Zelda Williams, I Lost My Dad to Suicide, Too

“I love you. I miss you. I’ll try to keep looking up.” Sitting at my desk at work, I read the words on my computer from Zelda, Robin Williams’ daughter,  who tweeted about his death. For some reason I decided to look at the clock, I wanted to know what time it was... 8:38 AM. I lasted a little over 12 hours after hearing the news before it finally hit me. The night before, Trey had given me a hug and asked if I was okay. I said yes, which was true at the time but now it was different. Now I was not okay. “I love you. I miss you. I’ll try to keep looking up.” ...more
Thanks for your comment, I am still unsure if my dad was every properly diagnosed. I think he ...more

The Death of Robin Williams, And What Suicide Isn't

I was coming home from a long day of working when I saw the news on Twitter. Today, probably sometime this morning, Robin Williams, beloved American actor, passed away in his California home. The coroner suspects that he committed suicide, probably from asphyxiation. ...more
Thanks CraigDickinson, this is something I have lived with for a very long time. I am in a ...more

Things I Wish You Knew About My Mental Illness

This one goes out to the naysayers, the ones who insist that mental illness is "all in your head," that it can be "snapped out of." This one goes out to the people who can't fathom the darkness and can't understand the internal pain. Here are the things I wish you knew about mental illness. Here are the things I wish you knew about me and people like me, because we walk the streets beside you. We sit beside you in the subway. And we're your friends and family members....more
#StopTheStigma   Gracias for sharing, for being so honest and eloquent on a subject we want to ...more

So, you left your abusive husband and got a divorce. Now what?

 I’ve often rued the fact that there is no official step-by-step guidebook for divorcing your abusive husband, that you just do it with every ounce and muster of courage and drop of support you can find.  I was lucky to have a strong support network, full of therapy and attorney friends, and including my official therapist and official attorney, along with my extended friends and family.  First of all, it’s hard enough to admit that these terrible things have happened, these things that you’ve hidden f...more

Be totally true to yourself

Everyone and I mean everyone has something about themselves that they hate. Yes, that person who is super confident and a great person has something to hide. But, only you can make you happy. You cannot depend on someone else. You have something you don't like, change it. Work on it. Talk to someone you trust for some advice. ...more

Making The Great Sperm Race and My Menopause Meltdown: I Wasn’t as Nuts as I Thought

When I was asked to be a featured Scientist in the National Geographic documentary “The Great Sperm Race” (Sizing Up Sperm) a few years ago I was in full peri-menopausal meltdown, but I didn’t know it. I thought I had just lost my mind....more

Depression is Dangerous

I was there once.In fact I've been there a few times over the course of my life....more

Bye Bye Robin Williams

I'm helping my patient get settled and we both hear...BREAKING NEWS! This grabs our attention. Then I hear it and immediately my thoughts are "Oh C***!" Then my thoughts turn to "How sad, and he must have been in so much mental pain." Robin Williams has a warm place in my heart and in many hearts of others. For us here in the San Francisco Bay Area, we feel Robin Williams as one of our own family. He's lived here most of his adult life, he's played here, performed here, and made his mark....more

Working Towards Confidence

After I published a post last week on the importance of asking for what you want, I heard from a lot of you about your own experiences in the workplace. I heard from ladies in London, Paris, Bucharest, and Australia who told me about things that they wanted but didn't know how to ask for, or maybe were afraid to ask for. ...more

Some Good Things Should Never Ever Come To An End | RIP BKS Iyengar Guruji

It was 7 years ago that I moved to Pune & it has been that many years when I was introduced to Iyengar Yoga.In India there are many forms of Yoga being promoted and everyone is coming out with books, DVD, Youtube videos by dozens. From a practitioner to an actress, everyone is jumping on the Yoga wagon....more

:: LIFE :: Soldier of the Spirit

Last week brought us heartbreaking news and spurred numerous conversations on a very delicate subject. Of course I shared the same anguish that swept across the world when I heard the unsettling news of Robin Williams’ death, but I didn’t think to write about it until I came across a link to an article that I found to be rather serendipitously timed. The more I thought on it, the more the combination of the two events compelled me to put my thoughts into writing. My goal in doing so is not to try to explain away a death....more

Maggie: Our Adoption Story

We quite suddenly adopted a dog two days ago. My husband was wary of me visiting the dog adoption clinics at a local pet store, and I assured him I wasn't ready for a dog....more