How to Help Your Hurting Child (When Everything Isn't Going To Be Okay)

My 11-year-old daughter looks like she just lost her best friend. Probably because in a way, she has....more
fushmush Thank you so much! I only wish you might not have need of it in the future.more

A Letter To the Man Who Molested Me

Maybe I made this whole thing up? Maybe this never really happened? We've seen each other socially for years and years. I've hosted bridal and baby showers for both your daughter and daughter-in-law. We spend most holidays together, your family and mine. How could I be so seemingly calm if something really happened? ...more
Wow, that is all I can really say! I don't know what to say honestly, but I know you are brave ...more

Dear Mom, You Gave Me A Voice

How do loss and grief become a blessing? I’ve said before that writing is how I heal. And never is the weight of grief more lifted than when I’m writing letters to my mom. Dear Mom, ...more
This is so poignantly beautiful, Lauren.  Made me cry for my own mom, and for you and yours. ...more

Marking a Year After Losing My Child

It's June already. Soon enough, I'll be marking the one year anniversary of the day he got sick. The day we went to the ER. The day he was transferred to ICU. The day he coded. The day we learned he would never come home with us again. The day we left the hospital without our boy....more

That next big thing

“My life is over.” “What’s the point of living?” “My life has no purpose.” " "It’s all downhill from here." ...more

Something Strange is Going On...

I am sure I do not know what the heck is the matter with me. For the last few days, I will be doing something (reading, playing Be Brilliant, cooking) and all of a sudden I start to cry. Not the loud kind - just tears start creeping out of my eyeballs and I am overwhelmed with sadness.It feels like I'm losing my mind....more

Gram, I Hope You Finally Have Peace

Gram, I Hope You Finally Have Peace I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow; but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.   ~Agatha Christie...more
RIP, Gram.more

A Game I Call “Grief Chicken”

I was recently analyzing why I feel the need to torture myself from time to time and visit something that reminds me of one of my loved ones who have passed....more


I'd like to live without looking furtively and frenetically over my shoulder.  I'd like to face the future with more confidence in what I know I can do--and in what I've already done--than trepidation rooted in everything that isn't already perfect.  I've always been an optimist, but it seems that philosophy is becoming more and more superficial and less truthful for me.  Now I need to work at maintaining positivity and avoiding complaining and desperation.  The mistakes I've made and the people I've lost cannot be changed....more

Reclaiming My Dad, For Father's Day

Also Featured on Huffington Post, read it here....more

An Open Letter to my Best Friend I left in High School

There is a lot about High School that I will miss. A lot of people used what I would miss about High School and to be quite honest I couldn't give a straight, honest answer and here is why. I'm actually still grieving over the fact that me and my best friend aren't close anymore. We started not being friends like a month before graduation. How do you let a friendship so strong die so fast and so easy? We let each other go like a balloon flying up to the sky barely reaching the end of the string. I guess what hurt the most is the love that we let die....more

Do All Things In Love | Blue and White for SC | A Benefit for Emanuel AME Church

Alrighty y’all!After multiple requests, I will be offering t-shirts in all three designs. T-shirts will be light blue with navy and white screen print. Design #2 also has a red heart over Charleston. Here’s how to order and the other fine print stuff…PROFITS will be donated to the Emanuel AME Church in Charleston, SC!! HOW TO ORDER...more