"Mama, Will I Take Pills, Too, When I Grow Up?"

The complexities of raising a child when you have a mental illness. Every morning, my daughter and I have breakfast together. It's important to me that she has it every day; studies have touted the multiple benefits of having breakfast. Plus, she's honestly Linda Blair from the Exorcist when she doesn't have it. That's an added incentive. I either have oatmeal or cereal mixed with yogurt; she often has cereal, fruit, and yogurt. She drinks milk and I drink my coffee, just with cream. And beside my coffee lay my two magnesium pills (for my migraines) and my tab and a half of Prozac. ...more

My Mother and Liberace: Behind the Candelabra 

In my mother's last months, she often shared a story on how Liberace proposed to her with Elizabeth Taylor's 33-carat diamond ring. "He bought it for me," she explained, "but when I said no to marrying him, he gave it to Elizabeth Taylor. Then, because she was not a nice woman, she took that ring and gave it to Richard Burton so he could marry her. Richard was a handsome man, but he drank, very much. What kind of man proposes to a woman using her own ring?"...more
My Grandfather dated Ester Williams and we never knew the whole story. Who knows, she may have ...more

What People Really Look Like Behind Appearances

The other day, someone asked me on Twitter about balance -- and I knew they weren't talking about my Wii Fit yoga score. They wanted to know what advice I had on getting it all done. It being, all of "it." I sat at the other end of the screen, surprised, because Wow, do I look like someone who has it all together?...more
It was the same to me. I had to do a lot of things the whole week and I didn't watch TV at ...more

Sadness Watch 2015

Trust me, this is gonna have a good ending. Stick with me. I'm 50. I'm a daughter. I'm a sister. I'm a wife. I'm a mother. These things are good.  Except when things are not-so-good. My last What's Happening Twitter update was: ...more

Life Does Indeed Go On

People tell you that things happen for a reason, often when the situation lacks any reason at all. I've been thinking a lot recently about life and it's challenges. The way I see it is that you live, you love, you often lose but then you continue to find a way to pick up the broken pieces or smooth the edges again in order to live again. You find a way to see through the pain and almost catalogue it in such a mindful way....more

How to Remain Unbothered in a Dysfunctional and Chaotic Situation

"You have to learn how to care about people without taking on all their problems."-Phylicia RashadOn a daily basis I am free, unbothered and an unapologeticFLY Brown Girl! But this week, I've been practicing being unbothered, unapologetic and Nae Nae-ing (made this one up) myself away from bullish. Baby, it have been a uphill battle because I am dealing with some bothersome folks and situations....more

Three Reasons Why Change Takes So Long – First of a 2-Part Series

Change can be tough.  Here you have created a plan of action to make a meaningful change in your life and it just doesn’t seem to be taking hold!  You have everything you need: information, motivation and will power. It seems that it would be easier to leave things the way they are.  Why is it taking so long?...more

A Message For My Friends

Mental health problems can be so very isolating at times. Last week I was a bit of a social butterfly, catching up with three friends who I've not seen in far too long. Some days it's tricky, there have been times when seeing people has just been really hard and I've avoided certain social situations. This is a message to my friends.  To my dear and wonderful friends,...more

How to build and teach internal beauty to children and teens; quick tips from a family therapist

      Raising heathy and happy children in lieu of a fierce and ever present societal pressures and media reinforcing the superficiality of human beings becomes a task for parents to overcome in this generation. Parents appear to be struggling in modern time in knowing how to facilitate a creation of strong internal beauty and intrinsic values in their children and teenagers as opposed to external values....more

The Reason I Write

A few weeks ago, I was perusing the Twitter world and stumbled upon an adoptive mother's profile. It read this:“Hate my adopted kids. Please Help. Need hope.”...more

Mid-Life Crisis at 35?

Many people have that age, that number, that they have a hard time getting past for various reasons. For some, it's 30, for others it's 40, or 50....you get the point. For me, that number is 35....more