Close your eyes and imagine this:Imagine that your beloved father dies suddenly and in your grief, you make a mistake. You drink too much and sleep with an old friend.Imagine that you become pregnant form this and, understandable, your significant other of 7 years is upset, but you really want this baby. You feel it is the last piece of your father coming though and you want to name this baby after him....more
The time has finally come. We are officially foster parents…whoop whoop! We have finished all things that we had to do to get our house opened.It’s actually really funny because I remember earlier this month, I was talking to my husband and it seemed like we had so much to do. And I just wasn’t sure if we were going to be opened this month. But now, I can’t figure out what I was worried about....more
I googled this phrase before adopting and didn’t find the answer I was looking for. So here’s the magic formula I wish someone had given me years ago – a big dose of humility. I know several couples who have complained or cried or tried to minimize their sadness about their inability to conceive. I’ve been there too. I spent many a night in tears about the unfairness and injustice of not being able to have a child. Add to that the majority of my waking hours were spent as the attorney of sometimes less than stellar parents....more
Several of you asked, "What's the story behind your kid who doesn't look anything like the rest of you?" I made a phone call, asked permission, and am now laying it all out there. The short answer to the question "How To Adopt a Child Without Going to Court" is by omission: When the birth parent doesn't give a shit. Simple enough?
We went through a season where my husband and I found ourselves instinctively attempting to control our children’s behaviors. We were exhausted from battling outbursts and receiving calls from school. With each outburst, we made an unspoken assumption that one of our children was not capable of making sound decisions and therefore needed more control from us, tighter boundaries to help learn and form a moral compass. In many ways, attempting to keep him close to us was the right choice. It helped us facilitate a deeper attachment and connection.
When my son was fifteen months old, my husband and I were invited to my best friend’s wedding in Jamaica. It would have been cost prohibitive to take my two kids along so I planned to leave my son and his older sister in the care of their grandparents and favorite babysitter. I was proud of myself for coming up with such a great solution.photocredit...more