I Went To the ER For Help Finding a Missing Condom

A few weeks back, my boyfriend and I were enjoying another arousing sex session. He was giving it to me hard and I was really enjoying it. We recently moved into an apartment together, so there was no one around to walk in on our sesh. So, after we were both pleasured, he pulled out. To our surprise, his condom was not attached to his penis! We thought we were going absolutely nuts and both searched high and low for that condom, but it was nowhere to be found. ...more
Practical tip: This is something that is more likely to happen when a man stays inside a woman ...more

Being Black, Kinky, and Empowered

“I am Black, kinky and seriously considering leaving The Life.”I think about these words now from where he has commanded me, on my knees, hands on my thighs, completely still. I am rarely ever still; there is always one more thing to do, another task I start to think of while pretending to relax. My feelings of gratitude to him for seeing this, for taking the time to help me conquer my racing brain, they are giving way to thoughts of how I thought I could live without this....more
I, too, am a Black woman who is into BDSM; my husband, who isn't Black, is the Dominant one.  ...more

Even flowers sleep until they are awakened....

…..20 years later....more

Just let me fuck your boyfriend already!

Also titled: "The unfortunate nature of being polyamorous. Or I fucking hate monogamous people with their petty insecurities. Or the transitory nature of human relations. Or why the hell do I subject myself to this shit?"...more
Thanks for your comment SnarkySass, and I agree that everyone has to be happy about the ...more

Yes, Your Vagina Can Look Like Barbie's

I didn't think Barbie had lady bits.But she must, since many plastic surgery clinics offer the "Barbie procedure" to make your labia look just like Barbie's.  Cosmetic surgery for female genitalia is a hot topic. More and more woman are opting to change the appearance of their labia, or "tighten" their vaginas... yet many doctors are speaking out against such procedures. ...more

The seed of a secret......

Sixteen.  I had just turned sixteen the month I “lost” my virginity.  I look back now and cringe at how young I was.  How naïve I was.  What was I thinking?...more

That's not exactly what I meant by a boob job, honey

I was reading Dan Savage's advice column the other day. Savage, if you haven't heard of him, gives advice on all things sexual, and even lots of things I wouldn't consider sexy, but somebody does. It's not for the naive. Or maybe it is if you need to get up to speed....more
Dolores Derrian It's certainly a complex issue. What I gleaned from the letter is that he's more ...more

My Mom Used Pancakes to Teach Me About Sex

When I was nine, my Mother showed me a video in which a mother created a uterus and ovaries out of pancake batter to show her friend's daughter how menstruation worked. Some of you may be weirded out by this, others of you will have a vague memory of the video and rest of you will be shocked at how many hits come back when you Google "pancake batter menstruation video." (Evidently, lots of people have fond memories of that video.)...more
hlpleasurecoach BlogHer My Mom used pancakes & food to hide, deny, & obliterate the very ...more

The Lab

 (Contains affiliate links)Let's talk about my current baby, The Lab. ...more

Is BDSM crazy?

In mainstream society BDSM has an air of craziness to it, it appears extreme in many ways and people who do not know anything about it assume that it is all about whips, chains, leather, latex and dark dungeons – and it certainly can be about that, but as I have come to discover over the last couple of years, there is so much more to it. It is an incredibly varied and interesting world that lets you free yourself from unnecessary and maybe even unhealthy thought patterns that have been instilled into you from the day you were born....more