A Surprise Visit from an Old Lover

He slid into my car, leaned over and kissed my neck. Nothing had changed in thirty years. He still thought I wanted him to kiss my neck. Never mind that I’d been married to someone else for twenty-five years, raised four children, and was a grandmother. I was 30 when he was kissing my neck in earnest. Now I was 60....more
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I've Never Had A Best Friend

I’ve never had a best friend.I’m not saying that so you’ll feel sorry for me. It’s just a realization that I’ve had over and over and over again in my life. Image: Texasbubba via Flickr ...more
I've never had a best friend. Growing up I was the token girl in a neighborhood of boys. Hanging ...more

Don't Blame the Lettuce

“When you plant lettuce and it doesn’t grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce.”Thich Nhat Hanh ...more

The Things I Can Never Say To My Love

What can I say to you? What can I say to make you understand?I am the most guilty. I am guilty of saying the wrong things, and not saying the things that should be said. I am guilty of yelling and screaming, confronting and accusing, and not loving nearly enough. What can I say to my love, who weathers the storm, time and time again?...more

The Challenges of Being an Introvert

*stands up* *shuffles nervously* *clears throat* Hello. My name’s Ruth and I am an introvert. Would you believe that it has taken me 31 years to say that? Most of those years have been taken up with saying other things. No, I’m not anti-social. No, I’m not shy. No, it’s not that I hate people, or that I hate you, or that I’m a badly brought up Awkward Annie. I’m just an introvert. ...more

Five Most Common Misconceptions about Bisexuality

As a child of the early eighties, I’ve been fortunate to see a huge improvement in equal rights for members of the LGBT as well as a large drop in the ignorance surrounding human sexuality. Frankly, I couldn’t be more proud of our collective advancements as a society. While this is amazing, I can’t help but wonder why bisexuality is still so misunderstood?...more

We Take a Risk Every Day We Choose To Love Someone

Falling in love has been a deeply transformative, beautiful and admittedly scary experience for me. I’m a naturally anxious person who has a tendency to question everything and get extremely worked up over something as simple as what I’m going to have for dinner. Almost everything causes me to have an identity crisis. Throw in attachment, caring and feelings for another person and their emotions, questions about the future, changes in my day to day life and suddenly this thing, love, that I have wanted for so, so long has started to seem like something to fear....more

Passion vs Parenting - the single parent's rite of passion

After the stress of divorce, you desere to have some fun. You also deserve to love and be loved and to experience an adult relationship that meets your needs. Finding the balance between adult needs, parental obligations and your child's feelings is a single parent's rite of passage.Read our tips for managing being a single parent and falling (back) in love.With love,Rachel & Trisha, Co-Creators, SteppingThrough...more

10 rules a man must follow to date a REAL woman.

1. You will speak to her in the correct tone. I'm not saying you cant find yourself mad at her and wanting to scream but don't you dare. Speak to her calmly and with a gentle voice, the results will amaze you. ...more

"Kill Me, Heal Me" and the K-Drama Mental Illness Wave

Mental illness is sexy on Korean television right now. I doubt there's a good explanation why—given the notoriously chaotic K-drama production schedules, it has to be partly coincidence that three dramas about mental illness are currently airing. They could just as easily have broadcast in different months. But I guess we got—lucky? "Heart to Heart" (tvN) and "Kill Me, Heal Me" (MBC) debuted the first week of January, and "Hyde, Jekyll, Me" (SBS) starts Jan. 21....more