The Love Language of Words

We started out as friends. There were a handful of us who would hang out together, a group of young adults trying to make it in the world, uncertain of anything except for the fact that the world was our oyster. Slowly, those around us faded and we found ourselves spending time alone together, you know, as "friends" often do. Little note cards would be exchanged, at first as simple platonic gestures of good wishes, whether it was for safe travels or good luck on an exam. As our relationship developed, so did the written notes, focusing not exclusively on me or him, but us. Those words on the cards became road signs indicating that we were both headed in the same direction....more

Practicing the Art of Receiving

One day I was coming back from a trip to IKEA with flat boxes of furniture that I had to put together.  I live in a high-rise building, so I took a cart from the building’s lobby to load all the boxes.  Our building has a doorman and it is his job to help the residents bring packages in the building and he asked me more than once if I needed help...more

Why Does Gay Porn Turn Women On?

People watch pornography to feel sexual desire and arousal. The sensation of sexual desire (being turned on) is more highly rated and sought after in studies than the actual physical experiences during sex, for both men and women. We love to feel horny! But what makes men and women feel turned on differs....more
Thanks!  It made total sense to me when I read the science. Watching someone who is thinking ...more

I Need Space! Communicating What You Really Need

Now a day I get into deep relationship conversations with total strangers at the mall. It’s weird how it happens, but as soon as I mention my blog and that I dabble as a dating coach, people want to open up to me. My latest conversation was with a man who told me that he ended his last relationship because he needed space and the girl he was with just couldn’t understand....more

Dating and Spinach

Dating is so not what it used to be. Understatement, I know.Remember when it was as easy as going to the club and flirting with a cute guy? Those were the days. Half drunk, more often completely wasted, and locking lips in the corner with some guy you’ve known all of twenty minutes. Then you exchange numbers, no doubt it’s you giving him your number because what girl would call a guy for a date, right? Then he would call and you’d go out, all uncomfortable at first because you are both sober and can’t really recall what the other is like.Ah, the good old days....more

Domestic Violence Is Not Just The NFL’s Problem

Despite how it appears on the 24-hour news channels, domestic violence is not likely to be any more prevalent between professional athletes and their partners as in relationships in other segments of society....more


Before I get into it, let me say this: I love the fellas.  I got nothing but love for all the wonderful men in my life, and always have.That said?  Ya’ll got some WONKY brains.  I guess I always knew this, but it wasn’t until the last few years that I really started noticing it.  Sure, I can’t pigeonhole every dude out there and say “ugh, they’re all the same" (I have to risk sounding like a stereotypical woman here) but there does seem to be a few common denominators among the men in my life....more

5 Reasons To Date a Man Who Doesn’t “DO” Social Media

These men are on the endangered species list, but when you find them, hold on tight. Of all the men I’ve dated in the last two years, the ones who don’t “do” social media are usually on top of the relationship material list. Besides those I’ve dated, my best friend is married to one, and my two brothers are also social media free; all happen to be amazing men....more
Yes! This is how I feel about my boyfriend. He has no facebook, instagram, twitter... he spends ...more