No Rainbows. No Butterflies. Reality of a Failed Adoption.

We were very busy in the month of May and June preparing for a little bundle of joy. A baby girl that we spent six months waiting for. A successful quick placement with a birthmother who picked us to be parents of her unborn child. A girl. I wanted a girl so badly, our whole family has boys. This was meant to be....more
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The World's Reaction When Queer White Moms Raise Adopted Black Kids

“Intersectionality” may be a new term, but it isn’t a new idea. It is the very thing Sojourner Truth was getting at in her “Aren’t I a Woman” speech in 1851. Black women in the United States have always known that “woman” was a complicated idea—their own “womanhood” often sacrificed to the “ideal” of white womanhood. ...more
rosemondpc If anything, their own identity questions just grow, don't they?more



Loving Claire

Where to begin?!?         Let's start with the blog. I love to write but that's not why I wanted to blog. I was grasping for an escape, an outlet, a place to forget the fear and anxiety I was battling.           When I showed up with a new almost one year in tow at soccer practice I recited what our adoption agency told me to say. "This is Libby. We don't know how long she will be with us. Our focus right now is reunification with her parents."...more

How My Kids View Their Mama

     I tend not to jump on the Mommy bandwagon for things.... but for every thing there is a season. And it's my turn to jump. There is a Facebook post that's gone viral that has you ask your child/children questions about you as their Mom while you record their answers. Naturally, these answers are chocked full of adorableness and grossly inaccurate information. So it only made sense that I interviewed my own children (the ones that can talk, that is), because they are both adorable and grossly inaccurate on most days as it is....more

Surprising Things I Learned in Foster Care Orientation

Now that my husband has started his career, it is time for us to start on our next journey. My husband and I have wanted kids for a LONG time. I have battled with my infertility ever since we tied the knot. In the last three years I have really accepted the fact of not being able to give birth to my own biological babies, so we have been preparing our heart for foster care. ...more
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Little Green

"There'll be icicles and birthday clothesAnd sometimes there'll be sorrow"Joni Mitchell, Little Green...more

Who Will Tell the Stories of Children in Foster Care?

Being a mom blogger, I read countless stories about the antics of toddlers and the pain of watching babies grow into rambunctious tweens. I’ve written my fair share of 10 Things I Want My Child to Know articles and how being a mother has changed me. However, as a social worker who previously worked with foster children, I can’t help but wonder: Who tells the story of a foster child? ...more
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Understanding National Foster Care Month

 By Dr. Nancy Heath, Program Director, Human Development and Family Studies at American Public UniversityMay is National Foster Care month. During this time, we are invited to celebrate the compassionate people who take on the joys and burdens of being foster parents, and the children whose lives are forever changed through the fostering experience....more

I am yours... A poem for my mommy

  Even though I didn't grow within you,I am yours....more