There Are No Sides

  One of my friends is in love with a police officer. She has been struggling with how to respond and process the events in Ferguson, but she is doing so from a slightly different angle than a lot of us....more

It's Not New, It's Just New to You

Something about Michael Brown's shooting in Ferguson, Missouri, has struck a chord with white women bloggers because I sure have seen a lot of 'I can't believe how horrible racism is' posts as if this is the first time they've realized that racism can have fatal consequences....more
You're not wrong. I don't think that it is new to me, but it is definitely something I don't ...more

When We Talk About Race, We Need to Talk About Institutional Racism

I often think about why we, as a people, are in the state we are in, and I'm frustrated by institutional racism....more
Wow, this post was pretty heavy and a little uncomfortable to read, so thank you for sharing!  ...more

300 Is Racist, Ableist and Homophobic As Hell

I watched 300 last night, and recorded my reactions, which were slightly drunken and funny.  I have come to the conclusion that at minimum it is incredibly racist, homophobic and ableist, if not more (I haven't had time to delve further into all the horrible things I saw).  Especially racist.  Like, probably the most racist movie I've ever seen, and it came out in 2007, so these people have zero excuse of any kind. Here it is: 8-18-14, 8 pm ...more

Explaining Police Violence and Racism to Young Kids

As a black mother, I always knew I'd eventually have to talk to my son about race. I just didn't think it would be in the first grade....more
Unfortunately, we do live in a racist country. That adds another dimension to the people who ...more

I'm a White Mom, and I Care

On Monday night my husband and I couldn’t stop scrolling through social media and following the tragic story of Mike Brown. Mike Brown was an 18 year old boy from Missouri who was shot multiple times and killed by a police officer. He was unarmed and the only thing he was doing wrong at the time was walking in the street instead of on the sidewalk. And oh yeah, also, he was black. But maybe you guessed that already. This story did not get much (any?) press until the protests began to escalate into rioting....more

Never Too Late to Learn: Racism and Slavery in America

It occurs to me that the way to change people's attitudes is to tell them the truth.If people are never exposed to the truth, we can't blame them for not 'getting it' when we try to explain things like sexism and racism....more
For the longest time I have been saying we need to change the manner we teach Black history.  If ...more

Say What You See: Being Honest about Race

I started my professional life at 27 as a White girl in a Black anti-poverty agency called the Social Development Commission where the first day I was called out for shrinking back from a hug offered by an associate director who laughed at me and told me I didn't have anything to be afraid of. "It's okay, girl. We're not going to hurt you."...more

Realizing the Comforts of My Color: Thoughts on White Privilege

She came from nowhere, it seemed, and slipped away in the same smooth and silent way. We were at the donut shop's counter, being treated to coffee by one of the people we were visiting.  His wallet was out, and suddenly she was there, at his side, all creased chocolate skin and curls spiraling with gray and—this is what has stayed with me—dark and haunted eyes. Image Credit: Christine H. via Flickr...more
I feel like I have a good view on this as I am in an interracial relationship my fiance and I ...more

Captain Hookup Culture

You know how every couple of days there is a pundit squalling about “hookup” culture? They give the impression that all college kids do is get drunk and have sex with random strangers in drug-fueled orgies while listening to the evil modern music and oh God everyone in America is going to hell because too many bathing suit parts are getting squished together.Well, they are wrong....more