An Adoptive Mothers Guilt

  Mothers Guilt, ever heard of it?If you never heard of it awesome, run away before it plagues you! There is the normal Mothers Guilt of...more
I totally agree! As an adoptive parent there is a lot of guilt (even if unnecessary). Thank you ...more

Living to have a Baby

How do you know when an adoption...more

The Most Important Thing You Never Knew About Your Baby

When my son was fifteen months old, my husband and I were invited to my best friend’s wedding in Jamaica. It would have been cost prohibitive to take my two kids along so I planned to leave my son and his older sister in the care of their grandparents and favorite babysitter. I was proud of myself for coming up with such a great solution.photocredit...more
Really interesting post. Thank you for sharing. Attachment is so critical and it's important to ...more

Preparations

I’ve been thinking recently about preparing for a new baby.When I was pregnant with Menininho, I couldn’t buy much or set up a nursery because I knew we were moving across the country just weeks after he would be born. I bought a yellow blanket and a frog rattle, and that was it until we were settled in our new home.When J came we were in a tiny apartment, so he slept in our room. No nursery....more
Cute room. Fun post!more

The Unlikely Friendship of My Mom and Mother

Statistically, foster situations happen when one or both parents are completely incompetent for one reason or another. My mother wasn't incompetent, just overwhelmed. My father was an alcoholic who beat my mother. He was always in and out, sometimes gone for days (jail, most likely) and even months. Then one day, he didn't come back. He was just gone. I was five-years-old the last time I saw him. He said he would meet me on Friday at the bus stop. He wasn't there, and I felt devastated. ...more
Fantastic post! Thank you for sharing. Truly an amazing story.more

To the Brink and Back

The “D” word.I said the “D” word.Disruption. Despite my reservations, I let E go down for a week and a half-long visit with Bmom and his bio siblings. I couldn’t come up with a better reason for him not to go than “I don’t think it’s a good idea,” and couldn’t explain beyond that, so I caved. Next time I’ll know better, but you know what they say about hindsight. ...more

When a Couple become a Family | 8 ways to be Emotionally Prepared for Parenthood

Are you emotionally ready for parenthood?The recent tragic news of the death of one of the world’s most beloved actors and comics, Robin Williams, has left many of us reeling and wondering why people take their own lives. His battle with drink and drugs and the ‘black dog’ of depression is well-documented and sadly is not as uncommon as we may believe....more
JillR Hi Jill, We absolutely are a work in progress!  I'm reading The Conscious Parent at the ...more

You know you're an adoptive parent when...(4 things adoptive families have in common)

My brother is adopted.  My nephew is adopted.  Three of my cousins are adopted.  It was a normal part of “how you got kids” when I was growing up.  I got married at the tender age of 42 and the fertility sh...more

Hard Telling: Sorting Out International Adoption

It's interesting that, on the one hand, the U.S. government is tied in knots about children seeking refuge on our southern border and, on the other, is facilitating the adoption of thousands of children from dozens of countries by American families....more

An adoptee's perspective on adoption

I didn’t write this to spark controversy but the subject and the way I’ve approached it may bring it on anyway.  Other viewpoints in the comments are welcome.  Here we go....more