When Your Ex's Ex is Your Best Ally

I probably would have stayed if I hadn't talked to his ex girlfriend. He was so good at making me feel uncertain of myself, like I was misremembering his words, my words, our actions and agreements. It got to a point where I insisted we write everything down, so that we didn't get tangled up in confusion. I didn't realize that he was pulling the strings on purpose to trip me up....more

I'm Thankful I'm Single.

This year, I'm thankful I'm singleAF. And you should be too. Here's why....more
shaquekah single girl squad!more

Head Over Heels: Some Notes on Love, Heartache, and Change

Here’s how change typically works in my life: It's like I’m standing at the top of a mountain and I begin to realize that it’s time to climb down. Maybe the weather's turning or I see a lion charging up. Maybe it’s just the vaguest of realizations that fear has accumulated all around me and it’s making me really uncomfortable. So I get out my telescope and my tape measure, and I try to calculate whatever I can: the angle of the slopes, the height of the mountain, the rate at which I think I can climb down....more
"What I realized right away—viscerally and completely—was that anything and anyone can be taken ...more

8 Ways You Can Keep Dating Your Spouse

When you’ve been married to someone or dating them for a significant amount of time, your marriage might start to lose some of that spark. It certainly doesn’t mean you love each other any less, but it might mean that your marriage needs a bit of a reboot....more

When You're The Person Who Never Quite Knows How To Let Go

He always has that smitten look on his face whenever he’s photographed with her, that one girl he calls ex-girlfriend. With me, it was more of a socially friendly smile even though we were dating at the time. He dated me and claimed he liked me, but he was never in love with me like I hoped he would eventually be. It was my choice and I got what I asked for. I had him, his time, his body. I became the girl who was in love with a guy who didn’t see me the same way, the girl who was too smart to lie to herself but did it anyway, and the girl who never quite knows how to let go....more

I Wasn't Her Friend

When I was a young girl there was a special woman in my life who did not care if I liked her as her role was not to be my friend.  I will admit she made me mad sometimes and I did not always agree with her but I knew enough to listen to her....more

5 Signs You're Dating A Loser

5 signs you’re dating a loserThe side effects of dating a loser can be detrimental to your mental health you WILL experience frustration, stress, anxiety and in the worse cases you can actually become a loser yourself! Here are the warning signs that you could be dating a loser.  ...more

Keeping It Sexy: 9 Date Night Tips For New Parents

The days with baby are long; early-morning wake up calls from the nursery followed by a full day of bottles, burps, diaper changes, playtime, unsuccessful naps, mess cleaning, appointments, classes and a mountain of other chores that we like to call the ‘baby admin.’...more
I am definitely guilty of trying to figure out what to do- i find myself jamming my day with a ...more

The Remodel, NaBloPoMo Day 12

It's been a long five months, including several times when I almost divorced my husband due to a choice of lighting.......more

On The Rebound

Alternate Title: Your Friend Is An Asshole Who Has a Hidden Agenda Based on Their Own Fear.Alternate Title: I'm Tired of Writing Blog Posts About People Who Are Bad Friends...more
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