Let's Not Call A Period Magical

I know it's here when I can't seem to pry my eyelids open to greet the day. My body has become one with the softness of the sheets and I want to swim like a bed mermaid all day. I look over at Tootsie (the Terrier), I can see it in her eyes - she wants to play the part of the dolphin. I nod in agreement.I never cared for any term to describe my "monthly visitor." Too many of the terms make it seem disgusting - Aunt Flow, on the rag, surf the crimson wave, ride the cotton pony. Hearing the correct term "menstruation" and my body starts to become limp....more

Whatever you do, don't get old.

Imagine if you were invited to speak at an event, and no one came. Or perhaps, for better or worse, just maybe, everyone came? ...more

One Of The Guys': On Cool Girls And Internalized Misogyny

I thought being “one of the guys” meant adventure and freedom from the oppression of a feminine life that didn’t quite suit me.“I’m not like other girls.”When I was younger, I wore that label like a badge of honor.I wanted to separate myself as a cool girl: the kind who could hang with the guys and take a joke, but still keep a stronghold on my femininity. I felt unique in my passion for martial arts, my affinity for Call of Duty, my go-with-the-flow attitude toward boyish adventures....more

40, A Short Story

40, A Short Story. It didn't feel like it. It didn't feel like this dramatic turning-of-the-page, entering-a-new-era, downhill-slide, visceral dread kind of moment....more

The Scary Reason You Can't Accept a Compliment

If you’re anything like me, a compliment typically induces one of two reactions: slight humiliation confounded by a deep-seeded fear that my complimenter will soon see what a fraud I am, and that he/she is in fact very wrong about me. Or, the alternative: flattered-ness with a side of distrust....more

It Ain't No Joke

Hello Internet World, Let's talk about sexual harassment towards women in the workplace. I realize as my first blog post for BlogHer, that this is a serious topic but I don't think I should wait to speak out on such an important issue. And really, there is no better time than the present!...more

To The Over 30 Crowd

This is late in the game. I know. In my defense I don't spend a lot of time online reading articles about design & fashion trends, or beauty, or parenting, or _________(you fill in the blank). Partly because I'm not interested in trends. Trends are disposable, I can't afford that. I have teenagers to pay for. Beauty? Most of those articles are written by young women for young women. Besides, I've been making my lipstick last since the first article I read about how to do that in Vogue when I was 13....more

For All You Gals in Your Early 20's

Your early 20’s are a time for change, a time for growth, a time for experimentation, a time for courage and a time for mistakes. So much is rapidly changing for you and you’re still trying to find your footing while not forgetting you’re still young. As someone no longer in her early 20’s I’d like to tell you what I learned from my early 20’s to my mid 20’s and offer you a little advice along the way.Take the time to know yourself…...more

Not Feminism ; but Realism

 She is a healer, creator and a designer. Even this is not a pre-planned post about feminism or society.. It turned out that those variables are in the same equation and cannot be separated.;World thinks that each Home sapience who carry two x chromosomes is a born feminist. Eventhough everyone ought to speak for her, her rights and her future, she is the volunteer spokesperson for herself and others.  A girl, a woman, a mother,  a leader; so many roles one chromosomes decide.Mother nature, mother ship even mother nucleus... so many words root from her. Over 50% of the world population. Yet, she needs a voice.That’s not because she hasn’t the voice, because her voice has been diminished over centuries.  Homo erects left females at caves and went hunting and exploring because looking after the offspring was her duty.. Ahem.. ditto even for today....more

Kimberly Jesika says Glamour is an Inside Job. Glamour Chics are not victims!

Kimberly Jessy here reporting in live from Hollywood, Ca. As a business owner, you listen to all the woes that people go through. After all you have to touch someone's heart before you can touch their wallet. People don't care how much you know till they know how much you care.I wan't to point out something to you tho. I heard a great blogger who I like and respect named "Evia Moore" say, Common Sense is becoming more uncommon. I liked that saying, so her mission has been helping women particularly in dating get back their "common sense"....more