Why We Need to Push for Universal Pre-K

With the school year well underway, how many mothers have the pre-K programs they so desperately need? ...more

New Pew Research Confirms the Worst About Online Harassment

A new study from Pew Research Center's Internet and American Life confirms the worst news about online harassment. It is pervasive, endemic, and disproportionately levied against women. What we have done so far to deal with it isn't helping. As horrible as these findings are, do they offer ways to help safeguard ourselves, to be better Internet citizens, or to change the onslaught of harassment and danger? ...more
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The Reflex of Deference: What Keeps Male Privilege Going

Deference is the wee tiny rock that women carry in their pockets, the signal to tell them to get out of the way, sit down and be quiet, but who put that rock there?...more
I have to carry a rock in my pocket to remind me not to have a rock in my pocket. Have to remind ...more

Why We Need to Push for Universal Pre-K

With the school year well underway, how many mothers have the pre-K programs they so desperately need? ...more

The "Sexy" TMNT??

My daughters are going to be cute for Halloween. Lilo is dressing up as the Queen of Halloween. Stitch is going as a black cat, probably because she is aware she is adorable with a wee black nose and whiskers. Spock is going as a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle, but NOT this one: ...more

New Pew Research Confirms the Worst About Online Harassment

A new study from Pew Research Center's Internet and American Life confirms the worst news about online harassment. It is pervasive, endemic, and disproportionately levied against women. What we have done so far to deal with it isn't helping. As horrible as these findings are, do they offer ways to help safeguard ourselves, to be better Internet citizens, or to change the onslaught of harassment and danger? ...more
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Have We Become a Botox Nation?

Oscar and Tony award winning actress Frances McDormand has always relied on her immense talent, remaining committed to a Botox-free existence.  At 57, she saw the need to develop her own material since the film industry has no hunger to portray women of a certain age, as if “older” should mean “un...more

The Rare Privilege of Not Needing Feminism

I’ve spent most of my life not thinking or caring about feminism. For the bulk of that time I didn’t know much about it aside from the standard references to suffragettes and bra burning, and my academic interests led more toward war history than feminism. Even after a few rounds with Simone de Beauvoir and gender theory in a philosophy class, it was still an easy thing to dismiss and kick to the side for one key reason:I had the privilege of never needing it....more

The Reflex of Deference: What Keeps Male Privilege Going

Deference is the wee tiny rock that women carry in their pockets, the signal to tell them to get out of the way, sit down and be quiet, but who put that rock there?...more
I have to carry a rock in my pocket to remind me not to have a rock in my pocket. Have to remind ...more

The Legacy I Want to Leave Behind

I'm fortunate to have both a daughter and a son. What this also means is that I also get to battle all kinds of dumb messages about gender roles and crappy societal ideas. The messages my son will grow up hearing one day to "be a man" or "act like a man" sicken me and I'll save that for next week's post. Today I want to talk about my daughter and the garbage that all of our girls are forced to stomach everyday starting at an age when they can't decipher what is truth and what is complete shit....more

Five Things Young Women Need to Know about Life before Roe v. Wade

 Tomorrow night I am going to the campus of the small state university where, as a sophomore 47 years ago, I discovered that I was pregnant and agreed reluctantly to have an illegal and unsafe abortion, the effects of which hung on me for years like a wretched, filthy grey sweater....more

Domestic Violence Awareness Month: When the Abuse is Invisible

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I could begin with startling statistics of "a woman is battered by her spouse every x seconds" or cite how many people die yearly at the hands of their partner. I'm sure the numbers would be sobering, scary, and sickening. They're valuable numbers but sometimes they're hard to reconcile. Would they alone move you to help or to recognize the signs in a friend or family member who may be on the receiving end of abuse? Sometimes we assume abuse is visible.  It isn't always. Not all domestic violence leaves a physical mark....more

A Response to the Utah State University's Lack of Protection for Anita Sarkeesian

Earlier this month Anita Sarkeesian was to speak at Utah State University about misogyny in gaming. This resulted in an email being sent out to several faculty members at the university stating that there was going to be a shooting if she was to speak. Anita Sarkeesian, like any sane person, asked the university to provide her with security. The university replied, saying that because Utah is a concealed carry state, could not provided added security because it is the citizens right to carry a firearm as long as they have a license....more