Marriage: It's Going To Be "We" From Now On

My dress had a scoop neck made of a hundred pounds of sequins and lace. My husband later told me it looked like a fresh blanket of snow. Each sleeve weighed about 20 pounds and left purple welts on my shoulders. It hurt so bad that Mark had to run back and forth to the hotel ice machine for ice compresses. Image: Alexandra Rosas...more
Yes, always the 'we' before the me and the you. Lovely.more

Letter to a Young Chef Wife

Dear Young Chef Wife,This month my chef/husband and I will be celebrating our 19th wedding anniversary.  It’s hard to believe it’s been that long.  I’m not quite sure where the time went.As I look back on our marriage, there are so many things I would have done differently as a chef’s wife, if I only knew what I do now....more

Swedish Men Don't Take Care of Their Women

Because they don’t have to....more
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6 Tips for Writing a Great Love Letter

If you are in a relationship, you might be looking for a new way to show your partner how much you treasure them. Putting effort into relationships helps them thrive, evolve, and become an even more poignant source of joy. Rather than scribbling your name at the bottom of someone else’s words, why not write your own sweet and spicy love letter?Find a quiet place. Use a humble pen. (~Paul Simon)...more

Abusers and Valentines

Valentine’s Day will soon be here accompanied by the buying frenzy of flowers, jewelry, sexy lingerie, chocolates and other gifts we've been told equate with love. Culturally, women are so conditioned to respond to Valentine’s Day that even in financially abusive relationships, receiving a Valentine gift or card from their  lover or spouse renews a woman's hope for a loving future together....more

Stop Arguing About Issues That Don't Exist

If you’ve ever been cheated on, then you know the feeling of anticipating that person, or a new love in your life to cheat on you again. You start to snoop or question your partner because when you believe something to be true, you will find the evidence to support it.I once dated a man who was with a possessive woman in his past. She would bicker about his social life and wouldn’t let him hang out with the guys, or have his personal time without it being an issue....more

Who is That Woman With the Man Behaving Badly?

  “Don’t run.  Just stop holding your tongue.” – Sara Bareilles ...more

Are You Bored With Your Marriage?

I hear it all the time, “It’s been like this forever”, as if it will never change.  Two people, in a relationship, too fixed, too old, too tired, to be different.  So, things stay the same, except they don’t.  The truth is there is no such thing as stasis in a relationship.  Even it seems nothing is changing, the relationship itself will follow the progression of the trend.  In other words, if you are dissatisfied today and nothing changes, you will wake up a year from now, and you will be even more dissatisfied....more