My Decade of Baby Is Over

Ten years ago, I was deep into fertility treatments and a busy teaching schedule, settling into a new city far from home, and hoping every single day that I would be pregnant. I was trying to wrap my head around FSH and LH levels and pray that my decision to stay on my seizure medication was the right one....more

When a Negative Helps You Focus on the Positive

This time, he didn't bring home flowers.  But in his defense, I took the phone call this time.  And I already knew.Berta was not meant to be....more

I'm Jealous of Mothers with One Child

Not too long ago I sat around a table of other moms at a coffee bar, chatting about this and that and so on and so forth. I joined in by telling them about a mom blogger I admire, who jaunts around town, experiencing and writing about her fabulous life in the city. You know, with her ONE kid... And I emphasized the whole conversation with a big fat eye roll. Which was awkward, because I was sitting at a table SURROUNDED by women who had only ONE CHILD. And that's when I swallowed my gangly foot. ...more
Kathy K I really appreciate this honest comment. I can't imagine having to make the conscious ...more

34-Weeks with Twins--They Said I'd Never Make It!

Today, I am 34-weeks pregnant with twin boys. If you would have asked me seven weeks ago if this seemed likely I would have said, "No."At 27-weeks, I was rushed to Labor & Delivery because I was two and half centimeters dilated and experiencing strong contractions-- though I didn't feel a thing.Here I was thinking I was coming in for a routine ultrasound and BAM! they had me rolling through triage in a wheelchair....more

Miles to go before I sleep...

Last night, I finally got to take a shower at 11pm (I’m a morning showerer).  It had been an exhausting, defeating day, each moment draining me more and more as I failed at just about everything I attempted.  I had spent much of the afternoon in front of my computer working, not because of inadvertently misaligned priorities, but because I couldn’t stand the thought of more time with my kids.  (It hurts to write that. Please tell me you’ve been there?)...more

Come Again?! (Part One of "Expecting a Baby")

On March 18th my husband and I were beyond excited to attend our first ultrasound appointment. The thought that we were having another child was a little overwhelming but amazing at the same time. Now closer to 2 years old, we wanted S Dot to have a partner in crime. This crawling on the floor and being his main form of entertainment was becoming a bit much. Plus, I often tell people that I am not sure how I could have survived childhood without my little brother....more

Can I Ever Be Enough for My Kids?

“Mommy? You come sit with us? You come sit with me and Michael and Maggie on couch in the living room?” Matthew asked me a few nights ago. His tiny voice hit me like a freight train. I looked down at the floor beneath the table, covered quite liberally with leftover birthday cake crumbs. Where are you, Mom? Why aren’t you with us? “In a minute, honey. I’ll be right there, Love. Just finishing up cleaning the kitchen,” I said, hastily sweeping the crumbs into a pile. I felt awful....more
The perennial question: are they getting enough of me? And probably if you ask them, it's no ...more

THE question

I took the kids out for breakfast this morning. The woman at the table next to us turned around to ask if they were twins, and went on to coo over them. Because they are twins, they have always gotten alot of attention and comments: "Are they twins?" , "who was born first?" , "Aren't they adorable", "Are they fraternal or identical?" (This one always kills me- it's amazing how people don't understand about genetics and that only same sex twins can be identical), etc. It's nice. It's nice that they garner positive curiosity. I'm always very pleasant and patient and appreciative....more

Little Known Twin Facts

On June 20, 2011 a routine ultrasound changed my life. I heard five words that I never in my wildest dreams thought I’d ever hear, “Well, for starters, there’s two.” It took 30 minutes to get from the doctor’s office to my mom’s work. In utter shock, I typed TWINS into the Google search bar on my phone....more

The Real Scoop on Parenting Multiples

Parenting multiples isn't just about doing things in duplicate (or triplicate or quadruplicate!); it requires a lot of creativity and quick thinking on your feet as you navigate the logistics of feeding multiple babies at the same time, getting them on the same schedule, and making sure they sleep in unison. From thoughts on prematurity to which items you'll need to purchase more than one of, this crib sheet on parenting multiples will help you get your bearings if you're carrying twins, triplets, or more. ...more
Excellent post. EVERY TIME I was pregnant and 6 weeks larger than I should be, my doctor thought ...more