Should a Mother Lose her Child because of One Mistake?

Close your eyes and imagine this:Imagine that your beloved father dies suddenly and in your grief, you make a mistake. You drink too much and sleep with an old friend.Imagine that you become pregnant form this and, understandable, your significant other of 7 years is upset, but you really want this baby. You feel it is the last piece of your father coming though and you want to name this baby after him....more
Please, please, please, give this baby back. You know it is the right thing to do but someone in ...more

Is Adoption Really Loving Someone Else's Child?

Adoption is a large part  of my family’s life story, thus a well-meaning comment really took me by surprise. Read more. Kristina @orphantoadoption...more
Very well said!more

The First Days Home With an Adopted Child

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{Foster Care} Officially Foster Parents!

The time has finally come. We are officially foster parents…whoop whoop! We have finished all things that we had to do to get our house opened.It’s actually really funny because I remember earlier this month, I was talking to my husband and it seemed like we had so much to do. And I just wasn’t sure if we were going to be opened this month. But now, I can’t figure out what I was worried about....more

Facing Infertility and Embracing Adoption

I googled this phrase before adopting and didn’t find the answer I was looking for. So here’s the magic formula I wish someone had given me years ago – a big dose of humility. I know several couples who have complained or cried or tried to minimize their sadness about their inability to conceive. I’ve been there too. I spent many a night in tears about the unfairness and injustice of not being able to have a child. Add to that the majority of my waking hours were spent as the attorney of sometimes less than stellar parents....more
Beautifully written! Keep on enjoying the ride...more

How To Adopt a Kid Without Signing Papers

Several of you asked, "What's the story behind your kid who doesn't look anything like the rest of you?" I made a phone call, asked permission, and am now laying it all out there. The short answer to the question "How To Adopt a Child Without Going to Court" is by omission: When the birth parent doesn't give a shit. Simple enough? ...more
If there weren't people like you in the world, ready to stand up for injustice and care for the ...more

Control or Give Control

We went through a season where my husband and I found ourselves instinctively attempting to control our children’s behaviors. We were exhausted from battling outbursts and receiving calls from school. With each outburst, we made an unspoken assumption that one of our children was not capable of making sound decisions and therefore needed more control from us, tighter boundaries to help learn and form a moral compass.  In many ways, attempting to keep him close to us was the right choice.  It helped us facilitate a deeper attachment and connection. ...more
Such a great post! Thank you for sharing. Like you said, it's so important to empower rather ...more

An Adoptive Mothers Guilt

  Mothers Guilt, ever heard of it?If you never heard of it awesome, run away before it plagues you! There is the normal Mothers Guilt of...more
I totally agree! As an adoptive parent there is a lot of guilt (even if unnecessary). Thank you ...more

Living to have a Baby

How do you know when an adoption...more

The Most Important Thing You Never Knew About Your Baby

When my son was fifteen months old, my husband and I were invited to my best friend’s wedding in Jamaica. It would have been cost prohibitive to take my two kids along so I planned to leave my son and his older sister in the care of their grandparents and favorite babysitter. I was proud of myself for coming up with such a great solution.photocredit...more
Really interesting post. Thank you for sharing. Attachment is so critical and it's important to ...more