When Dads Care for Babies, Their Brains Actually Change

The deeper I get into mothers' rights work, the more often I end up thinking about men and fathers. While there is no dispute that women, even now, do much more of the caregiving and homemaking than men, men's lives have changed both at home and at work as a result of women's leaps in education and employment outside the home. Changes in the activity of one gender are necessarily going to be felt, one way or another, by the other....more
This is very interesting. I see this in my own husband, who is an extremely hands-on dad. I ...more

How to Deal With Your Midlife Crisis

When you hear about someone going through a midlife crisis, you usually think of that stereotypical scenario of some guy in his forties impulsively buying a sports car and dumping his wife for a younger woman. ...more
CharmaineOdusina Thanks so much for sharing, I have so much to look forward to later on!more

The Paradox of the Outspoken Woman & Why She Bothers Men

I am an outspoken woman. I'm outspoken in real life, and I'm outspoken on the Internet. I don't shy away from a debate. I have Opinions, big ones, on anything from TV shows to social justice. I like discussions, and I am happy to sit down and go through a subject with a fine-tooth comb to pick out nuances and discuss them with like-minded folks. For me, the Internet has been great for allowing me to find and learn from all kinds of people. But there's another side to it....more
It isn't because you have opinions; it's because your opinions cast doubt on your intelligence. ...more

Where does the f!@#ing anger come from?

photo by sanickelsThis sentence has become somewhat of a motto to my husband Rob and I. It began at a fundraiser to end violence against women that we attended about a year ago....more

The "Welfare Queen"....a myth about Black Women

Over the years I have commonly heard people (particularly white people)  talk about how black people abuse the welfare system and don't  want to work, but just want to stay home and collect welfare.  Oftentimes they talk about the young black mother who has lots of kids from different fathers and keep having babies so they don't have to work and can just collect the welfare and food stamp money.  Many times these same people will talk about how immigrants are taking jobs away from americans (I guess from white americans)....more

Remembering Mary Ellen Pleasant

Mary Ellen Pleasant...more

One Aging Woman Who Will Not Be Made Irrelevant

Let's face it, we are all aging, and no matter where you are in the process you may be feeling that you are becoming irrelevant. I have noticed that the more I age, the more I am pushed aside by society. It is as if only the younger generation are relevant. Advertisers target the 19 to 39 year olds. They want their money. The workforce forces out older workers. Television shows cater to younger viewers. I want to stand out in the middle of the street and yell I may be aging, but I will not be made irrelevant....more

The Secret Lives of Boys - Part 2

So, basically, I had these unrealistic and completely unreasonable expectations for the men in my life.And then I got married....more

When Dads Care for Babies, Their Brains Actually Change

The deeper I get into mothers' rights work, the more often I end up thinking about men and fathers. While there is no dispute that women, even now, do much more of the caregiving and homemaking than men, men's lives have changed both at home and at work as a result of women's leaps in education and employment outside the home. Changes in the activity of one gender are necessarily going to be felt, one way or another, by the other....more
This is very interesting. I see this in my own husband, who is an extremely hands-on dad. I ...more

Problematic Feminism, Intersectionality and the Wage Gap

Award shows can be a great way to spread awareness about different causes, especially those explored in the acceptance speeches. This year’s Oscars was no exception, with Julianne Moore speaking on behalf of Alzheimer’s awareness and Eddie Redmayne dedicating his award to those with ALS. But, perhaps the most controversial and GIF-worthy speech was Patricia Arquette’s, accepting the Oscar for her role in “Boyhood.”...more

Barbie Can Suck It

I’ve been looking for a set of lamps, and today I found a pair I liked. They’re simple, stainless steel, with a cool shade. When I got home, I bumped into my sweet, 75 year-old widowed neighbour, Mr. Gunderson. He inspected the lamps, even putting his glasses on for a better look. “I really love those. Reminds me of Jayne Mansfield. Va Va Voom.” He winked at me. I was confused, and didn’t know what he was talking about, until I got into the house and took a really good look at them.Here’s a close-up....more

The Secret Lives of Boys - Part 1

I grew up in a household overrun with women. With 3 older sisters and a take-charge mother who ran the household, it was very much a matriarchal set up. Despite having 1 brother and an emotionally unavailable and wholly uninvolved father, the men were outnumbered and out-ruled – not by design, but simply by happenstance. So, because of the situation I grew up in, boys were always a bit of a mystery to me....more

Superwoman Is Not A Blogger. And Bloggers Aren't Superwomen. And That's OK.

This is a story about unfortunate choices made for unfortunate reasons. Both the choices and the reasons matter less than the forces that underlie them....more