How You Know When There's No Going Back

“Transformation is never easy or painless, but essential to the growth of our soul.” Elizabeth Gilbert ...more
Aye yee yee... two stories this morning conjuring up memories. 'How do you know' is a curious ...more

I Used To Be Fearless. What Happened?

Last week, my friend took me to a beautiful place we’d gone to over the years. It’s a short hike up to a ledge that looks out over a spectacular vista of deciduous trees in various stages of fall colors. Image: Nicholas_T...more
I wasn't scared, either, in my 20s.  But by living life and being a part of the world, we become ...more

I Miss My Grandmother

Just a few weeks ago, I got an odd phone call. “Who is dis?” an older woman asked me. “You called me,” I responded, laughing. “Oh, dear, dear. I was tryin’ to reach my daughter. I tink I have the wrong number. I am very sorry. Please forgive me.” Now I could hear a Caribbean lilt. “That’s OK,” I told her, softening. “You have a good day, you hear? Take care.” ...more
My own Grandma is 92 and the early stages of dementia are setting in. It's heartbreaking. I call ...more

Happy 40th Birthday, Hello Kitty: Seven Reasons Why 40 Is Super Duper

Cynthia:  Hello Kitty turns 40 this year and Marcy and I would like to tell her not to worry! Forty really is as fabulous as they say!Marcy:  I'm nine.Cynthia:  Yes, but in cat years, that's forty-five.Marcy:  Fine. I'm forty-five and fabulous.Cynthia:  Absolutely! Here are seven reasons why being over forty is freaking fantastic....more

Settling In

"Build a bridge," I told him.  "What have you got to lose?  Go ahead, apply for the job."  Be careful of what you say when someone asks your opinion.  Especially if that someone is your husband and the topic is a new position, out of state.  ...more

Hell On Wheels Broad

Aren't You Too Old to Say "My Bad?"

Why does the X & Y generation get to have all the new, fun slanguage?  They get to say “Totes” and “Probs” and “Adorbs.” But how original is that? Because of their lazy tongues, they shorten or abbreviate a word and then it hits it big time and catches on with the masses.  I can do better than that.  Here, I present some new Words For US and OUR time.  We know who we are!  Please help “spread the word!”...more

Middle-Age Coffee-Safe Date

You’ve moved on, you’ve learned some lessons, you’re ready to start dating again.Email correspondence, mandatory two weeks, just to establish that he can put a real thought on paper. Spelling, check; punctuation, check. Other: has a job, no children under high school age, has interests other than on-line dating; check.Walk and a Coffee, Saturday morning.I’m the first one to arrive, bad sign, call me old fashioned. He enters, oh-oh, the photo was obviously 5-10 years old....more


I went to my 25th high school reunion this weekend.  So many laughs.  And hugs.  And fun.Driving home, I thought about Chapters.  Life is a series of Chapters:Growing up in Clarksville.Moving to Bowling Green.High School.College.Before Marriage.After Marriage.Before Kids.Raising Kids.Divorce.First Job.Worst Job.When it becomes a Career.Loss.Happiness.Sadness.Emergencies.Amazing trips.Horrible times.Old Friends.New Friends.Always Friends....more

HPV and Menopause – Pelvic Exams 2014

Most of you are used to getting a Pap smear during your annual visit to the gynecologist, but now some health authorities are recommending the age-old Pap be replaced by a new test designed to detect cervical cell abnormalities just about the...more

"Dude: You Are Not Your Fruit Plate", said the Zombie.

This is what I wanted to say to the American chef after almost five fucking hours of an interminable first date. FIVE HOURS. I wasn’t physically attracted to him or his personality. At. All....more

A Homecoming

Autumn ColorThomas Wolfe said one can't go home again, and in a sense, that's true. I cannot be a child again....more

Knocked Down and Laid Up - More Midlife Misery

 For the past six weeks, I’ve followed a rigorous ritual every morning: I strap on a knee brace, grimace in pain, swear, and then hobble to the kitchen for coffee because it’s too early for booze.I’m in pain because I have a torn meniscus over a cracked bone in my knee and open, festering burn wounds on both legs. The pathetic reality is that I did all this to myself, and the pain and indignity is souring my sweet disposition....more