From A Martial Arts Family, A Son Shines

How Raising My Son is Like Dating an Asshole

Since becoming a parent I’ve spent an inordinate amount of time trying to analyze the whole new set of emotions that come with the job.  I knew that having a kid would take a lot of mental effort, but I didn’t realize it would be a form of psychological warfare.Lately I’ve been exceptionally confused by what I recognize as a slightly familiar feeling – one of aching love mixed with desperation and a dash of irrationality - and then it hit me: I’m in a totally dysfunctional relationship. Although instead of dating the guy, I’m raising him. ...more

Looking forward to meeting other mothers of sons at Blogher '15

I'm thrilled to be part of BlogHer '15. I can't wait to share my journey of teaching adult sons to cook with other moms. Hollace Friedman...more

17 Things for My Little Man to Know

I am a Mom. First and foremost. Every thought of my day is in some way tied to my son. He and I have been a team since the moment he was born and as I wander through my day I find myself thinking "I need to mention that to Treyson." Inevitably dinner, bath time, and everyday life gets in the way so today I compile the list... ...more

11 Truths I Want My Sons to Know about Love

Boys, let's be real. Love isn't always patient. It isn't always kind. It doesn't always forgive -- although that would be nice. Love isn't always steamy sex and a dozen roses. Those things are lovely, no question, but they're not the glue that holds things together when the going gets tough. Oh, you didn't know? The going always gets tough.In the not-so-distant future (despite your protests), your attentions will turn toward finding your life partners. I want you to be very clear on what romantic love is not:...more
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Midlife Crisis?

Growing up, I often heard the term "midlife crisis" swatted around like an annoying little insect.Dude bought a fancy new sports car? Midlife crisis.Dude up and left his wife? Midlife crisis.Dudette changed her hair color? Midlife crisis....more

Things I Could Teach My Son but That He'd Be Better Off Learning from His Dad

Moms struggle with their full mommy plates. We struggle with how much we do (getting kids dressed, combed, fed, clean-toothed, packing lunches, putting shoes on the correct foot - ours and our kids', telling the kids to not bite each other, and going to work) and then take on even more (taking on projects, buying presents for birthday parties, making doctor appointments, rescheduling doctor appointments, cleaning up, making dinner, working out, finding time to have a glass of wine and chat with our husbands... and friends......more

Ready, Steady

When it comes to the firsts, I’ve never been the best mom. Adam’s first word escapes me, as do Nicholas’s and Erin’s.  I know it was ma-ma or da-da, or some other monosyllabic chant that we appropriated and celebrated as an intentional word. But the details? Buried somewhere in memory, along with countless other things I failed to note in the almost-empty baby books that sit on my closet shelf....more

Yes and No

“Really, mom? It’s not like it’s the first time I’m leaving. Isn’t it easier now than it was last year?”That question came up as we talked about your move…six days and counting, now. You’d think it would be old hat by now, wouldn’t you, son? I love that you apply your stoic logic to matters of the mama heart, and if I remove myself for a second and look at it through clearer eyes, I can agree with you and see how silly I must look, my nose turning Rudolph red as my new companion, called ‘the ugly cry,’ crashes our party again....more
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