Remarrying and Blending Families After Divorce

The early days of the "blended family" projectSunday morning Benjamin came padding into my room -- make that "our" room -- around 7. "Mom," he said. "I was looking out my window and I saw a ... wait, what are those birds that are all red?"My brain ...more

The One Nosy Question That Can Send a First-Time Mother Reeling

When are you going to have another baby? I get this question quite often lately from everyone from co-workers to family members and even the check-out lady at Target. It's just small talk, and I understand that completely. It's one of those ...more

What Do I Tell My Daughter About Sandra Bland?

To my Little Magician: We’ll read this together when you’re old enough to understand. Motherhood has been an incredible adventure, but I have always been haunted by the guilt of bringing you into this world -- a world that has not been very kind ...more

Summertime, and the Kitchen Is Easy (Or It Will Be With These Dinner Tips)

Dear Mouthy Housewives, I'm too lazy to cook dinner for my family this summer, plus it's too hot. Any ideas? Signed, Kitchen Is Closed  ...more

After Devastation and Loss, My Rainbow Baby Is Here

Dear Ruby, If you would have told me a year ago that I would go a day without crying, I wouldn’t have believed you. If you would have told me a year ago that I would laugh without guilt, I wouldn’t have believed you. If you would have told ...more

It's Official: I'm Vocally Fried

Recently I read Ann Friedman’s salty piece in New York Magazine on "vocal fry," a way of talking in which you draw out the end of sentences or words with a low, raspy, creaky sound that comes from the back of throat. Like "upspeak" and "valley girl speak," vocal fry is a speech pattern or vocal tic -- apparently unique to women -- that seems to make the person using it (i.e., the young woman) sound immature, dumb, small, and not confident. ...more

Is Blood Thicker Than Water?

"It's true love," my ex-husband said about his new girlfriend. Of course, he had spoken the same words to me. And for decades, I arranged my entire existence and created our family around that pronouncement. I also trusted my brother-in-law when he pledged a similar allegiance to me. When I first met my husband, I was surprised that he and his younger brother Jonah were more like casual acquaintances. Their parents had died years earlier and I had supposed that they would be tight, but that wasn't the case. ...more

The Baby Milestones That Matter Most

The day those two pink lines appeared, I felt the world stop moving. It was a wave of joy, fear, and squealing family phone calls. My brain was buzzing, and a giddy smile lingered across my mouth. I could hardly wait until my husband got home. He eventually walked through the door, exhausted after a 14-hour shift. The news exploded out of me. ...more

The gift of free time

I am always struck, every time I spend any time in the company of school kids, by how little initiative any of them have. And I'm talking good kids here. Middle class, socio-economically speaking (though some are more privileged than that), good stable families, living in a good city with all kinds of opportunities, attending what are considered good schools and doing well there.Everyone agrees they're great kids. But put them in an unstructured environment and they do not know what to do. Literally. They sit around waiting for you, the Adult in Charge, to tell them what to do....more

Fibroids & Me.

I can still remember my diagnosis last year, "you have fibroids and needs surgery and it will be a C-section because its too large " said my private GYN And that's was that no other second options.  I've given birth naturally so this comes as a shock to me.  I'm thankful that it was not a grave diagnosis! Whew! Went for a second opinion to the hospital which  we have an ob-GYN facility that I'm actually employed to.  Bottom line, fibroids confirmed, needs to be taken out. This was the reason for my anemia and has been causing havoc for over a year undiagnosed....more

Why I let my kids watch The Little Mermaid

1996: Awkward small talk between me and a coworker I had nothing in common with. Him: So, big plans for the weekend? Me: I’m taking daughter to see Hunchback of Notre Dame ....more

Updates For Everyone

Millie Update: Millie is 6 days away from turning half a year old…and I’m just now getting around to posting about her five month update....more

A.J. gets her ears pierced!

Getting caught up post #2. ...more



Lego Fair and two sweet teas

While we've done a lot of traveling this summer, and the boys spent time at various day camps (some more than others,) Little Elvis still found time to submit a Lego...more

Soap Cloud Painting - Pop! Squirt! Splash! Book Launch

This sensory experience was a hit with all of my kids - from the 2 year old all the way up to my 9-year-old. I love it because it only requires a few simple ingredients that I already had in the house and it kept them all busy for almost an hour! Even preparing the activity is exciting and engaging for the kids.This post contains affiliate links for your convenience.This Soap Cloud Painting activity is part of the new book Pop! ...more

When I Realized That I Am OK With My Kids Growing Up

In the blink of an eye your kids grow up. This was said to me over and over and over AND OVER again from the moment it was obvious that I was pregnant with Pants. Friends, family, strangers, open letters on the internet - they all ...more