Same-Sex Marriage: Why Everybody's Right ... and Wrong

Lines have been drawn, the symbolic moral high road taken, and the demands for social acceptance...um... demanded in the latest showdown between Christians and homosexuals in the War on Marriage/ Battle for Marriage Equality. (It all depends on which side of the fence you're on. But everyone seems to agree that they are engaged in combat of some sort.)...more
janespringfield Good point.  And "Dresses for Jesus" is kind of catchy.  And I would definitely ...more

Gay or Straight, I Just Want My Sons To Be Happy

An old story about Kate Winslet’s 7-year-old son admitting that he could be gay was brought to my attention recently. It led to me to think about how I would feel if either of my sons were gay and how I would react to their admission.  Image: woodleywonderworks ...more
My main focus and message to my sons has been LOVE. I want them to know what love, acceptance, ...more

I Dreamed of a Butch Knight

My mother lingered at the gas station up the boulevard from our apartment in Van Nuys, California. It was 1961 and I was four. “See those men?” she said to me, gesturing to a seedy bar across the street. “They’re women.” ...more
I'm attracted to butch appearing women. I don't know why. Its one of my thingsmore

A Fish in a Tiny Fish Bowl – Being Gay in a Third World Country

*Fish is a Jamaican derogatory slang for homosexuals. ...more

"Lesbian Bed Death": Fact or Fiction?

I first heard the term "Lesbian Bed Death" aka LBD when I was 18. Women would mention it and say that is was real, and it happened to women after they had been in monogamous relationships for many years.  I was never worried because I was quite young and was not in a monogamous relationship, so I didn't even give it a thought....more
Tinseltine cdrdash Yes, I agree with both of you! Having that strong emotional bond and a loving ...more

Same-Sex Marriage: Why Everybody's Right ... and Wrong

Lines have been drawn, the symbolic moral high road taken, and the demands for social acceptance...um... demanded in the latest showdown between Christians and homosexuals in the War on Marriage/ Battle for Marriage Equality. (It all depends on which side of the fence you're on. But everyone seems to agree that they are engaged in combat of some sort.)...more
janespringfield Good point.  And "Dresses for Jesus" is kind of catchy.  And I would definitely ...more

Gay or Straight, I Just Want My Sons To Be Happy

An old story about Kate Winslet’s 7-year-old son admitting that he could be gay was brought to my attention recently. It led to me to think about how I would feel if either of my sons were gay and how I would react to their admission.  Image: woodleywonderworks ...more
My main focus and message to my sons has been LOVE. I want them to know what love, acceptance, ...more

After 11 Years, My Partner Still Has My Number

This month Laura (aka Ledcat) and I celebrate 11 years of togetherness. Like many LGBTQ couples who (until recently) had no access to marriage, we've used our first date as our anniversary. Thanks to smart planning on my part, we moved in together almost two years to the day later. This minimizes anniversary dilemmas....more
WomenTricks Thanks for sharing my BlogHer postmore

Looking Back from a Milestone

My son finished elementary school last month, and while he seems to be approaching the idea of middle school with aplomb (or at least with an 11-year-old's casual coolness), I’m having a bad case of nostalgia right now. We’re at a family milestone, but I remind myself that such milestones are only the most prominent markers along a path full of signs and wonders....more

Loving Beyond Gender: What Dating A Woman Taught Me About Dating Men

Long before I met my first girlfriend, I knew I had within me the capacity to love beyond gender.  I am attracted to every form; all our expressions of masculine and feminine. When I would tell people, they ask me to pick- surely I prefer one.  “I don’t,” I’ve insisted.There was a period where despite my insistence, I couldn’t quite be sure....more
@FireinFreetown Thank you for giving me a way to look at my past with more value.  I have been ...more

Crazy Crap That Makes Me Laugh and Love Them Even More

“If love is the treasure, laughter is the key.” Yakov Smirnoff                        ...more

Second Trans Woman Murdered in Baltimore

More terrible news from Baltimore – the murder of 26-year-old Mia Henderson, a trans woman of color whose body was discovered Wednesday.  From Parker Molloy at The Advocate:...more