10 Ideas Guaranteed to Improve 'Date Night'

Admittedly, some of the dates I've planned have not gone as well as intended.  Trust me, the art fair in the rain is less romantic than it sounds.  And camping was not a huge success with my resort-loving husband.  Occasionally, ...more

The Best Sex I Never Had

A very strange thing happened last night. It caused me to feel off, unbalanced, and a little lost. I openly admit, I didn’t know what to do. I haven’t been is this situation in such a long time, I was momentarily overtaken with extreme confusion. I ...more

The Day My Husband Became My Running Partner

On Saturday night, my husband looked at me and said, “You should go to bed babe.”He knew I had to be up early. The next day, I would be running my first half marathon ever. I was a total asshole to him that afternoon and he didn’t even mention it. ...more

I Asked 6 Guys To Dinner and They All Said No

When I started my blog, I saw myself as Carrie Bradshaw. Reality check: I'm Bridget Jones.If a semi-attractive girl with a fun job, sparkling personality, and killer (or so I’m told) smile, asked you to be her date for a five-course wine pairing ...more

Should Married Couples Have Separate Bank Accounts?

There’s really no ideal way for couples to merge their finances together once they’ve said their “I do"s (or even before the vows have been said), however to avoid future financial communication issues it’s important to have the conversation about ...more

10 Ideas Guaranteed to Improve 'Date Night'

Admittedly, some of the dates I've planned have not gone as well as intended.  Trust me, the art fair in the rain is less romantic than it sounds.  And camping was not a huge success with my resort-loving husband.  Occasionally, though, we hit it out of the park....more

The Best Sex I Never Had

A very strange thing happened last night. It caused me to feel off, unbalanced, and a little lost. I openly admit, I didn’t know what to do. I haven’t been is this situation in such a long time, I was momentarily overtaken with extreme confusion. I was befuddled. Perplexed. Thrown off my game.I know you're dying to know what I'm talking about.Are you ready for it?My kids both spent the night out.Are you catching this?Jon and I were home, alone, last night. WITHOUT OUR KIDS....more

The Day My Husband Became My Running Partner

On Saturday night, my husband looked at me and said, “You should go to bed babe.” He knew I had to be up early. The next day, I would be running my first half marathon ever. I was a total asshole to him that afternoon and he didn’t even mention it. With a kiss, he sent me off. The race started at 7 a.m. I’d planned to be there at 6 a.m. to stretch, jump in on the Black Girls Run! group photo, meet my running partner Ashley, use the port-a-potty twelve times, and do all of the other crazy things runners do before races. ...more
Totally written from the heart! May you always "run" together!more

My Marriage is a Teenager

Last week, I traveled with my husband, our two boys, and my brother to a small town in Indiana to celebrate and memorialize the life of my grandmother Gigi who passed away last November.  It was a bittersweet weekend, as family gatherings around funerals tend to be.  We lamented the fact that we only gather under the saddest of circumstances, but there was joy in the gathering nonetheless.  We told storie...more

Cinco de Mayo...Eat, Drink & Marry...Like an Egyptian?

So, today, May 5th, is my wedding anniversary. Yes, I did that on purpose.Since becoming aware of men, and their challenge with details such as remembering dates...it only made sense to me to choose a date for us to get married that landed on a holiday. A holiday often celebrated with...eating & drinking. And since we met in the City of Angels, so close to the border of Mexico, and in a city where the ethnic majority is Latino and Hispanic, well, it just made sense. Yep, he's a Mexican Angel....more

Who's really writing the story? The fiction you or the non fiction you..

Can writers have relationships too? Of course they can. We see many writers who maintain healthy relationships that have become lifelong commitments with an added value of experience as well as excitement because of their creative abilities. At the same time, the trials that the writers face in relationships seem to be much of the same across the board. Not so much with regard to their need to stay up late and write during the times that everyone else is asleep or the mental/physical spaces that they need to go to in order to focus on their next masterpiece....more

10 Ideas Guaranteed to Improve 'Date Night'

Admittedly, some of the dates I've planned have not gone as well as intended.  Trust me, the art fair in the rain is less romantic than it sounds.  And camping was not a huge success with my resort-loving husband.  Occasionally, though, we hit it out of the park....more

I Want To Be Over My Ex

My ex and I have been officially broken-up for the past two months, and I'm still not completely over him. Some days I feel like I don't miss him at all, and other days I feel like I want to call him up to ask how we can make it work.I knew going into the relationship that it was not going to be forever, that was mistake number one. I thought I could handle it, it would be fun while it lasted and I would be ready and able to move on when it was done. Mistake number two, was letting it go for as long as I did 1 1/2 yrs.  This break-up was rough....more

Skip the Small Talk

I read somewhere that couples who have deep conversations are far likelier to be happy than couples who always keep it light.  Researchers report that the happiest couples have twice as many substantive discussions -- and far fewer superficial ones -- as the unhappiest couples....more

Escape Is Not An Option - Or How I'll Never Write The Memoir That Gets The Movie

Oh Cheryl Strayed. Oh, Elizabeth Gilbert. I want to be you. ...more

Just a little water and sunshine is all a seed needs......

 I left you all right as Kevin had sent me a message via social media after 20 years.  20 years! So why in the world do I have butterflies creating a tornado in my belly with their violently flapping wings?  Do all women feel like this when reconnecting with the guy that popped their cherry?  Or maybe a better question is how many women actually reconnect with the guy that popped their cherry? To recap….Kevin: “Howdy stranger”...more

Amor Sin Limites

“You’re rulin’ the way that I move and I breathe your air. You, only, can rescue me. This is my prayer. If you were mine…if you were mine, I wouldn’t want to go to heaven…”...more

Should we trust our men

dating what even is the word dating? How can we tell if our man is lying to us? he sends all the rights texts you know the ones... I love you.. Your the one for me.. Your the best thing thats ever happened to me..  Is this because we put up with there constant bullshit, the dirty underwear constantly left on the bedroom floor? Ever wonder what's really going through there mind.... I do.Maybe they just tell us what we want to hear..or maybe we just hear what we want to. ...more