My Unflattering Truth

This is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but my truth. It’s also free therapy for me and maybe you too.To catch-up new readers here’s the gist:I was married for 7 years, we separated 8 months ago, and I have two kids from that marriage. I was unhappy for several years before we separated and, yes, we talked about it, went to counseling, read books, and on and on and on....more

kinder than necessary

kinder than necessary Be kinder than necessary ~ for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle....more

New Territory: Part 1

For whatever reason, I have not shared many of my dreams on here, even when they seem somewhat significant. I've always been of the belief that dreams were random pons firing in your brain when you're asleep, and sometimes related to whatever was on your mind before you went to sleep. Now that I've gotten more in touch my subconscious, I no longer believe that. I don't think you can necessarily take dreams at face value. For example, if you dreamed you were kissing your ex, it doesn't necessarily mean you want to leave your husband and have sex with your ex-boyfriend....more

Now what do I do after the abuse?

 Now what do I do? ...more

Stop Blaming Mother

A mother is a terrible thing to waste. To all adult children who point to their mother as the focal point of their life’s misfortunes, it's really time to grow up.Millions of adult children, some of them already grandparents themselves, still spend time and money on the therapist's couch, ruminating about everything their mother did or didn’t do, does or doesn’t do. These adults don’t see themselves as the imperfect human their own mother is....more

We Are People, Not Paychecks

As someone who has battled severe clinical depression for a number of years, I have visited many mental health professionals.  Lately it dawned on me that only one of those professionals treated me with genuine respect and compassion.  I believe that most qualified therapists are truly caring individuals who want the best for their clients.  However, there are just as many that are unethical and insensitive in their approach.  In some cases, it is clear that they are only in it for the financial gain, not because there is a true desire to help others. ...more

Are You a Hugger?

I am. I can't even imagine saying hi or good-bye to my best friend without giving her a hug. But there certainly have been times in my life where it has become painfully obvious that not everyone is....more

Mother's Little Helper

Anxiety and depression medication is for the crazy, the unbalanced, the weak.  I mean, there are songs about it, for God's sake.  Take Mother's Little Helper by the Rolling Stones, for example.  They some batty broads in that song.  And everyone knows, if it's in a song, it's true.That's what I always thought, anyway. ...more

the damage a bad therapist can do

A perfect and telling story of how concrete thinking works is currently taking place in our home when the therapists visit. We had a negative experience with a therapist several months back, I think I touched on it during one of my posts. Said therapist knew nothing of FAS and insisted on using the technique she used on her other clients. That involved playing (literally) with my son for the first couple of months during their sessions. When I say "play," I mean she would actually play on the trampoline, play catch, whatever with him in the guise of building a relationship....more

Precarious Living