The One Nosy Question That Can Send a First-Time Mother Reeling

When are you going to have another baby? I get this question quite often lately from everyone from co-workers to family members and even the check-out lady at Target. It's just small talk, and I understand that completely. It's one of those ...more

What Do I Tell My Daughter About Sandra Bland?

To my Little Magician: We’ll read this together when you’re old enough to understand. Motherhood has been an incredible adventure, but I have always been haunted by the guilt of bringing you into this world -- a world that has not been very kind ...more

Summertime, and the Kitchen Is Easy (Or It Will Be With These Dinner Tips)

Dear Mouthy Housewives, I'm too lazy to cook dinner for my family this summer, plus it's too hot. Any ideas? Signed, Kitchen Is Closed  ...more

After Devastation and Loss, My Rainbow Baby Is Here

Dear Ruby, If you would have told me a year ago that I would go a day without crying, I wouldn’t have believed you. If you would have told me a year ago that I would laugh without guilt, I wouldn’t have believed you. If you would have told ...more

4 'How To Be a Lady' Lessons My Daughters Won't Be Learning From Me

Dear Daughters The New York Times recently ran a piece about dads signing up for a special "clinic" at a hair salon to learn how to braid their daughters’ hair. The piece referenced girls on the playground, running amuck with hair that had clearly ...more

Is Blood Thicker Than Water?

"It's true love," my ex-husband said about his new girlfriend. Of course, he had spoken the same words to me. And for decades, I arranged my entire existence and created our family around that pronouncement. I also trusted my brother-in-law when he pledged a similar allegiance to me. When I first met my husband, I was surprised that he and his younger brother Jonah were more like casual acquaintances. Their parents had died years earlier and I had supposed that they would be tight, but that wasn't the case. ...more

The Baby Milestones That Matter Most

The day those two pink lines appeared, I felt the world stop moving. It was a wave of joy, fear, and squealing family phone calls. My brain was buzzing, and a giddy smile lingered across my mouth. I could hardly wait until my husband got home. He eventually walked through the door, exhausted after a 14-hour shift. The news exploded out of me. ...more

19 Difficult Questions About Parenting

There are occurrences in parenting that are puzzling to the mind. Sure, there are probably scientific reasons or results to a study that may help to explain some of these parenting phenomena, but still, moms and dads everywhere are thinking to themselves, what in the hell? Parents of little ones, do these unrelenting questions sound familiar? 1. Why do they hate to sleep? ...more

Savoring Summer

It has been a very long time since I have written. ...more

No Sugar Added Diet-Day #4

Paddleboated in downtown Indianapolis with a group of friends. ...more

first year flashback

How has it been one year already? I should probably be cleaning up from our day of excitement and partying in honor of Joe's first year of life, but I would much rather do a lengthy blog post about him, so I will. First I'll get the practicals out of the way, the stuff that only the parents and grandparents care about ....more

Nova Scotia Summer

Sometime in March or April I say to Steve (and myself), "Why do we live here?...more

Privacy: A Thing of the Past

In our social media driven world, there is a new power bestowed on all of us. We all have the ability, for better or worse, to make other people famous. Everyone is now a photographer, videographer, Facebooker, Instagramer, Tweeter, and/or Youtuber ....more

10 Things To Tell Your (Grand)children in July

If we do not talk to our children about the things that matterwe leave them having to wonder.Talk to your children about Citizenship in July...more

Charles Adler leaves the studio

My work brings me in contact with some really accomplished folks in media both here in Canada and around the world. I've had countless I-can't-believe-I'm-talking-to-this-person moments in my career, and the thrill never gets old.It isn't so much a fan-meets-idol thing, though. I've never worshipped celebrity, and I find the whole process of hanging on a well-known person's every word to be a colossal waste of time and energy ....more

Receive All the Good

The Italian Mama tells me how easily people accept disappointing things in their lives and how terribly they accept good things. Why do we do this? We doubt and question and fear the good things ....more

Kindness by the Foot(long)

Here's a feel-good story for you...Today I had the kids downtown for physiotherapy, and had to grab a quick lunch for afterwards since we had some running around to do. Subway seemed fast, cheap, and perfect. We made it just before we all melted into big puddles of sweat because it was SO HOT downtown today, and let me tell you that pushing a wheelchair is not as easy as it looks ....more


It occurred to me this morning that Sarah has been put to sleep four times in a little over a year. ...more