I Know My Happy Makes You Sad ...

... and that makes me sad, too.Because I've been there. I get it--or at least parts of it. That sinking feeling in your gut when someone announces their engagement or posts photos of their wedding. Sure, you're happy for them, but still. Why them and not you, STILL? Public Domain Image Via Pixabay...more

Roanoke TV Shooting: Making Sense Out of the Senseless

Like the rest of the world, I was stunned by the news coming out of Virginia early Wednesday morning.The murder of reporter Alison Parker and cameraman Adam Ward was an unimaginable, senseless act of violence. Making it even more unimaginable was the fact that it happened live, on the air, before 7 a.m. for viewers and their horrified co-workers to see. Photographer Adam Ward and reporter Alison Parker, Image Credit: WDBJ...more

My Mother and Liberace: Behind the Candelabra 

In my mother's last months, she often shared a story on how Liberace proposed to her with Elizabeth Taylor's 33-carat diamond ring. "He bought it for me," she explained, "but when I said no to marrying him, he gave it to Elizabeth Taylor. Then, because she was not a nice woman, she took that ring and gave it to Richard Burton so he could marry her. Richard was a handsome man, but he drank, very much. What kind of man proposes to a woman using her own ring?"...more
My Grandfather dated Ester Williams and we never knew the whole story. Who knows, she may have ...more

Everybody's Not Fine

When God Says No

When we pray, we expect an answer.  For many of us, the preferable answer is what we feel is best for our situation, typically yes. But what happens when God says no, when he has other plans for our lives?  ...more

Gone the girl she once used to be

Gone the girl once she used to be.. ...more

What I've learned from two miscarriages

This is something deeply personal, but I’ve felt the need to share more and more every day. In addition, October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. So here it goes…...more

The Clash of the "Rules"

A while back I was at the hospital with a young pregnant couple [just the woman was pregnant, not the husband].  She was pregnant with twins, not identical. Her pregnancy was very high-risk for several medical reasons, including a tear in her uterus causing her amniotic fluid to leak. She was on bed-rest most of the pregnancy. ...more

Will it ever get better?

My life was never easy and that is fine, I loved every struggle to keep my little family safe and together after separating and divorcing an abusive husband. I didn't have help from a support system because my parents were both deceased and my immediate family is very disconnected from one another. The struggle was mine and mine alone. Through it all, my 2 sons learned how to rely on one another and by seeing me working hard all the time they learned how to value hard work and that if you want something bad enough, you work extra hard. I did this all alone....more

A Black Former Christian

She's Gone

  She’s gone.  Her daughter came by and left a handwritten note saying that she is gone.  She was the one that told me about whole foods before Whole Foods, she shared her stories of being loved well by a man after escaping her husband’s emotional and physical abuse.  She also told my mom that I was pregnant when I was 16....more

Remembering Ivy