My Teen Son Is Gay: What Now?

My brilliant, quirky, wise, witty, wonderful 13-year-old son shared with me this week the fact that he is gay. And it's not a surprise to me or anyone who knows him—with his flair for impeccable fashion advice to his love of all things sparkly and kitty-related, he's a sensitive, gentle, extremely empathetic and kind kid. My boy proudly wore a hula skirt for weeks at age three, even to preschool (with his pink Crocs, of course). ...more
JoAnneApple Oh, how you made me smile with your support, JoAnne! I feel so lucky that he's my ...more

11 Important Tips for Parents When Your Child Comes Out

Step 1: Take a deep breath. OMG, right? Big news. Or maybe it wasn't. Maybe you suspected this was coming. But you should still breathe anyway because you need do that to keep being alive. So this step applies no matter what. Get some oxygen into you. ...more
Thank you so much for sharing this. My son just came out to me (he's 13) and I've completely ...more

Online Dating Sites Didn't Work For Me

The first time I wrote a personal ad was because my therapist twisted my arm. It was four years ago, I was moving back to New York City and, as they used to say in the print days, “ISO” women. Image: Brett Jordan...more
The men on social sites lie as much as men from other environment. I pray God to send me the man ...more

Tylenol Re-Imagines Norman Rockwell Painting with Diverse Families

Norman Rockwell's "Freedom from Want" is a classic painting of an American family sitting down for Thanksgiving dinner. Tylenol has given the painting a new twist, however, by using its setting to profile several families of diverse races, ethnicities, and structures. Image Credit: Tylenol via YouTube...more

Peter Pan: My First Lesbian Role Model

NBC is devoting its primetime block this Thursday night to a live production of Peter Pan. I'm excited — Peter Pan was my first lesbian role model....more

12 Lesbian Thanksgivings

This year, Ledcat and I will celebrate our 12th Thanksgiving as a couple. Our plans include dinner with our family of choice (aka The Sarahs and their 2 kids) who are vegetarian but prepare turkey breast for us. I’m pretty sure we’ll be schooled in a video game by the 8 year old and get a personal narration of “Frozen.” Mostly, we’ll eat and then lounge on the furniture talking about interesting stuff.We’ve been trying to recall some of the highlights of the past years....more

A White Conservative Christian Woman Who Believes in Equal Rights

It may come as a surprise that a white conservative Christian woman such as myself would support gay marriage.  But I can't deny it. I do.It was through fighting against the discrimination of the disabled and advocating for equal rights for my own daughter who lives with multple disabilites that I came to care about discrimination against and the rights of other oppressed people groups as well, including those in the LGBTQ community....more
As I reread my comment above, I can see where someone else may seem to point out my ...more

My Teen Son Is Gay: What Now?

My brilliant, quirky, wise, witty, wonderful 13-year-old son shared with me this week the fact that he is gay. And it's not a surprise to me or anyone who knows him—with his flair for impeccable fashion advice to his love of all things sparkly and kitty-related, he's a sensitive, gentle, extremely empathetic and kind kid. My boy proudly wore a hula skirt for weeks at age three, even to preschool (with his pink Crocs, of course). ...more
JoAnneApple Oh, how you made me smile with your support, JoAnne! I feel so lucky that he's my ...more

My Best Friend Is A Soldier (And Gay, And 100 Other Things That Make Me Love Him)

My best friend Na'im is...Wow....more

Being Asexual in a Heteronormative World

Heteronormativity, by definition, is basically the principle that in our culture, heterosexuality is the norm and any deviations from it, be it homosexuality or asexuality or anything else, are in the excluded minority and are every day forced to live in a culture that isn’t ours but is increasingly forced upon us. Take it from an asexual (ace): Living in a very heteronormative and increasingly sex-enthusiastic culture is very isolating if you don’t conform to it....more
Found this on Blogher today and read it with interest but realized I had already read it.  I ...more

Gender: From My Rose Colored Glasses

As a university student working towards my undergraduate I find that I come across a lot of topics that are controversial and cause extreme sensitivity sometimes. These subjects rarely come in plain black and white, rather there is just one giant grey scale with various shades to choose from....more

Should We Have a Baby?

Note from Lou: Since I’m doing NaBloPoMo, I’ve enlisted some help from writer-friends. I met Ali five years ago in graduate school (my second graduate program, which is another story). Anyway, I ended up quitting (she graduated), but she and I have stayed friends. The decision to have kids is one I definitely struggled with, and this is often a topic of conversation between Ali and me at our Corner Bakery lunches. I thought her story would be a great perspective for this site....more

Now That Marriage is a Choice

Home from our honeymoon, I’m back in my car office, wondering what I might write or which scribbled-down words I might tweak. This is my pre-writing hour, this time while my kid is in yoga class stretching her limits … I find … Those words I wrote about marriage in Asheville … ...more