Dear Hollywood, Jennifer Garner Isn't Done Yet

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are splitting. This was the big news recently. The press wrote many pieces about the split, but there was one piece which grabbed my attention. In an article in 'Time', Daniel D'Addario wrote, "He's a reasonably talented, vastly decorated actor-director who's funny on Morning Joe; she's a movie actor whose most productive years are definitively behind her." He was talking about Ben and Jen....more
Good grief, I wonder how old this Daniel guy is?  I wonder how many 'productive' years he has ...more

I'm Proud To Have Raised Such An Amazing Daughter

The first time I realized that my daughter was actually mothering me, she was all of 7 years old. We were at a summer pool party thrown by my ad agency's creative director—a mom herself, who loved kids. She was swimming with my daughter Lillie, who was playfully splashing her. "Take it easy," I called to Lillie. "That's my boss!" ...more
Sounds like you raised a great person!more

Empty-Nest Syndrome Can Hit You When You Least Expect It

I didn't freak out when I turned 50. I liked the surprised reaction when I told people I was 50, as if I couldn't be so old. It was a proverbial milestone. Mostly I still felt young. Menopause was a breeze that year, and eh, presbyopia—reading glasses can look sexy. I just got used to turning 50, liked it even, when the unthinkable happened—I turned 51. It was like the day after a party and you wake up with the beginning of a hangover that lasts forever. ...more
I want to hear the next instalment! ps I am 51 this year too, bummer!more

What Makes A Good Life?

I am consumed with how to live a good life, with the question: what makes a good life?I am re-searching what is my core passion and desire in terms of making a positive diference in the world.I’ll tell you something: helping people who want to take better care of themselves is a cover for something....more

Hi Ho Hi Ho an Entrepreneuring I Shall Go

I used to have a job.Over the course of a year and a half I went from being happy that I was finally employed again after 15 years at home to What-The-Hell-Was-I-Thinking. It sucked the life out of me. And then...on January 1st, 2015 I found myself unemployed. You don't want to know.So, I spent 6 months looking for the right job and being unqualified for everything.Gah...the thought of going back to work for someone put me into such a funk....more
Linda Anselmi Thank you, Linda! I fixed the link. I'm really just hoping to build a network of ...more

Dear Hollywood, Jennifer Garner Isn't Done Yet

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are splitting. This was the big news recently. The press wrote many pieces about the split, but there was one piece which grabbed my attention. In an article in 'Time', Daniel D'Addario wrote, "He's a reasonably talented, vastly decorated actor-director who's funny on Morning Joe; she's a movie actor whose most productive years are definitively behind her." He was talking about Ben and Jen....more
Good grief, I wonder how old this Daniel guy is?  I wonder how many 'productive' years he has ...more

Menopause Infographic - Insomnia

Are you Sleepless in Seattle? Does Disney’s Sleeping Beauty make you hostile? Does the sight of a blissfully snoozing infant make you weep? Do memories of teenage sleepathons that last 12 hours make you misty with nostalgia? Take heart, you’ve got a lot of company....more

I'm Proud To Have Raised Such An Amazing Daughter

The first time I realized that my daughter was actually mothering me, she was all of 7 years old. We were at a summer pool party thrown by my ad agency's creative director—a mom herself, who loved kids. She was swimming with my daughter Lillie, who was playfully splashing her. "Take it easy," I called to Lillie. "That's my boss!" ...more
Sounds like you raised a great person!more

American Girl and Sweet Child of Mine. Whatever happened to those two?

 American Girl or Sweet Child O' Mine?Okay. If you were born anytime after 1990, you might as well stop reading now. *   *   *The other day, I heard American Girl on the radio.Backstory if you were born after 1990 and decided to read anyway. American Girl is a song by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers released in 1977.Upon hearing the best song ever in my car, I decided to dig my CD out of the attic....more

Rejection: A Dish Best Served at a Short But Intense Pity Party.

I’ll be very honest with you: when Daniel disappeared, I did not take it well. I was a fucking mess, a shit show of sadness, confusion and self condemnation. Man a fucking live. I was all like: “What happened? What did I DOOOO??” I was lightly but definitely devastated. Fyi. ...more
DatewithLucy yes--super sexist and all for the best.more

