Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Healthy Boundaries, Healthy Relationships

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and this is the last official day of it. But let's not allow this month to be the only month in which we "become aware", raise awareness or keep our eyes open for friends and loved ones who may be involved in an unsafe relationship that they are ill-equipped to escape. What do you think of when when you hear the word "boundaries" in regards to "relationships"?...more
HauteDerriere Domestic violence survivors share their courageous ...more

Weeds Grow and Flowers Die

I see people’s wedding anniversary celebrations all the time on Facebook. They are lovely. It is always hopeful and beautiful.But it always creates an ache in me too....more
Beautifully written, and I love your website name. I look forward to reading more. :)  Take care.more

Thinking About Divorce?

I came across a website that featured a link entitled "Thinking about divorce? Contact an attorney for the right advice." Somehow, that struck me as wrong. Sure, if you must get divorced, a good attorney can help you come to a fair financial settlement, work out custody arrangements, and process the paperwork. ...more

Life Changing Promises

 Words have always been important to me, so much so, I was recently told that I react to what people say while most people react to what people do....more
I think most people, on their wedding day, really do believe they can keep those promises. No ...more

7 Lessons I've Learned From Getting Married and Having Kids Young

When I was in my rebellious teen years, I had very strong opinions on getting married and having kids at a young age. I didn't understand why anyone would "waste their 20s" and "settle so early" when clearly that's what our 30s were for. Climbing the career ladder, working to build a well-rounded résumé with volunteer and activist work, casual dating, and nights out with friends seemed like a good recipe for my 20s. ...more
My twenties was probably my best time of my life. I married at age 23 to a guy who was 10 years ...more

Why we text

Headed to market. Need anything?Bread. French not sourdough, yogurt, StarbucksMake coffee at homeJust bring me oneVentiTexting has become the lifeline between me and my husband. At first it was just during work hours when we would tap out sentences to one another between the hours of 7 a.m.-4:30 p.m., keying one another into our daily happenings....more

5 Ways to Balance Marriage and Being a Work-At-Home-Mom

I don't think I'll ever forget the look on my husbands face when he came home from work shortly after I decided it was time for me to start working again. My youngest was only a few months old at the time and I was ready to get back into my work at home mom routine. I knew what it looked like for me but my husband hadn't experienced it full force. He saw the part time, "I'm slowing down because I'm pregnant" work at home mom routine. So when he came home to see me running around the house, making dinner, taking photos and responding to emails, he expression was priceless. ...more
I'm not married and have no children, ideal for starting a business (garden writing & speaking). ...more

I Haven't Been Afraid of Anyone in 32 Years

The other day I emailed the director of a small domestic violence shelter to ask if she wanted some of the feminine hygiene products collected through Time of the Month Club, an annual donation drive I coordinate to collect tampons and pads for women who are homeless. There was extra left over after distribution to five local emergency shelters and because I'd seen this domestic violence shelter in the newspaper that morning, it occurred to me that they could possibly use some tampons and pads....more
J-MOM  I've thought about it but not thought about it, you know? When the shelter director made ...more

For the record: Thanks, honey

What would you change about your spouse? Is it the way he leaves dishes in the sink? Or the way she leaves hair all over the bathroom floor? Think about the items in your marriage you wish were a little better. (Please don't email me a list or anything.) ...more