The best part of vacationing without the kids

You know what the best part of going on a mini-vacation with your spouse is? And by mini, I’m talkin’ a few days away from the home front … without the offspring....more

Dear Dr. Romance: I was always wrong

Dear Dr. Romance:...more


So many couples are now separated part- or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, “'til death do us part” but no one said anything about what happens when a military career or traveling job makes it necessary for you to part, and you want to maintain the closeness in your relationship....more

5 Things You Need to Know About Having a One-Night Stand

If you'd never have a one-night stand or think there is something morally corrupt about having sex with someone and never speaking to them again, this might not be the post for you.If you've had one-night stands before, or if you're considering working them into your sexual repertoire, I would like to offer some ideas on how you can make the most out of them. You can have a safe, enjoyable one-night stand; you just need to go about it in a way that applies some best practices....more
Well, I went and watched Beyonce's video...wowsa! Great tips, Feminista. I've actually never had ...more

When Your STD Interrupts Your Sex Life: Tips and Advice

A knowing glance across the room. A certain sigh before bedtime. The perfect music on the stereo. There are many clear signs that your partner is ready for a romantic evening together. Anticipation of intimacy is often a cause for excitement and delight in a relationship. But, what if you are unable to be intimate with your partner when they would like to have sex due to symptoms or pain caused by your STD? ...more

The "IT" Factor

 Have you ever met a person that just does "it" for you?The person that has that something about them that pulls you in no matter what. You see them, and it is like a moth to a flame, a bee to honey, or a gold digger to a stack of money (lol). Someone else might look at that person and wonder 'what the f---, and you're stuck with a loss of words trying to explain it. But when you see him/her every sense in your body knows what it is, and you connect on every level that there is to connect....more
Real Talk With Tara  Yes, me too.  Waiting for that guy who can eclipse Mr. Wonderful.  A.W.more

9 Tips to Make Period Sex Enjoyable

Before the 50 Shades movie premiered, uproar ensued because the director hadn’t considered including the infamous tampon scene in the movie. People either felt outrage at the missed opportunity to embrace period sex, periods, and women’s bodies or disgust over the scene itself. These reactions reinforced the mystery surrounding period sex so today I’m pulling back the curtain to show why period sex is something to consider and how to do it effortlessly....more
So well written!  I"m an advocate of this practice (well, advocate may be a strong word)  as ...more

International Clitoris Awareness Week: How Aware Are You?

It is officially International Clitoris Awareness Week (May 6th thru 12th). I can only assume you are prepared with fleshy tones of icing and little sugar pearls for vulva cupcakes made special to feed guests at your Clit Awareness Discussion party later in the week…or maybe this is the first time you heard about it....more
I remember those sex ed classes.  They teach basic function, but not sexuality, and certainly ...more

May Is National Masturbation Month!

Happy Masturbation Month!     May is Masturbation Month, a time for all of us as adults to get to know ourselves better. It is a also a time to defrost from the stigma of touching ourselves.  It is a time to get to know what we like and perhaps even figure out why we like it. It is a time for us to stand up, lie down, turn sideways and get sexy with ourselves....more

We Need To Stop Seeing Ourselves As Sex Objects

Internalized objectification, self-objectification, female self-objectification ... call it what you will. It's seeing ourselves as sex objects for male sexual pleasure, and we need to talk about it NOW. ...more