10 Ideas Guaranteed to Improve 'Date Night'

Admittedly, some of the dates I've planned have not gone as well as intended.  Trust me, the art fair in the rain is less romantic than it sounds.  And camping was not a huge success with my resort-loving husband.  Occasionally, ...more

The Best Sex I Never Had

A very strange thing happened last night. It caused me to feel off, unbalanced, and a little lost. I openly admit, I didn’t know what to do. I haven’t been is this situation in such a long time, I was momentarily overtaken with extreme confusion. I ...more

The Day My Husband Became My Running Partner

On Saturday night, my husband looked at me and said, “You should go to bed babe.”He knew I had to be up early. The next day, I would be running my first half marathon ever. I was a total asshole to him that afternoon and he didn’t even mention it. ...more

I Asked 6 Guys To Dinner and They All Said No

When I started my blog, I saw myself as Carrie Bradshaw. Reality check: I'm Bridget Jones.If a semi-attractive girl with a fun job, sparkling personality, and killer (or so I’m told) smile, asked you to be her date for a five-course wine pairing ...more

Should Married Couples Have Separate Bank Accounts?

There’s really no ideal way for couples to merge their finances together once they’ve said their “I do"s (or even before the vows have been said), however to avoid future financial communication issues it’s important to have the conversation about ...more

10 Ideas Guaranteed to Improve 'Date Night'

Admittedly, some of the dates I've planned have not gone as well as intended.  Trust me, the art fair in the rain is less romantic than it sounds.  And camping was not a huge success with my resort-loving husband.  Occasionally, though, we hit it out of the park....more
I know what works..a Margaritsmore

The Best Sex I Never Had

A very strange thing happened last night. It caused me to feel off, unbalanced, and a little lost. I openly admit, I didn’t know what to do. I haven’t been is this situation in such a long time, I was momentarily overtaken with extreme confusion. I was befuddled. Perplexed. Thrown off my game.I know you're dying to know what I'm talking about.Are you ready for it?My kids both spent the night out.Are you catching this?Jon and I were home, alone, last night. WITHOUT OUR KIDS....more

The Day My Husband Became My Running Partner

On Saturday night, my husband looked at me and said, “You should go to bed babe.” He knew I had to be up early. The next day, I would be running my first half marathon ever. I was a total asshole to him that afternoon and he didn’t even mention it. With a kiss, he sent me off. The race started at 7 a.m. I’d planned to be there at 6 a.m. to stretch, jump in on the Black Girls Run! group photo, meet my running partner Ashley, use the port-a-potty twelve times, and do all of the other crazy things runners do before races. ...more
Totally written from the heart! May you always "run" together!more

Divorce Poison. A book ever divorced parent with shared custody needs to read.

I had to share a book I’m reading right now and that every parent going through a divorce absolutely needs to read. The book is Divorce Poison: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashingby Dr. Richard A....more

It Really Doesn't Get Easier

     It started when my first born was a baby,"It gets easier," they would say to me. I heard it all the time, and I kept waiting for it. When Turbo was 11 months old, I found out that I was pregnant with the Toolman, and I kept hearing it from other moms; I trusted them. They lied....more

A man who makes me laugh

 I was rinsing shampoo when Mr. T came into the bathroom, looking pleased as punch. I glanced at him and he pointed to the sink where he'd placed a container of mayonnaise....more
LOLOL.  I would have never guessed.  It's awesome that he makes you laugh.  It's the number one ...more

Only in The Best Interest

 Only in the Best InterestThe child sees her mommy sadMommys rights taken awaybecause of her Dad...more

Shuffling our kids around

My parents separated and divorced when I was in junior high school. Although I am not sure of the exact terms of the custody arrangement, I can say that my brother and I lived with our Mom and visited our Dad for a few weeks during the summer. I am pretty sure this was because we lived in South Carolina and my Dad lived in Indiana. ...more

'Smart Love' - Love Secret #1: Ditch the Crazy Falling And Climb Intelligently Into Love

Everyone wants to fall in love. It is portrayed as an uncontrolled plummet into a spectrum of emotions that make us do crazy things – both good and bad. It is a cruel situation, for, if falling in love is uncontrollable then the one thing that everyone wants can’t be bought, won or even charmed with a magic potion....more

Why a 5 yr Marriage Plan Could Benefit Your Relationship

I remember telling my boyfriend, now fiance (and father to our child) that he had 5 years to propose. See, we were only 23 and 24 years old when we met, so there was no rush to get married anytime before that....more

My Marriage is a Teenager

Last week, I traveled with my husband, our two boys, and my brother to a small town in Indiana to celebrate and memorialize the life of my grandmother Gigi who passed away last November.  It was a bittersweet weekend, as family gatherings around funerals tend to be.  We lamented the fact that we only gather under the saddest of circumstances, but there was joy in the gathering nonetheless.  We told storie...more

Cinco de Mayo...Eat, Drink & Marry...Like an Egyptian?

So, today, May 5th, is my wedding anniversary. Yes, I did that on purpose.Since becoming aware of men, and their challenge with details such as remembering dates...it only made sense to me to choose a date for us to get married that landed on a holiday. A holiday often celebrated with...eating & drinking. And since we met in the City of Angels, so close to the border of Mexico, and in a city where the ethnic majority is Latino and Hispanic, well, it just made sense. Yep, he's a Mexican Angel....more

Who's really writing the story? The fiction you or the non fiction you..

Can writers have relationships too? Of course they can. We see many writers who maintain healthy relationships that have become lifelong commitments with an added value of experience as well as excitement because of their creative abilities. At the same time, the trials that the writers face in relationships seem to be much of the same across the board. Not so much with regard to their need to stay up late and write during the times that everyone else is asleep or the mental/physical spaces that they need to go to in order to focus on their next masterpiece....more