My mother lingered at the gas station up the boulevard from our apartment in Van Nuys, California. It was 1961 and I was four.
“See those men?” she said to me, gesturing to a seedy bar across the street. “They’re women.” ...more
If there had been a geek squad at my suburban Philadelphia high school in the late 1970s, I would have lettered varsity: editor of the school newspaper; president of the drama club; consistent earner of A's that marched in orderly columns down four years’ worth of report cards.
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Long before I met my first girlfriend, I knew I had within me the capacity to love beyond gender. I am attracted to every form; all our expressions of masculine and feminine. When I would tell people, they ask me to pick- surely I prefer one. “I don’t,” I’ve insisted.There was a period where despite my insistence, I couldn’t quite be sure....more
This month Laura (aka Ledcat) and I celebrate 11 years of togetherness. Like many LGBTQ couples who (until recently) had no access to marriage, we've used our first date as our anniversary. Thanks to smart planning on my part, we moved in together almost two years to the day later. This minimizes anniversary dilemmas....more
A few weeks ago, I was out dancing with a friend at an LGBT club where I met several new people of interest. I found myself quickly lost in a deep conversation with one of the men there about his ‘coming out’ story, and it wasn’t until this moment that a flood of memories saturated in past pain resurfaced. While the painful memories popped up, I was simultaneously being comforted by the emotional connection I was experiencing with this other person. I wasn’t alone in my past struggle with sexuality....more
Yep, I'm that kind of geek. I first played Dungeons & Dragons — the original edition — back in high school in the early 80s. Now my son plays. I was thrilled, therefore, to discover that the new version of D&D, which officially launches next week, is clearly and deliberately inclusive of a diverse range of gender identities, gender expressions, and sexual orientations....more
I write about my kids a lot. I suppose that can be boring to read about after awhile, but to be honest, my life really does revolve around my family, and these two boys and I are home together this summer, so I am with them a lot! (not so much fun for them, but I am sure enjoying it)I think I am a "normal" average mom, I like to spend time with my family....more
Throughout my pregnancy, I've been aware of risks associated with carrying twins. No one has shied away from what could happen to my body and what would happen to my body. My wife and I wanted to start our family, and from our first appointment at the fertility clinic - we were warned that any treatments we used could result in multiple fetuses. We even had to sign paperwork acknowledging that this information was communicated to us!...more
When you see true joy, you can feel it.Sometimes it is in a child's gushing laugh during some wondrous adventure. Sometimes in an airport on a stranger's face as they race to embrace their soldier husband or wife. Mom or Dad.It is palpable. It changes something in the air around you.It's wedding season. You are going to hear lots of wedding stories. Some funny. Some poignant or moving.We visited 2 friends last weekend. They have been together 24 years. Same as me and my husband....more
Bridgestone asked 8 bloggers to share personal stories of their own busy, multi-tasking lifestyles and what in their life they most rely on to “keep it all together.” Check out their posts and learn how you could win a set of Bridgestone tires to keep you moving. Read more