Wedding Invitation Without a Plus One

I understand why some of us call an ex-friend’s ex-boyfriend’s friend of a friend just to have a date: they need a human shield. Because weddings. Fuck.  The pleasure of your company is requested. Just yours. No Plus One. Though I go solo to weddings exclusively, this pisses me off. I’ve searched my soul for an explanation to my annoyance, one that rises above pettiness. A part of me must be jealous. Nah. ...more

Being single sucks

I called the only person I could think of, Woo. He didn't answer, which was understandable, it was about 4 in the morning. I later saw my roommates and told them what happened, that was the last time we talked about it. As the day went on I could feel the aches, there were bruises on my neck and arms. I had to work that night, I got lucky in a sense, there was banquet that I had to work. Which means instead of a short sleeved low collared pollo I got to wear a long sleeved button up shirt....and a bow tie lol But at least you couldn't see anything....more

The Difference Between Single and Available

Are you single and available?  While this may seem like an easy question to answer, we have learned that people have different ways of curtailing the answer to best fit their whims.  We thought we would spell it out for you in case you are confused.  If you are married, separated, not yet divorced or have been dating someone for over 3 months then you should answer…no I am not single OR I consider myself single but I have been dating someone for X many months.  Even if you have not had the “are we exclusive” conversation, chances...more

Fussy in love

“I don’t know how someone as beautiful as you can be single.”  This was meant as a compliment and in my heart of hearts I knew this to be the case. But it’s a compliment that had been passed my way so many times, usually accompanied by a look of pity, that it no longer felt like a compliment.As the words are uttered I felt myself getting irritated as I replied, through gritted teeth; “I’m single out of choice not a lack of attention. I get lots of male attention but I want the right man.”...more

I'm Single, Not Divorced, and why must you know, Ms. Nosy Parker?!

I must confess that up until recently, I did not pay much attention or care about personal data that are required for so many standard forms: medical documents, school forms, intake information. I have to admit the recent addition of the option - to the effect that 'one prefer not to answer' or share one's gender - to most forms rather intriguing. If we're being so nebulous about our gender(s), does this option extend to other facets of our lives, such as our status? ...more

How To Handle Halloween Single

What to Wear?...more

Always The Bridesmaid...and Godmother...and Party Planner, Never The Bride Or Anything Else Particularly Cool

Firstly, please forgive me for the cliche title and secondly, before you judge me as a jealous, wicked stepsister type, hear me out. I am so very happy for my friends. They have found wonderful men to share their lives with and I am honored to stand by them while they start their new journeys. I am also thrilled that some of them are popping out babies...on purpose. (Confession: I don't know if I'll ever get used to that. It still makes me shudder, cute as they are. )...more
My beef with my married and kidded friends is that they speak to me as if my single status has ...more

The Lies Single Women Believe

 Lies cloaked in popular beliefs are hard to recognize as lies.  Media messages say love, sex, and romance are the ultimate high, while applauding a lifestyle of casual sex and living together that often destroys intimacy and fulfillment.Recognizing the lies is a first step in walking in truth — truth that sets us free to experience true love, in healthy ways, along the pathway to lasting fulfillment. ...more

I'm 44, Single, and Happy (Believe It or Not)!

I am a 44-year-old woman and I’m single. Never been married. No kids. Living life solo. I don’t say this to elicit pity and I also don’t wear it as some sort of badge of honor. I’m just stating a fact. It is a reality that many people live with daily. I stress the word live because that is what many of us are doing -– living. We’re not cowering in a corner, weeping because we haven’t started families. We live. Oddly, many around us don’t see it this way. ...more
Hi all :) I am so thankful I stumbled upon this blog. I am 44 years old and I thought I had a ...more