What's the Deal With "Steak And Blow Job Day"?

When I first heard about "Steak and Blow Job Day," I cracked up laughing. My husband of seven months insisted that this "holiday," celebrated on March 14, was a day for men to be treated special. He said that I had to cook him a steak and give him a blow job to show him my appreciation. Since these were two things I did regularly, I shrugged him off; what made March 14th any different? He then asked, "Well don't you want extra special things on Valentine's Day? Don't I get you flowers all the time?" I had to admit that he had a point, so I humored him and looked online for more information because I wasn't convinced he wasn't pulling my chain. ...more
Sadie's Gathering  There really is no argument about S&BJ day. Regardless of the possibility ...more

Feminists Can Be Sexually Submissive (But 50 Shades is Still Awful)

This picture of Lady Byron in a BDSM-style collar was uploaded to Wikimedia Commons by ...more
Mr. Michael Good question, and a totally different topic, to be honest with you.  It's ...more

His sexting fills an empty void

              Freshly out of a relationship your heart feels like it is in a million pieces. The void that was left I immediately wanted to fill, fill with anything that was unfamiliar. I found a man, Zach. His texts were sweet and complex; he complemented every aspect about who I am. It was obvious, he knew I needed a rebound and knew how to speed the texts along....more

Dear Dr. Romance: I feel terrible about not keeping the promises I made

Dear Dr. Romance:My story will probably sound like a thousand others you've heard, but I am in desperate need of some answers. I am in my fifties, my wife is a few years younger. My wife had a hysterectomy about 15 years ago, so menopause is not likely part of this equation. As you are probably guessing, a large part of our problem has to do with the lack of intimacy and sex. We had talks about this a few different times, and she would promise to do better. "Better" never happened, and I became frustrated....more

Dear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend doesn't think she can handle this relationship.

Dear Dr. Romance:I am (or was, perhaps) in a fairly strong relationship for a few months now. Recently though, as the upcoming fall quarter approaches, my girlfriend doesn’t think she can handle a relationship. Between stress from school (she really wants her 4.0 this year), over-bearing parents, and the recent death of her dog, she has a lot going on. She has told me that she doesn’t think a relationship can work for her, with all the other things on her plate…...more


Did that title grab your attention?  Let me first say that I don't and NEVER will condone cheating of any kind, no matter what excuse is given, yet when I found out about www.ashleymadison.com, I had to check it out for myself because it just seemed so unbelievable....more
Hey Dolores:  I think you hit the nail on the head.  While I don't agree about the monogamy part ...more

The Four "C"'s to a Happier Marriage

There are four things in a marriage that need to be on track in order to have a happy marriage. Okay, there are more than four, but there are four BIG things that, when in order, can change the entire mood of your relationship. (Luckily, I was able to think of synonyms that all started with c's!)...more

Review: FC2 Female Condom

The biggest condom contender of my life came up when I was told that I needed to review the FC2, also known as the female condom. Throughout my many safer sex adventures, sad to say it's true-- I've never tried one before. And I was a little bit nervous....more

10 Hardcore facts About Porn You Should Know

While so many good things are happening to me, while my life is transforming into everything I dreamed it could be, I can’t stop thinking about the lives around us that are vacant of freedom and full of exploitation. It overwhelms me. All I can do is write about it. Facts, truth and reality are more unbelievable than any stories I could concoct.I’m going to get into some dirty business today....more

50 Shades of Safety: A How To

So you watched 50 Shades of Grey and now you're curious? You've read my blog and you're curious? Or you really just have been curious from the beginning and you were too afraid to ask? That's okay. It happens. A lot of people are too afraid to admit their curiousity and are willing to jump in without realizing there is a right way and a wrong way....more