Open Letter To Janay Rice

I'm so sorry, Janay. I'm so sorry that you are once again made to endure the scrutiny of the public. You know? If my personal business was revealed to all the world, I would be mortified....more
Courtney Henley The facts are that once a severely battered woman leaves her abuser her risk of ...more

Blended families? My heart is in the blender. :(

I don’t know where to begin.  So I guess I will start with pain, fear, and worry, and end with a little bit of hope, but a lot of concern.  ...more

Novel Questions to Deepen Your Relationship with Your Partner

Novelty. Dreams. Depth. If you are in a relationship, (whether you are just dating or have been married for 20 years), new thoughtful, funny, lighthearted, or meaningful questions can enliven your conversations and help you grow and thrive as a couple.NoveltyNovelty, whether achieved through questions, surprises, or adventures, deepens and expands your primary relationship. Early in a relationship, novelty is a given, but as time goes on, couples need to work at it. Novel questions are one way to add energy, enthusiasm, and sparks to what’s between you....more

Bless My Stupid Heart

Fifteen years ago, I kept a journal of sorts for a writing exercise. Each morning, I wrote three pages of stream of consciousness writing....more

Do You Believe In Fate? Are Two People Simply "Meant to Be"?

If my dad never walked up the stairs as my mom walked down the same stairs at work, many years ago, I wouldn't be here writing this! This weekend my brother marries the girl of his dreams. The story of how they almost met years prior to when they actually did meet, had me question if fate and destiny truly exists or do we meet people just by coincidence?...more
My favorite part was when you said, "You can't change your mind about someone once they have ...more

Turnaround Time

Solstice is the day near year end when the sun is furthest away from the Earth, and immediately begins to come closer again. Solstice marks a celestial turning point, and it’s no coincidence that we celebrate the end of the old year, and begin a new year of birth and renewal at this time. It’s a time of new beginnings, of letting go of the old and generating the new. Many of my clients come in looking for a new way to see or do things, or a way to let go and refocus. What kind of renewal do you want to generate in your own life? ...more

Problem Solving for Couples

In a previous article “From Struggling to Solving” I discussed how to get from arguing to solving problems. Getting into the right frame of mind is a great start, but many of my clients also need steps for how to solve problems. Here are three of my most effective tips. How to Have a State of the Union Meeting:...more

Gabrielle Union Marries Dwyane Wade... Finally?!

After a PR storm from HELL involving a convenient trip out of town, a newborn child, and a nasty, detailed letter from a scorned baby's mother, Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union have finally decided to tie the knot....more
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Oh Come All Ye Old Faithful Suckers

On a recent three day road trip to northern California our wallets were gouged by near $6 a gallon gas prices, fainting goats on strike and a spitting steam valve purported to be the “Old Faithful” geyser.With a Cliff notes itinerary and travel time a premium, our rental car quickly filled with irritated banter when my husband altered our plans. He turned at a hand-scrawled wood sign: Old Faithful, 13 miles.“Old Faithful is a national treasure,” he said. “Seems silly not to go. Calistoga is a few minutes out of the way.”...more