there. When it comes to women and children, I am a huge advocate of educating and supporting those who need help getting through the many types of abuse women suffer every single day. ...more

I looked in the mirror and said, "One of us is lying to the other"

Today, I looked in the mirror and thought; "One of us is lying to the other". This girl in the mirror and I do not always get along. What I call laugh lines, she calls wrinkles. What I call curves, she calls fat....more

All Alone (Part 1)

It's storming outside tonight. Again.I'm craving sunshine. Yes. This rain-loving, born-in-San-Diegan wants warmth from the sun and natural, bright light.But, it is still May. One more day anyhow. And another shower can't be bad for the rainforest that surrounds us here. So, I'll just write about last night. When it wasn't raining. When it was surprisingly cold out and the sun was setting beyond the forest's edge.~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~...more

The Peonies Are In Bloom

I spent six weeks one summer in Grand Rapids, Michigan....more

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Home for the Summer

I gotta say its good to be back in the Chi. The food and the city were much missed from Bloomington. What was not....the parentals. I love them I swear I do but there just comes a point (about a week of being back) that it just becomes too much. Going away to school, moving out, and no more parents changes a lot of things. Moving back in and dealing with my mother is a bit like the transition in Flowers for Algenon, it may kill me. Boy does she have the best intentions but sometimes I worry the woman thinks she is Sherlock Holmes with all the questions she asks....more

Den Chronicles: "Are you my mother?"

A mother gave birth to her youngest child. Seven had come before her, and six had survived. She had more on her plate than many mothers could ever fathom. One day, as the youngest child went with her mother to visit a friend, the three year old turned around. She did not see her mother anywhere. “Where is my mother?” she said. I will go look for her. Read the rest of the article on Mamalode online magazine HERE....more

I write a column about parenting my three children in various stages: school-age, tween, and ...more