When Dads Care for Babies, Their Brains Actually Change

The deeper I get into mothers' rights work, the more often I end up thinking about men and fathers. While there is no dispute that women, even now, do much more of the caregiving and homemaking than men, men's lives have changed both at home and at work as a result of women's leaps in education and employment outside the home. Changes in the activity of one gender are necessarily going to be felt, one way or another, by the other....more

How to Deal With Your Midlife Crisis

When you hear about someone going through a midlife crisis, you usually think of that stereotypical scenario of some guy in his forties impulsively buying a sports car and dumping his wife for a younger woman. ...more
Michele@liferedesign Hi Michelle, thank you for the comment and you are 100% right. I like your ...more

The Paradox of the Outspoken Woman & Why She Bothers Men

I am an outspoken woman. I'm outspoken in real life, and I'm outspoken on the Internet. I don't shy away from a debate. I have Opinions, big ones, on anything from TV shows to social justice. I like discussions, and I am happy to sit down and go through a subject with a fine-tooth comb to pick out nuances and discuss them with like-minded folks. For me, the Internet has been great for allowing me to find and learn from all kinds of people. But there's another side to it....more
It isn't because you have opinions; it's because your opinions cast doubt on your intelligence. ...more

When Dads Care for Babies, Their Brains Actually Change

The deeper I get into mothers' rights work, the more often I end up thinking about men and fathers. While there is no dispute that women, even now, do much more of the caregiving and homemaking than men, men's lives have changed both at home and at work as a result of women's leaps in education and employment outside the home. Changes in the activity of one gender are necessarily going to be felt, one way or another, by the other....more

Problematic Feminism, Intersectionality and the Wage Gap

Award shows can be a great way to spread awareness about different causes, especially those explored in the acceptance speeches. This year’s Oscars was no exception, with Julianne Moore speaking on behalf of Alzheimer’s awareness and Eddie Redmayne dedicating his award to those with ALS. But, perhaps the most controversial and GIF-worthy speech was Patricia Arquette’s, accepting the Oscar for her role in “Boyhood.”...more

Barbie Can Suck It

I’ve been looking for a set of lamps, and today I found a pair I liked. They’re simple, stainless steel, with a cool shade. When I got home, I bumped into my sweet, 75 year-old widowed neighbour, Mr. Gunderson. He inspected the lamps, even putting his glasses on for a better look. “I really love those. Reminds me of Jayne Mansfield. Va Va Voom.” He winked at me. I was confused, and didn’t know what he was talking about, until I got into the house and took a really good look at them.Here’s a close-up....more

The Secret Lives of Boys - Part 1

I grew up in a household overrun with women. With 3 older sisters and a take-charge mother who ran the household, it was very much a matriarchal set up. Despite having 1 brother and an emotionally unavailable and wholly uninvolved father, the men were outnumbered and out-ruled – not by design, but simply by happenstance. So, because of the situation I grew up in, boys were always a bit of a mystery to me....more

Superwoman Is Not A Blogger. And Bloggers Aren't Superwomen. And That's OK.

This is a story about unfortunate choices made for unfortunate reasons. Both the choices and the reasons matter less than the forces that underlie them....more

How to Deal With Your Midlife Crisis

When you hear about someone going through a midlife crisis, you usually think of that stereotypical scenario of some guy in his forties impulsively buying a sports car and dumping his wife for a younger woman. ...more
Michele@liferedesign Hi Michelle, thank you for the comment and you are 100% right. I like your ...more

The Men's Rights Movement Doesn't Help Men

In the world of Internet activism, labels can mean everything—feminist, social justice warrior, liberal, conservative. Many times these labels can serve as a way to organize a group of like-minded people for the greater good. But recently, a new label has emerged. On Twitter and Tumblr, some men have taken to calling themselves Men’s Rights Activists, or “Meninist” in a lazy play on the word “Feminist.”...more

Feminists Can Be Sexually Submissive (But 50 Shades is Still Awful)

This picture of Lady Byron in a BDSM-style collar was uploaded to Wikimedia Commons by ...more

The Paradox of the Outspoken Woman & Why She Bothers Men

I am an outspoken woman. I'm outspoken in real life, and I'm outspoken on the Internet. I don't shy away from a debate. I have Opinions, big ones, on anything from TV shows to social justice. I like discussions, and I am happy to sit down and go through a subject with a fine-tooth comb to pick out nuances and discuss them with like-minded folks. For me, the Internet has been great for allowing me to find and learn from all kinds of people. But there's another side to it....more
It isn't because you have opinions; it's because your opinions cast doubt on your intelligence. ...more

Women As Property: Travels in Turkey

My brother hated Harvard. It was cutthroat in ways, at age not-quite-yet-eighteen, he hadn't expected and I believe that most of all he was lonely. At the time, I was too busy struggling with my own adjustments to early adulthood to understand why my father despaired his decision not to return for his sophomore year. ...more
marinautami Yeah, they were smart to go forward as a group once they met each other!more