What makes a real family?

the definition of real From the Free Dictionary:re·al 1 (rē′əl, rēl)adj.a. Being or occurring in fact or actuality; having verifiable existence: real objects; a real illness.b. True and actual; not imaginary, alleged, or ideal: real people, not ghosts; a film based on real life....more

On Being A Conspicuous Family

When you see my family’s holiday photo cards, you’ll see that we all look roughly similar, except for my youngest daughter.  With her black hair and brown eyes amidst a sea of blonde-haired, blue-eyed siblings, she stands out as looking different from the rest of us.Not too long ago I was at my grocery store checking out when the cashier, looking at my youngest, asked me, “Did you kidnap her?”  Shocked and rendered speechless, I paid for my groceries and made a hasty exit of the store where I promptly called my mom to convey what had just transpired.  ...more

Thankful for Emotional Comfort

Thankful for the emotional space we have given both of our girls to talk about and share anything that comes to mind … last night our youngest told my husband how much she loves him, loves her family, her birth mother and all and how she was so thankful that S chose us to be her Mommy & Daddy, made us both teary....more

The discussion of nature and nuture

From WikipediaNature versus nurture: The nature versus nurture debate concerns the relative importance of an individual’s innate qualities (“nature,” i.e. nativism, or innatism) versus personal experiences (“nurture,” i.e. empiricism or behaviorism) in determining or causing individual differences in physical and behavioral traits....more

Why Our Child's Open Adoption Isn't Crazy for Our Family

We have an open adoption. A lot of people think we are crazy. (We also think we are crazy, but for totally different reasons.) Actually, maintaining a relationship with our son's birth parents is one of the least crazy things we have ever done. When the alternative is withholding a relationship with people who created him, it seems insane to do anything else....more
We are also an open adoptive family with contact with our 2 children's birthmothers. It is ...more

November is National Adoption Month

This week starts the recognition of National Adoption Month. Let me just first begin with some of my history working with adoption.  For two years I have worked with adoptive families, adopted children, foster families and foster children. I have worked in the intense child welfare environment known as child protective services as a permanency planning intern. During my undergrad for social work, I chose this placement because I wanted something completely different than what I really  wanted to do as a social worker (work with veterans)....more
Thanks for the post " adopting a baby is the precious gift of the god"  ...more

Storytime Adoption

Each night when my youngest goes to bed we read a story as part of our bedtime routine.  We have plenty of stories of her favorite cartoon characters, princesses and talking animals to choose from, but it’s the adoption books she loves best....more

The Baby Wait/Weight

Yes it's been years since we were in the waiting stage to become parents on our journey to parenthood, and yes our girls are now 8 and 6 years old. But I am still struggling with the Baby Wait/Weight. The weight I gained while on hormones and then being home while waiting and having food at the ready.Excuse 1,000,000,000 now that our lives are in the fast lane with school for each girl, after school activities and more our dinners at times are whatever the quickest to throw together can be.  Not the best way to eat nutritious I agree....more

A Stay at home mom

By definition;A housewife is a woman whose main occupation is running or managing the family’s home—caring for and educating her children, cooking and storing food, buying goods the family needs in day to day life, cleaning and maintaining the home,  etc.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stay_at_home_momThis definition a bit outdated, but still the basis of what people think a stay at home mom is. ...more
LLMom agreed!more

Can differences divide?

This summer our girls attended Girl Scout day camp.  This was their 3rd year there.  It is a great full-day camp that runs for 9 days in the hills of Berkeley in Tilden Park.  What was especially nice this summer, is at this camp our girls can reconnect with some of their friends from the town we used to live and moved from over a year ago.It's taken me a bit to digest the first week of this summer camp and why I'm sharing now in late September....more