It's time to go home, wherever that is.

I'm a full-time grad student lucky enough to have my own studio apartment, courtesy of my University job. I decided that some time at home with my family was needed, and verbally committed to spending the week of Christmas at my mom & dad's house. Normally, this would be stressful. (Trust me, it has been at times.) However, I was looking forward to homecooking, family time, and cuddling with my dog, a lot....more

Why Are You Still Single?

This question aggravates me to no end. I hate when men ask me this question. It’s not like I haven’t asked myself this question a couple times, but to hear it fall out of someone else’s face gets on my nerves. I think it is rude and inappropriate. There are many factors as to why I am single and I don’t owe any explanations to anyone with regards to why. What further kills me is when he then blames me for being single by following the question up with “What’s wrong with you?” Why is it that there has to be something wrong with me?...more

The Day You Left Me

Most of all, thank you for leaving me the blanket for when I curl up on the couch to sleep tonight, my laptop at my side, a pile of books at hands’ reach -- the way you first found me, only so much more. You leave me as more, not less, because of your refusal to let me leave that first time I tried -- the second and third, so long ago now -- when I was terrified of closeness. You taught me that closeness was possible. You taught the wildfire the beauty of a hearth. And maybe I'm not meant to be a hearth, but now I know what it means to be a safe place even as I rush across Sepulveda Pass. ...more
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I Found Love Online and You Can Too

When deciding to find a date online, safety is first and foremost. There are a lot of whackos out there but on the flip side, there are a lot of good people that are serious about wanting to meet someone. Use your common sense at all times. Most on-line sites won't allow you to post contact information. You must go through their site to contact a person. Don't give out any personal information until you are sure you are ready to talk in person. ...more
@Robinette B I remember thinking how strange it was to think people were meeting over the ...more



When Broccoli Rabe = Freedom

This has been a fantastic week.  It's my annual pilgrimage to Martha's Vineyard, an island off the coast of Massachusetts. Every year I rent a house with 4-5 Spinsterlicious girlfriends and we beach, eat lobster rolls, drink cocktails at breakfast, and hang out at the club like we're still young and carefree.   ...more

Finding the Pet Lover of Your Dreams

For the single dog, or cat, owner dating can be rough. You worry, among other things: "Will they like my pet?" "Will my pet like them?" Is their apartment pet-friendly?"Slow down, says pet expert Charlotte Reed, who reminds singles that you need to take a step back and concentrate on what you are doing, or not doing, before freaking out about your pet....more

Another Weekend

Here it is, the end of another weekend.  Spent like most weekends these days.  Hours and hours of time spent alone.  With the exception of two short excursions to the store, all of those hours spent at home.  And it wasn't bad, it wasn't great but it wasn't bad....more

Why Doesn't the Black Community Value Marriage?

Take a good look at this newly happily married couple. Notice something? See the baby bump? Yep, it was a shotgun wedding, but no one was worried about being wounded. Full disclosure: I know the parents of the groom. No way they were co-signing their grandchild being brought into the world illegitimately, but the truth is, that young guy is deeply in love with his bride. Here is another cultural difference that we just can’t ignore: while the out-of-wedlock rate is rising across the races, every other race EXCEPT for the black race values making babies within wedlock....more
j082298 FoxNews SheriffClarke It must be very stressful for women raising children alone. It's ...more

It Was Just A Date

  "It's just a date," I told my friends. "Juuuust a date. No more. No less. A date. A.DATE. I neeeeed to go out on a date. I need to have fun." ...more