“Bag lady, you gone hurt your backDraggin all them bags like thatI guess nobody ever told youAll you must hold on toIs youIs youIs you”- Erykah BaduI’m not gone tell y'all how I old I was before I realized she wasn’t talking about actual bags.Any who,...more

Your Way is the Best Way, Right? Wrong.

 “The inferior teacher tells you that something is wrong with you and offers to fix it.  The superior teacher tells you that something is right with you and helps you bring it forth.” - Alan Cohen ...more

The Happiest Place On Earth

 The relationship was over. No band aid was going to fix what I had said. Not only was I severing ties with my best friend, I was breaking off ties with an entire group, my lifeline.Fresh from high school graduation, we boarded the plane to the“Happiest Place on Earth.” No parents. No rules. We had been planning this vacation for months. Although we were sad to leave one of our crew back at home, the four of us were ready to make lasting memories.Two days in, I wanted to charge the travel agent with false advertisement. Happiest Place on Earth? Bullshit. ...more

8 Conversations To Get Your Partner In The Mood

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The many tests of marriage

Sometimes, younger unmarried women will ask me for relationship advice. I have been married to the love of my life for almost seven years, and we were together for 12 years before we got married. And so I am very honest when I talk about the tests of love....more

Are You and Your Partner On The Same Financial Page?

Let’s face it, relationships are tough.  They require constant attention, great communication, and massive compromise.  And while the old adage, "Opposites attract" may make for an exciting, passionate relationship, it can also be the downfall of your financial dreams.  When committing to a major goal, like early retirement, it is crucial that you and your partner are on the same money page....more
That's great that you've made it work out! Just keep those lines of communication open. Thanks ...more

The Monster Under My Bed

The monster under my bed is gone.  He left last year when he decided that sticking around on earth was too problematic…so, he took his own life last year, October 1. He wasn’t a monster of fairy tales or fiction, he was my bio-dad.  I can’t entertain thoughts of referring to him as dad or father, although he indeed was.  He was a difficult man, caustic, toxic, and as you might imagine, very dysfunctional.  He failed at his first marriage, the marriage to my mom.  He brought discord and vitriol to his second marriage to my stepmom....more

Birthday Shuffle V - Day 3 - Cold Hearted

It's always sad to lose a friendship, and worse when it's over something stupid like a man.   I went to college in San Diego, and I had a close circle of friends;  in particular, two friends that I had made while living in the residence halls....more
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8 Things You Should Know About Building Intimacy In Your Relationship

It’s July 1st and the first official day of the Summer Sex Challenge! And no one is more excited about today...more