The week before Christmas, I noticed on a friend’s Facebook page that her husband had just suffered a massive heart attack over the weekend. My friend, Duchess Ocean Waves is one of my Ya-Yas, the small group of girlfriends I have know since elementary school. Immediately, I sent out a Ya-Ya alarm to rouse the troops. We all made calls, sent emails, left voicemails, and texted. The Duchess comes from a large extended family and she counts most people in her community as friends. We knew friends and family would surround her, but we knew she would be alone. We sent her a bouquet of flowers....more

On Lupus and the Spoon Theory

Spoons. Spoons from across the world arrived in my mailbox today. I wept. It is hard for me to put into words what this means to me. Some of you are probably saying... spoons? Erin... what the hell? ...more

And when I was diagnosed a bunch of people sent it to me... nwo I know. Now I am. ...more

Mothers; Find Your Tribe!

Mothers; Find Your Tribe!!Posted on January 3rd  Every woman needs a tribe. Again, I’ll mention my dear friend Marie Seiler. She knows. As one of three girls raised by a single mother, she watched her mother strengthened time and again by other mothers who listened to her when she was frustrated and loved her when she felt no one else did....more

Unapologetically Yours

; For most of my life, I have been a please-er. I was the kid that would burst in to tears if you so much as said NO to me.  The daughter of two ministers, I knew from a young age that I was to be a good example, so I tried to be the best example.  I became addicted to positive attention and did everything I could to be as perfect as a little kid can be or  a pre-teen, or even in to my teen years. However, we all learn eventually that the road to perfection only leads to madness. ...more

You're not alone. You should check out my profile for a statement that can be viewed very ...more

A families quest for a baby.


Making it Through My Miscarriage

This has to be the hardest blog post I've done. I've asked myself if it's the right thing to do. So many women want their miscarriage to be a private event. And mine is. But what's so difficult about the miscarriage--beyond the physical discomfort--is the emotional toll it takes. I've felt isolated with this. I knew it could be a possibility and once it was confirmed I've felt pregnant with guilt and hurt and blame. And suddenly everyone around me--good friends, 16-year-old girls, women at the doctor's office--is pregnant and I'm not. And there's a sense of shame that comes with that. Lots of blame. And questioning. Why did I tell people? Did I not want this pregnancy enough? Did I do something wrong? How come her and not me? ...more
I am so sorry for your loss. I completely understand. I had a miscarriage in November, and it ...more

Book Tour Week 2 - Support & Sisters in NYC

When I approached my book tour, I decided to focus on living in the moment. After all, how many people get to actually go on a 20 city book, traveling the country and meeting their readers? I wanted to really be present on this book tour, rather than freaking out about what might be ahead or reliving what might have already happened....more

Friends Are Forged in a Different Furnace Than Lovers

It's hard to make that space when someone you love is in danger. It doesn't matter what the danger is, the immediate response is to rush to them, pick them up, take them away and find a way to make everything fine. That's friendship. No questions. By land, air or sea, one word and friends are there with a .45 and shovel. ...more

This One's For the Girls

http://projectsupermom.blogspot.com/2010/10/for-girls.html As many of you are probably aware, thanks to the wildly successful pink-ribbon campaign, i...more