I wrote a piece before of the agony of waiting to adopt, not just for the adopting parents, but for all the extended family. As a family unit we dreamed, yearned, and grieved. That is over. And she is here.In June that beautiful, perfect, tiny little girl that we had dreamed of and prayed for and agonized over arrived. No special fan fare. No trumpets. No parting of the clouds with a choir of angels. She arrived in the usual fashion, and it was perfect.Now, our family is whole....more
My daughter can list all of the Kardashians, but somehow never noticed Angelina Jolie until Maleficent. She’d heard of Brad Pitt. She didn’t really know who he was, but knew he was very famous. She was very impressed when I told her he was Angelina’s partner. "Wow! She’s with him? I’ve heard of him!” She was even more interested in the story when she heard about Brad and Angelina Jolie’s adopted kids.
My male best friend and recent ex-boyfriend and I are two best friends looking to adopt from the U.S.A. I have high functioning autism and OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), anxiety, depression which I'm medicated for as well as Auditory Processing Disorder and Mild Mental Impairment. We're both kind, nice, sweet, trustworthy, loyal, friendly, sweet and honest as well as caring....more
Foster parenting contains, by its very nature, a strange dichotomy. On one hand, you're expected to love and care for a child as if it was your own. On the other hand, you're expected to let that child leave your home after weeks, months, or years - whenever the circumstances are deemed appropriate....more
Oh, vacation, you were magic. I feel like someone set the reset on whatever part of my brain controls giving a damn. Cheese danish for breakfast, lounging around in my bathing suit, sleeping in hours later than I should, letting the kids stay up late to chase fireflies and search for catfish by the docks, reading for hours on end....more
I’m going to chime in on the SCOTUS Hobby Lobby ruling because it’s my job to put my spin on todays hot topics, plus I know you are dying to hear my perspective.Maybe.But probably my take is just going to piss you off....more
I could write for days about how toddler adoption is different from newborn adoption. The bonding and adjustment process is night and day. But for now, I’m keeping things narrow:Sleep.Back in the day (before Doodlebug came in to our lives) I pictured a nice Chinese orphanage worker putting a child in my arms. This kid would be oh-so-delighted with a strange, loud lady getting in up in his grill. Two year olds like to be mauled by total strangers who squeal “I’m your mommy”, right?...more
The news media is full of stories of parents abusing and neglecting their adopted children and stories of mentally ill indivials harming others. As parent, I think to myself, how many of these parents have sought help for their children and not recieved it? Why aren't we hearing about that? Please, read my story. People need to know that there is very little in way of support and help for these children....more
Remember when your teacher told you, “The only dumb question is one you don’t ask.” That is not always true. This is a true story about dumb questions.
The checkout line is part of everyday life for most of us. I guess there are some snooty-falooty people out there that have “staff” to run their errands. For the rest of us peasants, standing in line at the store is a reality.
An interesting incident from January 2012 when I was still a new mom...We are in line at the grocery store, my five month-old daughter sound asleep in her baby carrier on the cart and me watching the woman in front of us unloading her cart's contents onto the belt. The woman is blonde, blue-eyed, petite, and pretty. The little boy standing next to her - probably five years-old or so - has to be her son because he looks exactly like her. He is adorable. I can't help staring at him....more