Why Are We Shaming Rape Victims and Not Shaming Rapists?

We have allowed a heinous and inexplicable culture of rape to flourish on our college campuses. Last week, the New York Times ran an exhaustive front-page account of an 18-year-old girl who was raped at a fraternity on the campuses of Hobart and William Smith Colleges in New York. The story was as much about the small, liberal arts school’s mishandling of the case as it was rape on campus. When will we stop blaming the victim? Why aren't the boys committing the crime being publicly shamed?...more

BlogHer ’14 Closing Keynote on Race, Gender and the Internet: Where Do We Go Next?

Talking about race is not just for people of color. Talking about feminism is not just for women. If there’s anything I hope people will take away from the BlogHer ’14 Closing Keynote about race, gender, and the Internet, it’s that. ...more
This was great! Thanks! I wrote a post after the Trayvon Martin case - it's not the same fear, ...more

Congress Is Not Just For Old White Men - Moms Can Serve Too

The recent primary election brought the usual flood of campaign literature pouring through my letter slot. I had nearly tossed the pile into the recycling bin when I noticed something AMAZING.There was a large color photo of a Hispanic woman holding two tiny kids. The text began “As a mother of two children…” and was an endorsement for quality pre-K. It hit me – SHE was the candidate, and she was claiming her identity as a mother in her campaign for the state legislature. Had I ever seen such a thing before? Had it ever HAPPENED before?...more
We need more women--mothers, grandmothers, lesbians, singles, aunts, wives, daughters, sisters. ...more

Why Are We Shaming Rape Victims and Not Shaming Rapists?

We have allowed a heinous and inexplicable culture of rape to flourish on our college campuses. Last week, the New York Times ran an exhaustive front-page account of an 18-year-old girl who was raped at a fraternity on the campuses of Hobart and William Smith Colleges in New York. The story was as much about the small, liberal arts school’s mishandling of the case as it was rape on campus. When will we stop blaming the victim? Why aren't the boys committing the crime being publicly shamed?...more

Can We Be Smart & Pretty?

My Love/Hate Relationship With '50 Shades of Grey'

I'm about to admit something that I'm not entirely sure is smart to admit: I like erotica....more
When does he ignore her safe word? I thought she only used it once and he completely flipped out ...more

Germans, your language is just crazy

There was this meeting about sexual violence, about rape as a weapon in wars. Ruanda, Bosnia, Congo, and other places. Rape as a way to destroy the personality of women. So cruel. I think I should attend. I feel obliged to attend, I know it is not going to be a happy evening. But you should attend to show solidarity for the suffering of your sisters. Sexual violence in wars has now become a priority for the UN High Commissioner for Refugees....more

It's Okay. I Wore Pearls Today.

I woke up late and rushed to get ready but remembered to wear my pearls today.   Credit Image: Lili Vieira de Carvalho on Flickr As I was leaving the house, Baby Girl spit up all over my shirt; it’s okay, I wore pearls today....more
Haha love this! I too feel like I am sweating by 9am! It's hard work getting everyone out the ...more

Francis, It's NOT Funny!

Eulalia Benejam Cobb (Lali)Blog:  MyGreenVermont.comWebsite:  www.LaliGallery.com...more

BlogHer ’14 Closing Keynote on Race, Gender and the Internet: Where Do We Go Next?

Talking about race is not just for people of color. Talking about feminism is not just for women. If there’s anything I hope people will take away from the BlogHer ’14 Closing Keynote about race, gender, and the Internet, it’s that. ...more
This was great! Thanks! I wrote a post after the Trayvon Martin case - it's not the same fear, ...more

"You're not like the others..."

Person: Where are you from?Me: I’m American. Born and raised in Brooklyn, NY.Person: No, I mean your ancestry. Where are your parents from?Me: Both parents were also born and raised in Brooklyn, NY. My maternal grandparents are from the south and paternal grandparents are from Barbados.Person: That’s it!! I knew you couldn’t be all Black American; you’re not typical and you damn sure don’t act like an American.Me: I’m afraid I don’t understand. What exactly do you mean?...more

*Glamour in ALL Shades*

SOOOOO what’s up with this? Don’t sit up there and act like you haven’t noticed it too! I need answers…LIKE NOW!...more

Is It Righteous Indignation or Feminist Virtues?

A women’s intuition is a powerful thing, I’m convinced that it’s a gift we’re born with. Some of us are more in tune with it than others but nevertheless all women have this innate ability of knowing when something just doesn’t quite add up.“Who would like to give the closing prayer?” Sister Abbie would ask us. She was my first Sunday school teacher and very well liked among the kids because she had the best snacks. We were a motley crew of elementary and middle school aged students, southern, all from different socio-economical backgrounds....more