I Forgot My Son's First Words and Lied About It

First, let me say that I love my son. He has brought more joy to my life than I could ever have imagined. Good, now that we have that straight, I must confess. I don’t actually remember all of my son’s firsts. Nor do I have video documentation or an alphabetized library of scrapbooks as proof that my son did indeed take his first step or speak his first word. But, I can promise you that my now 15-year-old son is a walking, talking teen who can string sentences together and walk from place to place all by himself. ...more

I Gave My Daughter Her First Joint

I gave my daughter a joint this past weekend.I do not mean that to sound like it was no big deal, because it was not at all a casual decision. My daughter is almost 15 years old and a freshman in high school, and she has always been very open and honest with me.  Image: Rafael Castillo ...more
BlogHer - why? You have lost my respect in allowing this post, and glorifying illegal behavior. ...more

Shopping with Tweens and Teens Is Harder Than Shopping with Toddlers

The other day, I found myself at the entrance of Target with the task of buying a birthday present for the party that started in half and hour, along with picking up a few basic necessities, such as coffee, laundry detergent and toilet paper. “Can we go to the toy aisle?” “Yeah! Can we look around?” “Mmm hmm,” I mumbled, as I ticked off the fastest route through the store. “Go ahead.” I looked up a half-second later to see my tweens still standing there. “You can go by yourself,” I smiled through gritted teeth. ...more
I have begun the "campaign for school shopping" this week. I have informed the tween and teen ...more

I'm trying to survive puberty again. This time as a parent.

It all began on a mundane weeknight.She had just played in her first ballgame of the season. Supper was over and she had settled in at the dining room table for a game of chess with her daddy.I was in another room entertaining a puppy and a boy when I heard the drama coming from the other room.I was used to drama during their chess games.He's teaching her how to play and she is highly competitive and those two don't always go well together.  She loves the complexity of the game, he loves to see how amazing her mind works....more

When did my nerdy teen become an athlete?

I was not an athlete when I was in high school.  I did run track my freshman and sophomore year, but that was it for athletics for me.  I was the nerdy kid.  I was in the marching band.  And the concert band.  I played the clarinet my entire high school career....more

I Forgot My Son's First Words and Lied About It

First, let me say that I love my son. He has brought more joy to my life than I could ever have imagined. Good, now that we have that straight, I must confess. I don’t actually remember all of my son’s firsts. Nor do I have video documentation or an alphabetized library of scrapbooks as proof that my son did indeed take his first step or speak his first word. But, I can promise you that my now 15-year-old son is a walking, talking teen who can string sentences together and walk from place to place all by himself. ...more

Five Ways I Made My Daughters Cry in One Day

For as long as I have had children, people have commented about the hormones that were one day going to invade my home. I have always laughed it off, because it seemed so very far off in the distance. And although I listened to other parents talk about how at age nine their daughters started to change…a little bit more attitude, a little bit more tears, a little more moody — I didn’t take it very seriously.Because like most parents do, I chose denial as my force field, telling myself that my kids were different. I was different. Our journey would be different....more

How to help gifted children survive the middle school years

Just when life seemed manageable, middle school-aged children face confusion and uncertainty. Social demands, hormonal changes, and a burgeoning sense of independence challenge the self that once was. New worlds unfold, and the old rules from elementary school don't work any more. Neither child nor adult, they must discover who they are and how to define themselves....more

My Son Lost His Sister On Saturday - And Learned A Good Lesson In The Process

Something terrible happened to my son on Saturday. He lost his sister.Oh, don't worry – she's fine. And this isn't a case of David wandering off and getting lost from his sister, either. No, this is a case of David, using his words (yay!) in a way that could hurt someone (not so yay) and discovering there are consequences....more
JastrzebskiJ Thanks! I was reminded of the phrase "Be careful what you wish for."more

To My Daughter on Beauty

I've been having a lot of conversations on looks and fashion with my ten year old daughter recently.  She is not only at the age where she is beginning to notice these kinds of things, but is also standing on the edge of puberty and interest in boys.  It is a very tricky time to say the least.  So when a friend suggested the blog  prompt 10 Things I Know to be True, I decided to dedicate this post to her.  ...more

What do you do when your teen breaks the law?

Now for those of you who have been reading my posts for awhile, or following me, you know that the title of this post is somewhat provocative. You may be wondering, "What the heck happened?"  or "Who did that, what law did he break?"...more

The Training Bra

My sweet little thing is turning 12 in a month and this girl is changing! Not only emotionally, but physically. A couple of months back, her friends started wearing training bra's, so needless to say she needed to get one too. The funny part is, I happened to be excited, whether I believed she needed one or not. I was happy she came to me and asked. It was something I didn't do, I fought the puberty thing each step regarding the way. Things have changed for my baby girl. Puberty is wanted now. These girls are embracing it, and  generally rushing it....more

I Gave My Daughter Her First Joint

I gave my daughter a joint this past weekend.I do not mean that to sound like it was no big deal, because it was not at all a casual decision. My daughter is almost 15 years old and a freshman in high school, and she has always been very open and honest with me.  Image: Rafael Castillo ...more
BlogHer - why? You have lost my respect in allowing this post, and glorifying illegal behavior. ...more