Falling In Love Again After Divorce

After getting divorced many years ago, I never dreamed of getting married a second time. I had a household of three children who were all under the age of ten. Being a single parent is a very hard job and having a relationship just complicates things. I am one of those women that you would call a "soccer mom". I have my children in private schools, music, sports, and just regular old family time. Back then, we would leave home at 6 am every morning and most nights get home after 7 pm. After 7 pm there was no time to do anything but have dinner, take baths, and go to bed....more

Surviving Our First Fight As a Married Couple

We were married in May of 2003.  We were both twenty one years in age, looking back now we were so very young, my thinking then why wasn’t I married sooner.  It is amazing how you age and grow and until then have no clue of what adult life is like even though you think you have it all figured out....more
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Domestic Violence Awareness Month: The Impact of Emotional Abuse

There is no agony like bearing an untold story inside of you.” Maya AngelouOctober is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I’ve wanted to address the subject of emotional abuse for some time on my blog. I recently made a couple of new friends and heard their stories, and it’s prompted me to share some difficult things with you....more
Men can also be in abusive relationships.more

Wedding photos

Sometimes here on Boots and Saddles we take a momentary detour from endurance and ponies to rejoice or morn in life's moments.Today we do the happier of the two.For those of you following along in my wedding preparations, here's the final product!  We *finally* got the pro photos back this week and I scanned a couple in for you, My Dear Reader....more

Marry Someone You Can Dance With

My parents-in-law recently celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary and all their six children decided to throw them a big party to mark this major milestone. Five decades of marriage. ...more

On Loving Someone Who Deploys

My boyfriend’s job requires that he leaves me, much like a deployment within the military would. He is former military and has been hardwired for the excitement that this lifestyle and type of work brings to the table. The work he does now is very similar to the work he did in the military and includes all of the same risks. People who work within his field are in danger. The job requires years of experience and specialized training—only a small niche of men meet these requirements....more

Love is a choice

Throwback Thursday: lessons from a harder time:...more

Falling In Love Again After Divorce

After getting divorced many years ago, I never dreamed of getting married a second time. I had a household of three children who were all under the age of ten. Being a single parent is a very hard job and having a relationship just complicates things. I am one of those women that you would call a "soccer mom". I have my children in private schools, music, sports, and just regular old family time. Back then, we would leave home at 6 am every morning and most nights get home after 7 pm. After 7 pm there was no time to do anything but have dinner, take baths, and go to bed....more

A BEAUTIFUL MESS

My husband and I will be celebrating another wedding anniversary next month; and every year around this time of year I like to reflect on marriage and love. Marriage is a sweet, wonderful, and very hard thing; and the only way a marriage can survive the storms of life is by both people choosing to stay and fight. It's a choice you have to make everyday. You have to choose to be present for the good, the bad, and the ugly. You have to choose patience. You have to choose forgiveness. You have to choose your beautiful mess of a marriage over all else. ...more

Unschooling Your Spouse

 Having a different parenting style than your spouse is a common problem....more

Surviving Our First Fight As a Married Couple

We were married in May of 2003.  We were both twenty one years in age, looking back now we were so very young, my thinking then why wasn’t I married sooner.  It is amazing how you age and grow and until then have no clue of what adult life is like even though you think you have it all figured out....more
Thank you for sharing my story.more

5 Ways to Choose a Man Wisely, Rule #1

5 Ways to Choose a Man Wisely- Rule #1Do you ever wonder why some girls have all the luck? Why they end up with Mr. Right and you seem doomed to land Mr. Wrong?  What do they know that you don't?  Well, they might just be lucky or maybe they have learned a thing or two along the way....more

Forgiving Addict Husband?

In some other world I would never admit this publicly.I am ashamed, I am anxious, stressed, homeless and terrified of future.Coming from Catholic family and being raised that marriage is for forever, it is a struggle to walk away now.In what moment you say enough? I married recovered alchocolic.  From day one I knew this is a risk I would have to take and I was prepared for it.Few days ago, coming from work I found him drugged with God knows what and unable to function. I made sure he will be ok, I took his keys and walked away....more