Yes and No

“Really, mom? It’s not like it’s the first time I’m leaving. Isn’t it easier now than it was last year?”That question came up as we talked about your move…six days and counting, now. You’d think it would be old hat by now, wouldn’t you, son? I love that you apply your stoic logic to matters of the mama heart, and if I remove myself for a second and look at it through clearer eyes, I can agree with you and see how silly I must look, my nose turning Rudolph red as my new companion, called ‘the ugly cry,’ crashes our party again....more
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Does President Obama Have "Daddy Issues?"

On her July 27, 2014 show, Melissa Harris Perry shared with her Nerdland audience that her parents were unmarried and that her father was not in the home.  This made me reflect on my piece from 2013 in which I responded to her claim that President Obama has "Daddy Issues." Here is that piece:...more

An Interview with Real Housewife of NYC - Amanda Sanders

 Last week I had the pleasure of speaking one-on-one with Amanda Sanders, one of the newest cast-wives on the Bravo series, The Housewives of NYC. She is a savvy single mom balancing a full plate of professional successes while raising two beautiful young daughters. We had a frank discussion about her unexpected journey to single motherhood. The good and the bad of her ex-husband’s key to her home, what it’s like being a Bravo housewife and the exciting launch of her new jewelry line. KZ: Are you a full-time single mom? In other words, do you have 100% custody?...more

My Spiritual Journey Into Single Motherhood and Frugal Living

My life has undergone some drastic changes in the past week. I’m in a place I never imagined I would be…a single mom with four children.  How did this happen? Why is this happening to me and my children? Is there anything I could have done to prevent this from happening?I don’t know all the answers, but I do know that God has a plan for my life. Although I may not understand why this happened, He does....more

My Thoughts On What Lifetime TV Did To My Memoir

Ever since the premiere date of The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom was announced (May 31st on Lifetime) , I’ve been inundated with the same questions by people:  Have you seen the movie and what was it like to watch it?  What do I, as the author of the book, think of the movie?...more

The Perfect School Mom

This week The Happy Boy's school is celebrating Fiesta by having different activities each day. Yesterday they had a rally, today every kid had to take a dish to share with the classmates (this should be illegal) and tomorrow they are having a mini parade were each child is asked to decorate a shoe box and walk while pulling it....more

Better Have Lonely Sundays Than An Un Happy Life

One morning while I was getting ready for work The Happy Boy came to me and said "mom, everyone is going to think you have a boyfriend! You look so pretty and pretty girls have boyfriends". Yes, pretty girls have boyfriends so why I don't have one? I had a boyfriend a couple of months ago but it lasted less than a month (and one month relationships does not count) so I can say I've been single for 3 years now. I have dated a couple of lucky guys but nothing formal or, as some would say, never exclusively. Why?...more

rock bottom

Single Mom Budget Crisis

Month after month, it goes like this:...more
Yup except for the spousal support as I have never been married. Face palm.more

Single Mom: You are not the Father & That's Okay

This post is dedicated to single mothers who are currently raising or are preparing to raise young boys. ...more