Thoughtfulness Thursday: To Wives Before You Were Mommy

I have a love/hate relationship with blog posts that hit home. You know, the ones that really make you feel bad or guilty. Well, this is one of them: Our anniversary is coming up, so I thought it’d be the perfect time to post this. I’m going to sum it up/put in my favorite parts of it like I have done on many of the other Thoughtfulness Thursday posts....more


When you’re dating down, you aren’t always aware that you are doing it. I came up with an inventory to help you identify some of the red flags on Stop dating down! If you are doing 4 or more of these things, chances are you are settling in your relationship. Once you realize this is a feature of your relationships, then you can see if this yields a pattern in your life....more


Dealing with a break-up, separation or divorce is often difficult. Here are a few things that can help you cope with the break-up, separation or divorce....more

We Attract What We Are

The life you live is a reflection of what’s going on inside of you.” OprahThere was a time – shortly after the divorce from my first husband but before I met my current husband, Derrick, that my man-picker was broken. I mean BROKEN.At least that was my story for why I attracted and dated men that would lie or cheat or treat me as though I was not terribly important....more

Keys to a Happy Relationship

Everyone wants the best relationship they can have. The markers of a happy relationship are: Cooperation/partnership, mutuality, laughter and affection. Whether you’re in a relationship now or hoping to be, these keys will help you create a more loving and happier partnership. The Key to Handling Problems Before They Start: Be on the lookout for early warning signs that things are getting a little off track between you two: ...more

A Bad Marriage From the Female Perspective

When we decide to get married, we are filled with high hopes. Our expectations are to live a great life with the person we love. We are starting a life with someone who shares similar dreams. We want to work together toward the same goals. We each want to participate in the marriage by being our best, by being a team. We will communicate with respect and regard. We contribute both emotionally and financially toward making the marriage a success. When things don’t work out the way we plan, it becomes a very confusing time. You start questioning yourself....more

6 Sex Tips for the Sexually Committed

Sexual satisfaction is highly correlated with overall marital and relationship satisfaction. But keeping passion with the same person through the chaos of life is challenging for all of us! Here are 6 sex tips I have developed from my own experience, my work with couples, and my review of others’ science. I hope you’ll find them to be an active, experiential list for improving your sex life or, if it’s good already, for keeping it going passionately for a very long time....more

Save The Flakes For Tony The Tiger

Nothing bothers me more than a flakey person — whether I’m dating him/her or not. I am the queen of making plans and then being super lazy and not wanting to follow through with them. But I always do — because it’s just rude to have someone keep their schedule open for you and then leave them hanging because you decided you don’t feel like getting dressed and going out....more
Been there. It's one of my biggest pet peeves. It seems like flakiness is an epidemic these days.more

Are You Dating a Man or a Mannequin?

Ah, the dating world. How often do we get attached to someone, break up with him/her, go through withdrawal, sometimes even depression, when all along we never really even knew them at all?It’s like we find what may as well be a mannequin, and fill our heads with what we believe that person should like. Let me know if this sounds familiar…Sees a photo of guy with his mother: Thought: He loves his family so much. When we get married, holidays will be so wonderful....more
Lisa Thomson Thanks so much! Glad to make someone smile! It's true -- and it's hard not to take ...more