The Lord Looks at the Heart: When My Son Became My Daughter

I am the mom of the little girl called A.J., who was recently profiled in the Kansas City Star. As surprised as I was to find my family in the paper, I am also incredibly proud. ...more
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Love, Friendship, Patriotism ... Why I'm an Immigration Ally

In 1997, at age 32, I felt like Owen Wilson and Vince Vaughn in that movie The Internship, only instead of interning at Google, I was interning just down the road from Google at a weekly newspaper called the Mountain View Voice. Frustrated by the teaching market in California at the time, I decided to take a year off from substitute teaching and endless job applications to try something I'd always wanted to do: journalism....more

What Transgender Allies Can Learn From the Bruce Jenner Interview

I have a confession: Reality TV isn’t really my thing. I tried to watch Bruce Jenner and the clan in a few episodes of “Keeping up With the Kardashians” and definitely couldn’t keep up....more
Dear Maven, I truly love this post; your words echoed my sentiments, and I had thought about ...more

A work in progress; that is what I am and what I forever will be.

Starting this blog causes ripples of trepidation and excitement for me. I find myself wondering if anyone will bother reading it. Will they laugh with me? Cry with me? Feel anger and angst and joy with me? Will people read my thoughts and have a complete opposition and feel hurt or frustration towards me? Do I care? All of my life I have keep journals, logs of my life and personal thoughts written for my eyes only. I have pages upon pages, books upon books, stacks filling up boxes of hand written words and memories chronicled for no reason other than to get them out of my head....more

The Lord Looks at the Heart: When My Son Became My Daughter

I am the mom of the little girl called A.J., who was recently profiled in the Kansas City Star. As surprised as I was to find my family in the paper, I am also incredibly proud. ...more
You are an awesome parent! I salute you!more

ELLE Features Androgynous Maternity Clothing Line

ELLE, one of the leading fashion magazine in the world, has just revealed sketches of the new androgynous maternity ("alternity") clothing line from Butchbaby & Co., and posted a fantastic interview with the founders. Gender-nonconforming fashion is fashion indeed....more

Love, Friendship, Patriotism ... Why I'm an Immigration Ally

In 1997, at age 32, I felt like Owen Wilson and Vince Vaughn in that movie The Internship, only instead of interning at Google, I was interning just down the road from Google at a weekly newspaper called the Mountain View Voice. Frustrated by the teaching market in California at the time, I decided to take a year off from substitute teaching and endless job applications to try something I'd always wanted to do: journalism....more

What Transgender Allies Can Learn From the Bruce Jenner Interview

I have a confession: Reality TV isn’t really my thing. I tried to watch Bruce Jenner and the clan in a few episodes of “Keeping up With the Kardashians” and definitely couldn’t keep up....more
Dear Maven, I truly love this post; your words echoed my sentiments, and I had thought about ...more

How Do Believers Disagree in Love?

The more I grow in faith and become well versed in scripture and understanding it, the more I find myself better equipped to actually discuss the Word with other believers. But two people being believers and a followers doesn’t automatically equate to them being in agreement all the time. When it comes to almost every topic there are and will be disagreements. Religion and faith aren't the same for everybody. And it took me some time to understand this....more

Day of Silence: What If Someone Had Stood Up for My Trans Daughter?

"Slurs," my husband told me angrily over the phone."They're commenting on her pictures with slurs."...more
What a beautiful story! Many transgenders don't (or didn't) have the support your daughter has, ...more

Hillary 2.0: I've Evolved as a Voter, Has She Evolved as a Candidate?

In preparation for the inevitable Hillary Clinton announcement, I began to peruse my archives—both written and mental— to remind myself of the hardcore Clintonite I once was. I was the girl who cried during the 2008 Democratic Convention when Hillary finally decided to concede the nomination to then Senator Obama....more
Well said. I, too, have evolved as a voter. Like you, I backed Hillary instead of our ...more

I Knew I Liked Girls In the 5th Grade

When I came out to my mother, I was 11 years old. Unlike the commonness of that now, I did it when there were neither many positive images of gay or lesbian people, if any, nor much information on how to deal with your child coming to terms with sexuality at such a young age. Add to that being raised in a household where my parents were Baptist Bible belt believing Christians? You’d think it’d be a recipe for disaster and turmoil....more
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Goodbye to Cousin X

I wish people would think about who they might hurt when they let loose their bigoted, repressive, cutting words on the world of Facebook. Real people read these words. Real people react with their real feelings. Their hurt feelings. Their feelings of despair. This goes out to all of my LGBTQ friends. I'm sorry for some of the shit you endure here. I'm sorry for some of the shit we all have to see here....more