"The Oldest Living Confederate Widow Tells All" War Told By A Woman

   The title says it all. This 1984 classic's told by a white Civil War survivor, 99-year-old Lucy Marsden, now living in a nursing home. Why should we care? Why should we reread it? Because Lucy haunts our modern life with every page.   Virtually every post on BOGHER describes the struggle of contemporary women facing current issues in their lives. William Faulker describes it as history:...more

Peace begins in my heart

These days there's a war being played out on my Facebook newsfeed in a polarized chaos of opinion and fact, fury and compassion, bigotry and heartbreak. In the midst of my own sense of powerlessness and disillusionment over happenings and viewpoints beyond my control, I felt as though I needed a reminder that peace, love, and light begins in my heart. Perhaps this will speak to you as well. Prayer of Saint Francis Lord, make me an instrument of your peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love. Where there is injury, pardon. Where there is doubt, faith. ...more

Antiques and Aggression

Sometimes the strangest stories get stuck in my head, back somewhere half-buried in the sand with just a glint of shimmer peeking out to catch my eye (thoughts) a few times a day. Sometimes when I am listening to a friend talk, I feel a deeper sense of knowing, or at least the potential to find a deeper understanding, and that feeling echoes throughout my days and nights until I'm ready to haul it out from the sand and give it a once-over. ...more

Lice: Letters from the war

My dearest Agatha,I miss you terribly, but I assure you that all continues to be well here on the battlefront. Thus far, skirmishes have been limited to soldiers in camp whom I am not familiar with, having never once had them to my side of the camp for a pre-arranged hour of rambunctiousness (with snacks). Almost weekly I receive anonymous notes that someone, somewhere in our camp, has been afflicted, and I am warned that I must remain vigilant. Happily, I continue to be pest-free....more

I Struggle With Memorial Day

I give thanks for the men and women who fought for my freedom and who continue to fight and protect this country. I'm a woman. I'm a Christian. I'm a writer who frequently publishes her thoughts on all sorts of topics and, generally speaking, I live free from the fear that I will face terrible trials, jail time, persecution or death for any of those reasons....more

The Rape of Men

***I am placing a huge trigger warning on this one. The article I have linked to is very graphic and extremely upsetting. Please, please, be careful reading it if you are a survivor.***...more

My Heroes

I was born in 1951.  They called that era The Happy Days.  Our parents generation made it through the Great Depression and a couple of wars.  Days ahead were promising to them.  My parents left the crowded neighborhoods of North Jersey and bought a home at "The Jersey Shore" - even though it was about a twenty minute drive to the beach.  Things looking good....more

Thoughts on Syria and Resources to Help Inform the Discussion

 I took a rare moment to unwind during the boys' naptime last week and actually turned on th...more

"...And We Broke Him"

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Freedom and Luxury and Self-Discipline

Before we watched the debates Monday night, we got to have a discussion at dinner about Self-Control. We were talking about how if we are able to control ourselves, no one needs to jump in and control us for us. This came, of course, after some rough-housing between the boys, and my husband having to step in and keep them from doing real damage at one point....more