The Paradox of Letting Go in Foster Care

Foster parenting contains, by its very nature, a strange dichotomy. On one hand, you're expected to love and care for a child as if it was your own. On the other hand, you're expected to let that child leave your home after weeks, months, or years - whenever the circumstances are deemed appropriate....more

365 Days of Vacation Mindset

Oh, vacation, you were magic. I feel like someone set the reset on whatever part of my brain controls giving a damn. Cheese danish for breakfast, lounging around in my bathing suit, sleeping in hours later than I should, letting the kids stay up late to chase fireflies and search for catfish by the docks, reading for hours on end....more
Happy Virgo, 365 days vacation gal!  I too, as a Virgo love to have schedules...but believe that ...more

Another Side to the Hobby Lobby Verdict

I’m going to chime in on the SCOTUS Hobby Lobby ruling because  it’s my job to put my spin on todays hot topics, plus I know you are dying to hear my perspective.Maybe.But probably my take is just going to piss you off....more

Toddler adoption, sleep deprivation & Pottery Barn pimpin'

I could write for days about how toddler adoption is different from newborn adoption. The bonding and adjustment process is night and day.  But for now, I’m keeping things narrow:Sleep.Back in the day (before Doodlebug came in to our lives) I pictured a nice Chinese orphanage worker putting a child in my arms. This kid would be oh-so-delighted with a strange, loud lady getting in up in his grill. Two year olds like to be mauled by total strangers who squeal “I’m your mommy”, right?...more
Thank you for your comment.  It was a really hard time in our life, yet a really joyful time.  ...more

My Adopted Son Needs Help...and the State Doesn't Care

The news media is full of stories of parents abusing and neglecting  their  adopted children and stories of mentally ill indivials harming others. As  parent, I think to myself, how many of these parents have sought help for their children and not recieved it?  Why aren't we hearing about that? Please, read my story. People need to know that there is very little in way of support and help for these children....more
Crissa Yvonne That is exactly what I hoped to gain by writing this post. Thank you.more

The Checkout Line Makes People Ask Dumb Adoption Questions

Remember when your teacher told you, “The only dumb question is one you don’t ask.” That is not always true. This is a true story about dumb questions. The checkout line is part of everyday life for most of us. I guess there are some snooty-falooty people out there that have “staff” to run their errands. For the rest of us peasants, standing in line at the store is a reality. ...more
Lol, I havent adopted {yet!} but this still made me laugh. The things people ask!!!more

Transracial Adoption: One of these things is not like the other...

An interesting incident from January 2012 when I was still a new mom...We are in line at the grocery store, my five month-old daughter sound asleep in her baby carrier on the cart and me watching the woman in front of us unloading her cart's contents onto the belt.  The woman is blonde, blue-eyed, petite, and pretty. The little boy standing next to her - probably five years-old or so - has to be her son because he looks exactly like her. He is adorable. I can't help staring at him....more
Cynthia - thanks so much for taking the time to visit and to leave a comment. And, yes, in the ...more

The Boy Who Was Meant To Be Our Son

    The time had come for my husband and me to make a momentous decision that would change our lives forever. Both of us had grown up in big families; Mike had five siblings, and I had six. We both knew the joys and happiness of being part of a large family, and we wanted to have the same kind of family - with four children, at least. ...more

I'm Back (and Conversations with Esme...)

It's hard for me to believe that my amazing girl is almost three years old.And that I haven't written on this blog for more than two years. What the heck happened???Motherhood.That's what happened....more

Matchmaking and Adoption

I learned yesterday at work that when Orthodox Jews are “dating” (used loosely as it is more akin to matchmaking), they are not allowed to speak to other potential partners. Granted, this could be incorrect as I didn’t grill my friend about it. She was talking about a family member to another friend and mentioned that even though there was another very interesting young lady that he would be a good match with, he is currently committed to seeing if he is a match with another young lady....more