There are no wrong decisions.

When I was 24, I was broke and single. I was doing what I loved working 60-hour weeks. That summer, I was a bridesmaid in three weddings, and attended three more as a guest.I had dates and a few relationships scattered over the years, but not one time did I picture myself in a house with a white picket fence and a husband and some kids. Even in the flurry of bouquets and cakes and wedding melt-downs, I never felt the urge to pair up. I was happy on my own....more

No Mud. No Lotus.

“Just like the lotus we too have the ability to rise from the mud, bloom out of the darkness, and radiate into the world.” Author UnknownI don’t go to this place very often. I don’t go there because it’s dark and heavy. I don’t go there because I am such a lover and believer in the perfection of the journey. I don’t go there because I really have forgiven myself. ...more

I’m Not Desperate-- I Just Want a Date!

I have a friend that recently went through a bad break-up. You know the kind where everything is alright and then out of nowhere you get the "Dear Jane" speech? Well that’s what she got; “It’s not you it’s me” just out of the clear blue sky. Now she’s out here trying to do everything to fill the black hole the break-up left her with....more
I met a nice guy at my job. Which was nice. That online stuff is scary and I am always ...more

Dating Lessons from a Cut-Rate Flounder

 I overdid the on-line dating thing and am now in recovery.    I have killed off my avatar of amour, my doppelganger of dating.  I 'm no longer on any sites, my phone is quiet in the evenings and I have stopped over-using the emoji library.   Since we are mortal and I hate to think it was all a waste of time, here is what I learned from my time as Ladywriter99 on Tinder, Plenty of Fish, J-Date and OK Vapid.  1.  My Time is valuable...more

Insecurity and Nervousness Squared or Just Narcissism Much?

The next guy I’m going to tell y’all about from my first year online I nicknamed Ian the Indian even though his name wasn’t Ian. Nor was he Indian. And if you’re actually surprised about either of those sentences, I have to ask: have you read ANY of my other posts? ...more

Leading Infidelity Dating Site, Ashley Madison, Was Hacked

According to The Guardian, Ashley Madison, the popular dating site for people looking to have extramarital affairs, was hacked by people claiming they want the site shut down completely. It is believed to be an inside job, but that has not yet been confirmed....more
Well if there is one website I don't mind getting hacked is THIS ONE!more

Dating: It Just Took Two “Weird” Experiences to Figure Out What the Most Potent Red Flag Is! And it’s not what you think!

I am a 28 year woman and I discuss dating (or rather the possibilities of it in my life) with my best friend. And she does the same. We have been friends since nursery and have discussed love, intimacy, dating and flirting with each other—quite naturally without feeling the need for censorship. I haven’t been in a serious relationship all my life while she has had two of them. However, we do discuss “men” in our lives and every time we do so, it’s me who comes up with the right prediction while discussing her relationships and vice versa....more

I Like Being a Single-And-Not-Looking Mom

I'm a single mother. You would think that if anyone could avoid holding stereotypes about single moms, it would be me. Nonetheless, when I hear the term "single mom" thrown around as shorthand by politicians or journalists, I follow them right to the stereotypes they're abusing....more
Great post Sadia! I totally agree that the term "single mother" automatically makes you think of ...more

I wonder where?

Its seems that's now and days dating just You never know rather its true love or as if they are trying to hit it and leave it. Its like men now and days are mostly all the same. Different faces and different voices but all the same intensions. Its hard to see under the mask they so well wear upon there faces. Their words make you feel loved and wanted and make you feel as if you may actually be important and exist in the world or to them. The first date its the best well at least in most cases....more


Since my friends got a kick out of my "LIST" that I wrote when I was 22, I decided to  write a new list for my single girls to follow. Now I am a 30 year old, so my friends are over 27. This is the list you should follow.  Because THE QUEEN said so....more