Stop Asking About My Uterus: I'm Child-Free for My Own Reasons

I am twenty-right, married, and childless. As a result, I get a lot of questions from friends and strangers alike, most of them variations on the theme "When are you having children?" Some people are polite in their interest; others are considerably more nosy about the matter. Sometimes, these questions come from people who love me. Other times, they come from mere acquaintances, at best. Sometimes, people are willing to drop the matter after a few moments. Other times,people keep pressing for information. ...more
Sometimes, people are just stuck in their own reality. If said reality involves having children ...more

Childfree Response to "Of Pleasure and Parenthood"

I call this "On pleasure and personhood -- the final word." Last year I was visiting my childhood friend, now a mother, when dinner time arrived. She squirted ketchup onto her daughter’s plate and then her son’s. And then mine. I looked at it. She immediately recognized her mistake and laughed. She knew I could squirt my own ketchup, she said, but she was just so used to doing it … she apologized (still laughing) for overstepping her role as “mother” by inadvertently mothering me. ...more
I'm late to the conversation, but I too feel uncomfortable defending my decision to not have ...more

17 Untruths Parents Believe About Non-Parents

1. Non-parents get to go to bed late and sleep in like parents used to before they had children.I do wish this were true, but it's not. Age, stress, and ill health are sleep-stealers, too, and I am lucky if I get four or five uninterrupted hours of sleep on any given night. In fact, I can't remember when I last did that. ...more

Drawing Dinosaurs

The last time I felt guilty. The last time I felt guilty?  I don’t remember a time when I didn't feel guilty about something. I feel guilty writing this now....more

Time for Mommy to Hide

Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mom and I absolutely love being a wife. But, sometimes… We as mothers need time to hide, breathe, or go for a run. When I get the chance (when my Husband get’s home)… I like to grab a glass of chardonnay, pick a nail polish color to do my nails, sit on the floor, light a fresh scented candle, and lock my self in the bathroom....more

Smiliing

While living in a nest full of four lovely daughters, I found many things to smile about throughout every day--I'm sure y'all smiled at the same things-...more

A Word to the Wise. But Which Word?

There were four generations of us eating and laughing and reminiscing and debating and drinking and sharing stories…and it was just great.  One of the topics that came up --as often happens when there are lots of women and wine around-- was men.  It started out as a "can't do with 'em, can't do without 'em, can't kill 'em" kind of conversation.  It eventually evolved (or digressed) into "what should a young woman do?"  And that's when it got tricky.  Lots of women, lots of opinions. Marriage? At what age? Maybe never?  Then what?...more

Holler for Halloween 365 days a year

Contrary to popular opinion, I find Halloween very annoying. It is the one day of the year that adults wear costumes, which had been shoved into the deep recesses of the closet only to be pulled out again 364 days later. Don't get me wrong. I love getting dressed up in unusual and fashionable get-ups as a matter of course. ...more

Stop Asking About My Uterus: I'm Child-Free for My Own Reasons

I am twenty-right, married, and childless. As a result, I get a lot of questions from friends and strangers alike, most of them variations on the theme "When are you having children?" Some people are polite in their interest; others are considerably more nosy about the matter. Sometimes, these questions come from people who love me. Other times, they come from mere acquaintances, at best. Sometimes, people are willing to drop the matter after a few moments. Other times,people keep pressing for information. ...more
Sometimes, people are just stuck in their own reality. If said reality involves having children ...more

Holiday Suggestions for the Chidfree-By-Choice

Holiday Suggestions for the ChildfreeAuthor: Marcia Drut-Davis, “Confessions of a Childfree Woman”(A life spent swimming against the mainstream. Amazon.comhttp://childfreereflections.com (Free resource guide)www.facebook.com/childfreereflections ...more

On Having or Not Having Kids

Yesterday, my friend posted an article on Facebook about things people say when they hear somebody does not want to have kids. It's humorously written, but it brings out a serious issue - people find it so impossible to respect...more