What to Expect After You Walk Away From a Problem Person

If you have a person in your life that is toxic or is the cause of major problems, one of the hardest things you may have to do is to walk away from the relationship....more
I only wish I'd read this article a couple of years ago when I most needed to know that I'm not ...more

Can You Be Happy After Infertility if You Don't Have Children?

I've been thinking the last few days about those very early days of learning we will have a life without children. First, infertility, then childlessness. I remember those days, even though they were many years ago. I felt as if I had been slammed into a brick wall. ...more
Thank you for posting this. I am in the early stages of letting go and it is very hard. I ...more

3 Signs You Are Ready To Make A Change

I’ve been through so much change this past year it makes my head spin. My mother’s passing. Leaving my career. Talking to my father for the first time in over 20 years....more
Thank you Michele@liferedesign!  Yes, things don't have to be bad to want change.  Being ...more

Gifts of Infertility - Courage

Rather than being the easy way out, letting go of a dream can require immense bravery.It takes courage to say, “enough is enough,” to step off the treadmill and often, away from the support we might have there.It takes courage to know that your decision will bring sadness and loss, to absorb that as part of you, and to continue to face the world every day....more
So true.  The whole infertility journey requires immense courage.  From that first step of going ...more

Imagine if ...

I often find that people with children, when they hear women who embrace their life without children (either by choice, or because we had no choice), find it necessary to comment that they couldn’t imagine life without little Jack and Jill (or whoever). Of course, they can’t (or won't) imagine their life as it is now without their children. To do so would be to imagine them gone, to feel their absence, their loss, and to imagine and feel the grief of this loss. Of course they can’t do that. And none of us are ever suggesting they should try....more

Ups And Downs; Fits And Starts

I have never shown a house for sale before. Our last house was sold to a friend who had been in the house several times, and she just came over and toured the whole thing (not just the public spaces) before she made us an offer. It was on the market for less than 24 hours - actually, she made an offer before it hit the MLS but we had already signed with a Realtor so they listed it....more

AVON 39 The Walk To End Breast Cancer

While October has been declared Breast Cancer awareness month, we all know that it affects families throughout the year. Breast cancer is the most common cancer among women worldwide and the second-most common cancer overall. Early detection and screenings along with educating yourself on the risk factors associated with the diagnosis and understanding treatment can improve your quality of life....more

Build a Legacy: Discovering the Past

Shortly after posting my 29 before 29 realizations list, a near and dear friend reached out to make sure that I could start on number 5: Research my dad’s family tree. There are no words to describe the amount of love and respect that I have for Lisa as she offered advice and resources to help me get started on what I knew would be a lofty task....more

One Foot in Front of the Other

A day like today we were at my beloved father's in law burial.It's been  a year since his passing.We've moved on by placing one foot in front of the other.Out of us all, my mother in law has endured the hardest part. If I chose a mantra for her, it would be "one step in front of the other".  With each morning she's had to get up and get going, placing one foot in front of the other to walk the difficult road of life. Most of all adjusting to living without her life long partner....more

The Hoodie

It was a simple navy blue hoodie. I dug it out of the pile of my Dad's coats and jackets that my Mom had laid out for us to go through before she donated them. I tried it on, looked in the mirror and decided to take it home.  ...more

Losing a child

I never realized how hard life could be when you lose a child as a mom I feel more pain for the siblings left behind, I am a very private person who stays to myself and only deal with my immediate family meaning only my children I have birthed in this world and their significant others and my granddaughter, I know no other way to cope yes I have seemed out counseling but I only received what I could that was available through medical and free services oh how I would love to get a chance to be able to talk to a therapist who is really trained in these issues, meaning I wanna pore my heart ou...more

Fish Or Cut Bait

Fish or cut bait. That sort of means put your money where your mouth is, or any number of other sayings from my childhood. This is where it gets real.Tomorrow, my house goes on the MLS. Tomorrow, the sign will be in the yard. Tomorrow, there's no looking back. We are full steam ahead and d@## the torpedoes! (That's a quote, by the way, so excuse the profanity)....more