I Survived an Abusive Relationship, But Many Women Don't

This post is dedicated to my online friend Jill Thomas Grant, who was found murdered, December 23, 2013, as well as all the other victims of domestic abuse. I warn you, this post will be long, but it's of most importance you read this and take what I ...more

4 Ways Stilettos Can Spice Up Your Marriage

 Image couresy of Married-and-Naked A little while back I asked my husband, "Is there any way that I can be a better wife for you?" ...more

The Silencing of Sexual Liberation

We should consider ourselves fortunate that we live in a time when more people are openly discussing issues related to sex, sexuality, sexual freedom, and the promise of sexual acceptance for all, by all.  There was a time when any such ...more

5 Online Dating Characters You Should Avoid

Online dating is becoming increasingly popular these days and for good reason. Finding a partner via dating websites can be very successful for thousands of singletons who are more comfortable being matched with people online than just heading out ...more

Are We Addicted to Porn? Is That... Bad?

The deepest looks into the intmacy of other human beings, I believe, is a subject of common intrigue. We watch romantic films, read romance novels, and try to imagine ourselves in the arms of the attractive protagonist. Where, however, does this ...more

I Survived an Abusive Relationship, But Many Women Don't

This post is dedicated to my online friend Jill Thomas Grant, who was found murdered, December 23, 2013, as well as all the other victims of domestic abuse. I warn you, this post will be long, but it's of most importance you read this and take what I say with heart. October is National Domestic Abuse Awareness Month, but to me, a previous victim, I feel its awareness should be felt around the world on a daily basis....more
It is so sad and shocking to hear stories like this. But you are very brave and sounds like you ...more

4 Ways Stilettos Can Help Spice Up Your Marriage

 Image couresy of Married-and-Naked A little while back I asked my husband, "Is there any way that I can be a better wife for you?"...more

5 Lessons I Learned During My First Marriage

If only I knew then what I know now. But do I know it all now? No, but I have been a Marriage and Family Therapist for over 30 years. And perhaps more importantly, after a divorce, I have been married to a great guy for over 20 years. I married young and have learned things since then that would have made my life so much easier. I was in love and eager to start my life. You may be in the same situation and wonder what would make you feel safer to make the all-important promise about spending your life with someone you are attracted to now. ...more
Such great insight, especially "what happens when stress enters the picture." I find that it's ...more

I'm glad my heart got broken

I was sixteen when I fell in love for the first time - or at least, I thought I had. We were childhood sweethearts; spent our first date and the many after in Mr Tucker's detention room at lunch break, drawing on pen tattoos and painting each other's nails with tippex. I was sure we were going places; I just didn't know where. Unfortunately, my teenage romance couldn't go further past the school gates and it ended as quickly as it had started....more

Dare to Be Assertive - Be the First to SMILE

Recently, I attended a social event and had the opportunity to meet and talk to a really nice woman.   We ate and had a delightful discussion during the course of a murder mystery play....more

When Should I Start Dating Again?

Dear Lisa,...more

8 Qualities Every Woman Should Look For in Her Dream Man

A lot of girls grow up dreaming about Mr. Right. He goes by many names – Mr. Perfect, Prince Charming, The One – but in essence, he’s a compilation of the ideal job, physique, and personality, as perceived by each individual girl. The problem is, our notions of the perfect prototype often hold us back from finding a true connection, since no real man can live up to those impossible standards. As we grow up, we realize that the qualities we previously overlooked are the ones that really matter....more

Mirrors and Teachers

There are people I love who are easy to be around, and others I love who are more difficult for me....more

How Well Do You Understand Yourself?

 In the last few days I’ve had some really cool stuff happen in my life.  I’ve finished a project I’ve been working on for weeks.  I’ve gotten some very good news about big money coming my way.  I’ve made plans for some epic summer adventures. We’ve had weather that heaven would envy, and I’ve had a lot of time to enjoy it outside.  It’s been boatloads of awesome stuff coming my way, and…...more

I Survived an Abusive Relationship, But Many Women Don't

This post is dedicated to my online friend Jill Thomas Grant, who was found murdered, December 23, 2013, as well as all the other victims of domestic abuse. I warn you, this post will be long, but it's of most importance you read this and take what I say with heart. October is National Domestic Abuse Awareness Month, but to me, a previous victim, I feel its awareness should be felt around the world on a daily basis....more
It is so sad and shocking to hear stories like this. But you are very brave and sounds like you ...more

4 Ways Stilettos Can Help Spice Up Your Marriage

 Image couresy of Married-and-Naked A little while back I asked my husband, "Is there any way that I can be a better wife for you?"...more

5 Lessons I Learned During My First Marriage

If only I knew then what I know now. But do I know it all now? No, but I have been a Marriage and Family Therapist for over 30 years. And perhaps more importantly, after a divorce, I have been married to a great guy for over 20 years. I married young and have learned things since then that would have made my life so much easier. I was in love and eager to start my life. You may be in the same situation and wonder what would make you feel safer to make the all-important promise about spending your life with someone you are attracted to now. ...more
Such great insight, especially "what happens when stress enters the picture." I find that it's ...more

How to Spot a Lie

I recently heard from a client I hadn’t talked to in several months.  She was almost in tears when she said, “Lisa, I just want to know one thing.  I want to know how to spot a lie.”...more