Stolen Heart--Toxic Love

This passage of my book is not an autobiography. It is an intense journey that I have taken in my life and have now realized that I am not alone.There are many of us, who have had a broken heart and assumed we were the only ones'. I am here to tell you, you are not alone!Have you ever had a broken heart? Felt alone? Sadden by a loss of a relationship? Have you ever felt pain in your stomach and you woke up realizing it was a broken heart that you felt you would never recover from?Well, I am here to prove to you-- You can recover!!...more

I Wanted a Husband, Not a Boyfriend

Dating can be fun, but it also sucks. If you are not clear about your expectations and about what you want, you can easily fall prey to 'those' guys. Those guys are the bad guys, the ones that don’t have any purpose in your life and cause nothing but confusion and harm. You think he cares but at the end of the day you realize that is far from the case. We'll talk more about that later....more
anahelgeson Dating is a lot different now, even before it was so different. I know the pain of ...more

Healthy Arguments In A Relationship?

One of the biggest topics that is brought up quite frequently when speaking on relationships & marriages is "How often is it okay to fight? Well it's never okay to fight.".... In a perfect relationship would you think there would be no fighting at all? Well, most people might say yes but no fighting/arguments at all in a relationship is actually unhealthy. A certain type of a fighting/arguing is even said to be healthy, for a healthy relationship that is....more

Holding Hands: More Intimate than a Kiss, More Powerful than a Hug

Throughout the years, my mother often quoted lines from Robert Fulghum’s famous piece of writing All I Really Need To Know I Learned in Kindergarten. Not a day went by where we didn’t hear, “Wash your hands before you eat” (a nod to #8 and sound advice for sure). But she especially liked #13: When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands, and stick together. I especially liked the one listed above it: Take a nap every afternoon. But the older I am getting, the more I have come to appreciate her choice....more

Age of The Cat Lady- The Initiation

At the tender age of 19, I was someone's bride to be. He, a bright eyed 22 year old Army private and me, an ungrateful party girl. We were so close to the alter but didn't make it. Only age and inexperience were to blame. Not foreseeing that the following 2 decades will yield vast amounts of tears, heart aches, heart breaks, disappointment, desperation, loneliness and God questioning, I was optimistic that it was the right decision....more

I Played Hookie With My Hubby

The app DubSmash allows you to record yourself lip-synching to any piece of audio - song or movie clip. Within two days of download, I was entertained for hours and completely addicted. But beyond me, I knew my husband would LOVE this; he’s a professionally-trained actor. It would be like asking a baseball player if he wanted to go to the batting cage. ...more

I've Seen Life Go In a Circle


Stop giving husbands a “pass.”

I’m sure you’ve heard it. Perhaps you’ve even said it before. “My husband “helps out” with the kids.” Or the man has said, “well my wife is going out so I’m babysitting the kids.” Let’s discuss something that needs to be addressed: The kids are 50% theirs. Either genetically or legally (yay adoption!), kids are JUST as much the man’s responsibility as they are the woman’s. ...more

Heart Openers - On and Off the Mat

"Arms stretched out behind you, grasp your hands behind your back...lift your gaze and open the heart" The yoga instructor gently continues to remind us to round the shoulders down and back throughout the class. We are practicing heart openers.I love yoga for many reasons: the chance to intentionally practice deep and full breathing, the chance to move slowly and deliberately, the chance to practice beginner's mind, and the chance to do chest and heart openers. ...more