I Dreamed of a Butch Knight

My mother lingered at the gas station up the boulevard from our apartment in Van Nuys, California. It was 1961 and I was four. “See those men?” she said to me, gesturing to a seedy bar across the street. “They’re women.” ...more
I'm attracted to butch appearing women. I don't know why. Its one of my thingsmore

What I Learned at My 25th High School Reunion

If there had been a geek squad at my suburban Philadelphia high school in the late 1970s, I would have lettered varsity: editor of the school newspaper; president of the drama club; consistent earner of A's that marched in orderly columns down four years’ worth of report cards. Image Credit: danxoneil...more
Such a beautiful post, PurpleClover, thank you for sharing your story.  It resonates with ...more

The Girl Who Wanted To Be A Boy

Disclaimer:  I realize this is a sensitive subject for many.  Please, understand this was not written with a heart of condemnation, but rather with a heart wanting to understand. ...more
The parents haven't made any permanent changes. They're just calling him a little boy because he ...more

Looking Back from a Milestone

My son finished elementary school last month, and while he seems to be approaching the idea of middle school with aplomb (or at least with an 11-year-old's casual coolness), I’m having a bad case of nostalgia right now. We’re at a family milestone, but I remind myself that such milestones are only the most prominent markers along a path full of signs and wonders....more

Loving Beyond Gender: What Dating A Woman Taught Me About Dating Men

Long before I met my first girlfriend, I knew I had within me the capacity to love beyond gender.  I am attracted to every form; all our expressions of masculine and feminine. When I would tell people, they ask me to pick- surely I prefer one.  “I don’t,” I’ve insisted.There was a period where despite my insistence, I couldn’t quite be sure....more
@FireinFreetown Thank you for giving me a way to look at my past with more value.  I have been ...more

Crazy Crap That Makes Me Laugh and Love Them Even More

“If love is the treasure, laughter is the key.” Yakov Smirnoff                        ...more

Second Trans Woman Murdered in Baltimore

More terrible news from Baltimore – the murder of 26-year-old Mia Henderson, a trans woman of color whose body was discovered Wednesday.  From Parker Molloy at The Advocate:...more

After 11 Years, My Partner Still Has My Number

This month Laura (aka Ledcat) and I celebrate 11 years of togetherness. Like many LGBTQ couples who (until recently) had no access to marriage, we've used our first date as our anniversary. Thanks to smart planning on my part, we moved in together almost two years to the day later. This minimizes anniversary dilemmas....more

My First Kiss ... was with a Girl!

A few weeks ago, I was out dancing with a friend at an LGBT club where I met several new people of interest. I found myself quickly lost in a deep conversation with one of the men there about his ‘coming out’ story, and it wasn’t until this moment that a flood of memories saturated in past pain resurfaced. While the painful memories popped up, I was simultaneously being comforted by the emotional connection I was experiencing with this other person. I wasn’t alone in my past struggle with sexuality....more

New Dungeons & Dragons Rules Embrace Diverse Gender Identities, Sexual Orientation

Yep, I'm that kind of geek. I first played Dungeons & Dragons — the original edition — back in high school in the early 80s. Now my son plays. I was thrilled, therefore, to discover that the new version of D&D, which officially launches next week, is clearly and deliberately inclusive of a diverse range of gender identities, gender expressions, and sexual orientations....more

Mandatory Family Fun! Sometimes I force my teens to hang out with the parents!

I write about my kids a lot.  I suppose that can be boring to read about after awhile, but to be honest, my life really does revolve around my family, and these two boys and I are home together this summer, so I am with them a lot! (not so much fun for them, but I am sure enjoying it)I think I am a "normal" average mom, I like to spend time with my family....more

Waiting Game: Month 8 of a Multiple Pregnancy

Throughout my pregnancy, I've been aware of risks associated with carrying twins. No one has shied away from what could happen to my body and what would happen to my body. My wife and I wanted to start our family, and from our first appointment at the fertility clinic - we were warned that any treatments we used could result in multiple fetuses. We even had to sign paperwork acknowledging that this information was communicated to us!...more