"Baby" Veronica Is Growing Up: ICWA, 2 Families, & Now an Arrest

After the Supreme Court decided against a biological father in the so-called “Baby Veronica” case two months ago, I found myself worried not just for the family in the case, but for adoption in general. Adoption is riddled with misunderstanding and the mainstream media tends to exacerbate the problem rather than clarifying. ...more
I have a story of unjust adoption. My niece was sold away by a family friend and neighbor that ...more

"Mommy, When You Adopt Me, Will Your Skin Turn Tan Like Me?"

"Mommy, when you adopt me, will your skin turn tan like me?" My heart stopped as I looked into my son's beautiful brown eyes, as he expectantly awaited an answer from me. All the preparation in the world could not prepare me for taking his little hand in mine and trying to explain to him that no, we do not look the same, but we are family bonded at the heart. That his culture is one I am proud to be a part of. That he is special and gorgeous and unique just the way he is. ...more
All kids need that kind of love and acceptance. And it's how kids express that need reminds us ...more

Mami, am I Black?

“Mami, am I Black?” “No, Sweetheart. You’re Brown.” That’s not much of an explanation, is it? ...more

You Are a Joy and a Treasure

To my beautiful boy,I write you today, just because.  It is not a special day of any kind, and yet, I felt like I needed to say some things to you.  Even though you are 7 and not allowed on the computer without permission and you might never even read this, I write this to you so I can remember today....more

Reminder in the Mail

There goes the dream of having another child. The pain of a second failed adoption has taken 2 years to heal from. I need to write it, purge it, and pray about it, one final time. I haven’t written about this awful loss in our lives for years because it’s raw. And no matter how much I pretend to say I’m over it, the pain is still near the surface when the reminders rear their ugly head....more

Children's Book Giveaway!!! Free Book

Enter to win!  Children's book giveaway.http://www.adoptivemomma.com/2013/08/giveaway-time.html...more

Hang in There: A Blog about Waiting to Adopt

I never thought of myself as an incredibly impatient person, but I am becoming one.  Everyone keeps telling me “hang in there…it will happen.”  When…when will it happen?...more

Row: A Tale of Two Barren Women and Their Two Babies

Row: The Story of Two Barren Women and their Two Babies  ...more

BlogHer 13: What a Difference a Year Makes!

I'm in Chicago for the BlogHer conference.  I brought my sweet daughter with me.  She also went with me to the New York City conference last year. ...more

Going Home Again

What do they say? You can’t go home again? Or can you?...more