The unexpected payback from expensive travel sports

Have you heard the Trace Adkin’s song ‘Just Fishin’?  Here’s one verse and the chorus:I say, “Daddy loves you, baby” one more time She says, “I know. I think I got a bite.” And all this laughin’, cryin, smilin’ dyin’ here inside’s What I call, livin’ And she thinks we’re just fishin’ on the riverside Throwin’ back what we could fry Drownin’ worms and killin’ time Nothin’ too ambitious She ain’t even thinkin’ ‘bout What’s really goin’ on right now But I guarantee this memory’s a big’in And she thinks we’re just fishin’I love the story this song tells the listener.  It’s about a dad spending quality time with his daughter.  She’s excited to go fishing but he is older and wiser and knows this experience is so much more than fishing.  The video is really sweet.Both of my teenagers are in travel sports.  My 13 year old son plays travel baseball and my daughter plays for a sand volleyball club.  With my husband and I both working full time and the extra family responsibilities I have with my mom, life is B U S Y.  I have to confess that I miss weekends at home just hanging out.  When Monday quickly surfaces, it’s tough to face a new work week after spending a weekend away.  We sacrifice the productivity of getting stuff done around the house and we feel like we had too little rest and relaxation.  Travel sports are also expensive!  I think we probably bought a small car this year between our two kids and their sporting equipment, club fees, and travel expenses.  But rather than go on and on about the negative stuff, I wanted to share a huge positive revelation I had this past weekend about travel sports.Both of my teenagers are in travel sports.  My 13 year old son plays travel baseball and my daughter plays for a sand volleyball club.  With my husband and I both working full time and the extra family responsibilities I have with my mom, life is B U S Y.  I have to confess that I miss weekends at home just hanging out.  When Monday quickly surfaces, it’s tough to face a new work week after spending a weekend away from getting stuff done around the house and feeling like you had a little rest and relaxation.  Travel sports are also expensive!  I think we probably bought a small car this year between our two kids and their sporting equipment, club fees, and travel expenses.  But rather than go on and on about the negative stuff, I wanted to share a huge positive revelation I had this past weekend about travel sports.This past normal non-3 day weekend my 15 year old daughter and I spent almost 14 hours in the car roundtrip driving from Georgia to North Carolina!  We left on a Friday afternoon, checked into our sleazy Quality Inn motel, dined at a local seafood restaurant and quickly scurried into a Trader Joe’s 10 minutes before closing to do a supermarket sweep of healthy snacks. On Saturday, we rose at the crack of dawn where I took great pleasure in watching Natalie work the best perk of our motel – the do-it-yourself Belgium waffle maker.  Natalie played volleyball in the 90 degree heat while I spectated and reminded her to stay hydrated and reapply sunscreen.  She and her tournament partner played well together and we made plans with her partner and her mom to see the ocean since we were so close to it. We went to the beach for a bit and enjoyed the late afternoon sun.  The girls took a quick nap while partner mom and I strolled and chatted.  After, we snapped lots of pictures of the sunset.  We swapped stories about school and travel over a well-deserved seafood dinner and then crashed back in our motel room.  We rose early Sunday, fueled up our bodies and the car, and drove the seven hours back to Georgia.  It was a whirlwind weekend.I do some of my best thinking and reflecting in the car.  While I was driving back home, I experienced an overwhelming sense of gratitude for this special one-on-one time with my daughter.  During this brief weekend we shared 6 meals together – five of them with just the two of us.  We covered all kinds of topics from her Driver’s Ed class that week, to her friends, to gift ideas for Father’s Day, to volleyball, things we wanted to do and see this summer, and so much more.  In the car, we fought over whose playlist to listen to, caught up with some relatives over the phone, and I got some lecturing on my lack of blinker use and some education on what the signs were officially called.While Natalie and I were traveling over the weekend, my son and husband were having some bonding time at home.  Jacob helped his dad pick out a new lawn mower and learned how to mow the lawn to earn some extra cash.  They also went to dinner and a movie and went tubing with some neighbors and shared several bachelor style meals together.  Jacob didn’t have a tournament this past weekend but there have been many weekends where Jason and Jacob have their concentrated drive and 1-on-1 time together over a busy tournament weekend.I realize these parenting moments are fleeting.  My kids are growing up fast…too fast.  When they were little, I use to tell them that they were ‘frozen’ and couldn’t age any more.  Once I asked my daughter when she was a toddler why she couldn’t wait until she was five years old.  She said she needed to be five so that she could ‘chew gum’.  Each age has offered its own unique set of parenting experiences and memories.  Very soon, my kids will be driving themselves to practices.  Travel sports will end and my kids will enter the next phase of their lives…a more independent phase where I’m wishing they would hang with me all weekend.So for now, Natalie thinks we were just fishin’ traveling for volleyball.  But I know we were making memories…ones I will always cherish....more

5 Ideas For When You Need a Fresh Start

Two years ago, after a summer of extreme downsizing, I moved from a small town to the city. I cut my hair, sold my piano, stopped updating my blog.  Maybe it was my age. I had just turned 57, the beginning of a new 7-year cycle. Maybe it was the aftermath of losing both parents in one year. Maybe it was teacher burnout. Whatever the reason, I needed a fresh start!...more

5 Quick Steps to the Security You Long For

5 Quick Steps to the Security You Long For How do you feel when you read this quote by Helen Keller? Do you believe it's true that security is an illusion? Or do you believe your financial, relationship, family situation are true security? I sure know what it's like to want security, as slippery as it is to grasp and hang on to, moving target that it is. ...more