6 Tips for Creating Your Own Paycheck Fairness Act

If we can’t get our elected officials to help us close the gender based wage gap, we’ll have to do it ourselves. On Monday, the Senate failed to pass the Paycheck Fairness Act, yet again. The bill needed 60 votes but fell short 52-40 with every Democrat voting aye and every Republican voting no. Two independent Senators split their votes....more

Conservative or Liberal: How To Stay Friends When You are Total Opposites

I have to admit I am conservative in my views on issues in general and very proud of it. I am open to other's viewpoints, and yet I value my own. I simply cannot stand "wishy washy" people; they are the worst kind of people to be around, always changing their minds like the direction of the wind or changing their opinion to please whomever comes into the room. I have many friends who are liberals. They have their opinions and I have mine, and yet, we seem to get along. How is that so? How is it that we can stay friends when we have such opposite views?...more
Most of my "friends" that are liberal have "mysteriously" disappeared, and not by my choice.more

Why the Violence Against Women Act Matters

This week marks the twentieth anniversary of the passage of the Violence Against Women Act. This historic law dramatically changed the way domestic violence, sexual assault, and crimes against women are handled and prosecuted across our country....more
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6 Tips for Creating Your Own Paycheck Fairness Act

If we can’t get our elected officials to help us close the gender based wage gap, we’ll have to do it ourselves. On Monday, the Senate failed to pass the Paycheck Fairness Act, yet again. The bill needed 60 votes but fell short 52-40 with every Democrat voting aye and every Republican voting no. Two independent Senators split their votes....more

Conservative or Liberal: How To Stay Friends When You are Total Opposites

I have to admit I am conservative in my views on issues in general and very proud of it. I am open to other's viewpoints, and yet I value my own. I simply cannot stand "wishy washy" people; they are the worst kind of people to be around, always changing their minds like the direction of the wind or changing their opinion to please whomever comes into the room. I have many friends who are liberals. They have their opinions and I have mine, and yet, we seem to get along. How is that so? How is it that we can stay friends when we have such opposite views?...more
Most of my "friends" that are liberal have "mysteriously" disappeared, and not by my choice.more

Anita Hill: A Hero for all of Us

JaneAnita Hill came to our town last week as the keynote speaker for the celebration of the 40th anniversary of ...more

Why the Violence Against Women Act Matters

This week marks the twentieth anniversary of the passage of the Violence Against Women Act. This historic law dramatically changed the way domestic violence, sexual assault, and crimes against women are handled and prosecuted across our country....more
Absolutely!!!  Wish I could vote for you!more

There Is No Such Thing As “Reverse Racism”

A few weeks ago, my colleagues and I were having a discussion regarding the underrepresentation of students of color in state universities across the United States. I attributed the disparity, in part, to highly segregated public education systems and Supreme Court decisions which ban race-based college admissions decisions....more
Hi there, I appreciated your take on this matter although I have recently been pondering this ...more

It Matters That I Run. It Matters That You Do Too.

 I’ve always been a fighter for the public interest, making a difference through my work as an attorney and legislative advocate, but I never planned to run for office. To impact women’s underrepresentation in elected office, I joined groups like Emerge California and EMILY’s List, which are designed to train and support the next generation of women elected officials. I’ve campaigned for Representatives Julia Brownley and Lois Capps in California and strong women like Senator Elizabeth Warren on the national stage....more
I am in the last year of my fourth term on the Board of Education in the town where I live in NJ ...more

Giving Up the Mommy Guilt

It has not escaped my notice that women with children often express regret about their performance as mothers. I remember coming back from my own (partially paid) maternity leave, and for two months, driving to drop off and pick up at two different day care centers, doing my work, running the household, rocking the baby, mothering the four-year-old, and feeling like a total failure at everything I did. (Yes, I had a husband at home, but he left early for his office, and came home late, getting in his hours and pushing for professional advancement.)...more
Thank you for putting words to how I feel right now...! I am the mother of four little boys - ...more

Study Says Home-Cooked Meals Burden Working Mothers. What Can We Do About It?

If you were a child in the 1970s, you’ll remember the lyrics to the Enjoli perfume commercial: "I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan." But in reality, it’s hard enough to work to earn a living and put healthy meals on the table, even without the smelling good and looking sexy. ...more
It seems lately that cooking has become a chore.  I grew up with a home cooked meal S-Th and we ...more

The Aftermath of a Police Shooting

  When I contacted Jeff for his interview, he was reserved and a bit on the dry side. Despite my attempts to make him adore me like everyone else, he had a barrier around him. I was a bit disappointed because I thought by some cosmic connection, he would immediately sense who I was and warm up to me. He didn’t.I wanted to say, “Do you know who I am? I am the wife waiting to fall asleep until she hears her husband’s truck pull into the driveway. I am the mother who tucks her children in and has had to answer questions such as ‘Are the bad guys going to kill Papa tonight?’. I am the person in front of you that purchased your meal or coffee because I can see your uniform in my rear-view mirror. I am the person in the crowd who wants to tell you that you are doing a great thing. I am the one won’t turn on the news because she is tired of seeing you crucified. I am the voice that says you aren’t a murderer or bigot or dickhead, you are a good man. I am the one who respects the soldier and the law enforcement officer above all others. I am your friend.”...more

Behind The Officer Down, There Are More Left Standing

 The hardest thing about writing this blog is picking the pictures to go with the stories, Blogging 101 tells you that is how people are drawn to your story. Before writing about Jeff, I looked at every picture on his Facebook page looking for the right one.  For a guy, he had plenty to choose from – pics with his wife, with his kids, in his uniform, in his Air Force uniform and even nerdy high school pictures. Amongst them all, I found the perfect picture. It’s a picture of Steve, Jeff, and two of their buddies in Steve’s hospital room. To the random passerby, it just looks like 4 guys visiting their sick friend, but it’s much more than that. It’s a picture of survival, fear, relief and love. Actually, if you look closely, I think Steve and Jeff are holding hands just below where the picture cuts off… If the picture was so perfect, why didn’t I use it? Because I spoke to Jeff and Steve, I see things beyond the exhaustion, things that you may not. To me, the picture of Jeff is very revealing, Steve got shot in the face, and Jeff was the partner trying to keep everything, and everyone, together. I couldn’t use it because I felt the picture was just too personal, there was too much pain in his eyes.So why did I chose this picture? This is the picture of a regular guy on the beach with his kids. This is what is beneath the badge and the blue. This is the man Jeff should be allowed to be. Being a Police Officer doesn’t always allow him that luxury. Being shot at more than once reduces the likelihood that he will ever be that man again. ...more