Finding the Pet Lover of Your Dreams

For the single dog, or cat, owner dating can be rough. You worry, among other things: "Will they like my pet?" "Will my pet like them?" Is their apartment pet-friendly?"Slow down, says pet expert Charlotte Reed, who reminds singles that you need to take a step back and concentrate on what you are doing, or not doing, before freaking out about your pet....more

Another Weekend

Here it is, the end of another weekend.  Spent like most weekends these days.  Hours and hours of time spent alone.  With the exception of two short excursions to the store, all of those hours spent at home.  And it wasn't bad, it wasn't great but it wasn't bad....more

Why Doesn't the Black Community Value Marriage?

Take a good look at this newly happily married couple. Notice something? See the baby bump? Yep, it was a shotgun wedding, but no one was worried about being wounded. Full disclosure: I know the parents of the groom. No way they were co-signing their grandchild being brought into the world illegitimately, but the truth is, that young guy is deeply in love with his bride. Here is another cultural difference that we just can’t ignore: while the out-of-wedlock rate is rising across the races, every other race EXCEPT for the black race values making babies within wedlock....more
tlcarmstead ??  Black people used the most married demographic back then.  Lots of marriages. ...more

It Was Just A Date

  "It's just a date," I told my friends. "Juuuust a date. No more. No less. A date. A.DATE. I neeeeed to go out on a date. I need to have fun. Just.a.date." ...more

Chapter Two

She hurriedly shook that feeling and deftly released the sheet from the bed while simultaneously wrapping it the rest of the way around her, and glided to the adjoining bathroom....more

The M Word

You would think that with 100% Caribbean blood flowing through my veins like Meyer’s rum, I’d be better equipped to deal with this grossly sticky heat wave swamping NYC at the moment. You would, apparently be wrong. My current defense against heat stroke seems to be, “shut off brain, direct all blood flow to extremities, and please for the love of god find me a fan.” Hence, zero bloggage over the last couple days. My brain overheated and could barely handle its normal tasks, writing was out of the question....more

Can We 'Get Real' About Sex in Church?

A few weeks ago my close friend Tina called after a difficult week at church. Her pastor was preaching a series about marriage, and he was all about "getting real."From her perspective, "getting real" meant that he was about to talk about sex....more
 @LetThemEatGreat Totally agree with what you're saying here. I had some pretty tumultuous years ...more

Divorce Envy? Yep.

Sometimes I am jealous of divorced women. Oh, not for the reason you might think; not because they've had at least one husband and I've had none. I feel jealous of divorced women because they have more social capital than I do. They exist on a higher rung on society's status ladder than I do because I am an eternally single woman with no kids -- a spinster. By choice. There. I said it, I own it and life is good. I've built a pretty nice life for myself but people still look askance at me and my fellow spinsters from time to time....more

Is he waiting at the school gate?!

I want to share this article with all of you. My friend & I were reading an edition of Womans Weekly from 1961 and stumbled across this article in the 'love advice' section!Click on my blog link below to read!http://agirlslifesinglesuccessful.blogspot.com.au/2012/04/is-he-waiting-at-school-gate.html...more

Why, Oh Why, Didn't I Have Kids?

Why don't I have kids?  Because I never really wanted 'em.  They're not for everybody, something I tried to explain to a woman I met recently.  She looked at me like I was speaking a foreign language that she didn't understand.  And I guess I kind of was, because she has four kids and couldn't seem to shut up about them.  And, actually, she was more than just "a woman", she was a client so I felt it important that I be clear but oh so polite.  I would like her to hire me again…even though she probably thinks of me as 'that strange woman with no kids'....more
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