The Trick of Time

The past couple of weeks (and the next week or so, as well) can only be characterized as volcanic. Most of the time, my life moves along at the same pace, even with minor changes in routine, and while I know that time is marching on and things are changing incrementally, imperceptibly, I have accepted that one day I will look back and be astonished at how far we've come from one place or another. ...more

Parenting Book Fail: Ridiculous Parent/Child Dialogues

There are a lot of things that irk me about the parenting book world, but nothing quite ticks me off like the inane, complicated, Danny-Tanner-esque conversations all these multitudes of parents are apparently having with their children....more
Personally, when I start speaking in the "book-speak" (and God knows I've tried!) my kids' eyes ...more

The Time I Got to Be the Fun Mom

My husband and I both like to make people laugh, but he reeeeeally likes it and cannot help performing for his easiest, cutest, most enthusiastic audience: our kids. So he is the “Fun Dad,” making me, by default, the “Mean Mom.” Well, not exactly mean, but the Boring, Serious, Responsible Mom. Which in my kids’ minds pretty much equals mean. ...more
aoi Ha, I think you are right about the youngest! I can totally see that with both my husband, ...more

To My Sister, On the Eve of Motherhood

Any day now my sister will join the ranks of some of the strongest, bravest and most powerful women in the world: mothers. Motherhood embraces each of us in its own way. We never know exactly how it will impact us until we cross its threshold, forever changed, nevermore the person we once were....more

My Biracial Son Said, 'I Don't Like Black People'

I've started taking my boys to our new black church. Due to significant transitions in work and other factors, I'd lost consistent, ongoing healthy interactions with A LOT of the black folks in my life. After some time, this reality hit me hard. I started asking myself all the questions: NUMBER ONE: Where are my black people, for crying out loud? Why don’t I have more black friends whom I see on a regular basis? Why aren’t I reading more black authors? ...more
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Surrounding My Autistic Son With Community That Matters

When I think about my son's future—and that includes his future without me, seeing as autistic kids, like most kids, tend to outlive their parents—there are three things I desperately want for him: 1) I want Leo to be known and loved in his community. 2) I want Leo to be understood and accepted for who he is. 3) I want Leo's personal wishes respected. ...more
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Sometimes a Mom Just Needs to Back-Off

WHEN YOUR KIDS ARE PUSHING YOUR BUTTONS, IT MAY BE BECAUSE YOU ARE PUSHING THEIRS.One morning last week, the pace of getting ready for the day was a bit hectic at our house.  My husband had left early for work - but my son had gotten up later than usual, and so had I....more

Daddy Does Chores = Daughter Succeeds?

Ugh, have you read the news? If you want your daughter to be a barrier-breaking dynamo with a skyrocketing career, Daddy better be rolling up his sleeves and scrubbing those toilets, ladies....more

Self-care Ideas for Moms

 If I had to describe motherhood in one word,  I'd say it is life-changing. For me, motherhood, hands down, was the singular event that turned my life upside-down. As overwhelming as it is gratifying, motherhood can consume you and make you forget what you were like before it arrived. As a new mom, it's important to exercise self-care to keep your identity (and your sanity). Below are some self-care tips I have found helpful in my experience as a new mom: Daily...more