Why Counseling Won't Save My Marriage

It only took a few counseling sessions to realize I’d spent most of my adult life married to a narcissist. And that I'd completely lost my perspective along the way....more

My Bridal Shower - ideas, photos, decor and more!

My Bridal Shower Day – Love, Friends and Family...more

Are You Working Too Hard in Your Relationship?

For those who are fans of Sex and the City, do you remember when Samantha asked Charlotte how often she was happy in her relationship?  Well, do you remember Charlotte’s answer?  If not, here it is: “Every day. Well, not all day every day but yes, every day.”...more
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Are You Reliving Your Parents' Marriage (The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly)

             Somewhere along the line, we all have to relive our parents’ marriage, mostly the marriage we saw before the age of five.  During those early formative years, our minds were like sponges soaking up everything we heard and saw.  Reliving your parents’ marriage can be good news, if your parents had a happy, healthy, and loving relationship.  On the flip side, if your parents’ marriage was a train wreck, this can be very bad news....more

The Amazing Life Lesson My Dad Taught Me After My Divorce

Dad, I texted. I'm feeling down. I just wonder if I will ever meet someone who accepts me for me. Maybe there is no one. Maybe I am doomed. All men seem to want are nice little quiet women. ...more
Your dad is right - I'm glad you didn't change yourself and there will be someone who ...more

Choose Your Husband Well

It seems like it is just common sense. Choose your husband well. ?? Really, aren't we ALL trying to do that when we choose a mate? But the criteria for a good husband is different than the criteria for a good father...or is it? Now, I have dated a fair share of men in past. And since I am "older" I have dated a good deal more than perhaps your normal 20 or 30 something year old has. Now, as I know my mother and mother-in-law read this blog, I will try to leave out the tawdry details. But let's say, for good measure, that I have been around. I was never your one night stand girl at all....more

Goin' to the Chapel of Love

Off and on all summer he tried:“Hey Julie,” he yelled, as I was hopping onto my bike, “Would you like to go to the Monet exhibit at the art museum today?  My friend has extra passes.”“No thanks, I’m going to ride my bike today.” (I was always riding my bike back then.)“My friend likes to ride bikes…”  His voice trailed off as I rode away.A week or so went by:...more

I'm Getting A Divorce & So Should You.

Yep, you read the title correctly. I'm getting a divorce. Some of you who know me personally are scratching your head in a state of confusion. My mom's jaw probably dropped when she opened her email to this post. I'm on the other side of the screen laughing because it's incredible how a catchy title draws in sooooo many new readers! So, here's the deal: YES, I AM GETTING A DIVORCE. Are you intrigued yet?From MYSELF....more

Can a Marriage Survive an Affair? (A Three-Part Series) Part III

                                   Life After an Affair: Strategies for Saving a MarriagePart III          There are probably few things in life that pack a punch as devastating as the shock of finding out that your spouse has been cheating on you.  Who, what, where, when, and how are the burning questions the scorned ask and ask and, then, ask again… seemingly without end....more