I'm 35 and I Don't Know If I Want a Baby

Sometimes I want a baby and sometimes I don't....more
I could have written this post myself!  If I have kids I know I would want to stay home for a ...more

I'm Childfree by Choice and Have No Regrets

When I grew up, it was understood that I'd marry and have children. Yes, I could pursue a fabulous career, courtesy of the women’s movement. I could be a hard-charging executive as well as fecund earth mother. This was no longer the '50s, so I didn’t aspire to vacuum in pearls. In the '70s, we instead dreamed of having it all—and “all” included children. ...more
I appreciate the honesty in this article.  I also do not have children.  Not once growing up did ...more

It's Okay If You Don't Want to Be a Parent

“This above all: to thine own self be true”. – William Shakespeare...more
I'm glad you knew what you wanted and what you didn't and followed your own inner knowing. I am ...more

That next big thing

“My life is over.” “What’s the point of living?” “My life has no purpose.” " "It’s all downhill from here." ...more

If we're childless, what is our legacy?

Recently, I’ve been thinking about the issue of what we leave behind. I’ve been prompted by reading someone else’s thoughts and fears on this matter for the past few months, as well as visiting my mother and looking at family trees and old photos. When we are childless, what is our legacy? Do we even have one? Why do we want one? Is it important?...more

Gifts of Infertility - Embracing the unknown

Growing up, and even as a young adult, I hated uncertainty, and loved to plan. I hated waiting for things, even though I was relatively patient in other respects. I hated waiting for exam results, I hated waiting to find out if I was accepted for my student exchange, and I hated waiting to see if a boy liked me. I liked certainty, as I am sure we all do....more

Single Mom, Single Friends & Stepford Wives

My college friends that are twenty-somethings spend their weekends at the beach, reveling in the glory of meaningless drunken flings and planning fun trips to places that are notorious for cheap booze and strong ties to the Cartel....more

The Awkward Question for a Childless Stepmom

The Awkward Question for a Childless StepmomIn case some of you don’t already know, I am fifteen years younger than my husband and at the time of this article, I am thirty-one years old with no biological children.  My husband’s two children, teenagers now, have lived with us for over three years....more

The Stupid Shit Childless People Say

 Before I get too much into this post, let me start with a confession: I was one of those annoying, know-it-all, gonna-tell-you-how-to-raise-kids-when-I’ve-never-had-any-kids asshole kind of childless person. I was known for such great hits as:...more

Oh, Betty! I So Get You

“I don’t want you to think I’m a quitter. I’ve fought for plenty in my life. That’s how I know when it’s over. To know when to move on…” That dialogue from the final season of Mad Men struck like a thunder clap. I nodded instinctively. ...more

You Don't Have Kids??!!?!

I had never planned to make this particular rant but someone at work set me off this morning. Since I couldn’t spew all this venom at them you all get to enjoy my tantrum **Insert sinister laugh here** ...more
BNadyn Thank you! And the co-worker most definitely was asking so she could judge me. We've had ...more

Far, far away

Downeast Maine in the Summer

I realized Friday when I did my impromptu 5 on Friday post.  That, while I talk frequently of Maine and my childhood.  I haven't really done it justice.  I think a lot of that is because even when I go home nowadays, I don't think of it like an "out-of-towner" might....more