I Said I'd Never Dye My Gray Hair. I Was Wrong.

When my own strands of gray started coming in, I swore to myself that I would never dye my hair to hide them. I was middle-aged and OK with that fact. I knew a lot more about life than I had in my 20s, and that seemed a good trade-off. But then I got a few more such hairs, and a few more. I wasn’t completely gray, but those gray hairs were definitely visible — at least to me, if no one else. ...more
I went grey in high school. There was no way i wasn't dying it. I want to love my gray when all ...more

The Midlife Pursuit: What's My Passion?

Aside from stalking old boyfriends, I've learned a lot about myself through the quizzes on Facebook. For instance, the “Friends”character I’m most like is Monica because according to the quiz, “I’m a little uptight but a great friend.” Not surprising, I am a peach pie, not because I live in Georgia but “I’m cute, quirky and a bit of a smart ass.”...more
Thanks so much. You have plenty of time to figure it out...enjoy the journey.more

What I Learned at My 25th High School Reunion

If there had been a geek squad at my suburban Philadelphia high school in the late 1970s, I would have lettered varsity: editor of the school newspaper; president of the drama club; consistent earner of A's that marched in orderly columns down four years’ worth of report cards. Image Credit: danxoneil...more
Such a beautiful post, PurpleClover, thank you for sharing your story.  It resonates with ...more

Southern Girls Don't Need Me Around, Anyhow - Especially When I'm Being A Snob

I am a snob.It pains me to admit it. It really does. If someone called me a snob to my face, I'd be offended. I pride myself on treating people with kindness and respect, sometimes when they don't even deserve it. I try very hard to instill that same kindness in my children, as well.But this last weekend, I was a snob, and there's no sugar-coating that....more

An Open Letter to A Friend

Open letters seem to be all the rage, so I’m throwing my ass into the ring and writing one. Why not say these things to my friend (or friends) privately, face to face, over Tequila shots in a bar?...more

Midlife Cabernet: Being Awesome behind the Waste Basket

Last week I attended the BlogHer ’14 Conference in San Jose with several thousand other women and a few brave men. For most of the conference, my photograph was hidden behind a waste basket in the exposition hall. It was the last photo....more

Morning Glories

I was stopped in traffic.  Shocking, I know.In a drainage ditch, a patch of beautiful morning glories.  Right there…..8 blooms.  All open.  In a nasty rain run-off ditch on I-65 South.Flourishing.I smiled.  Yep, I did.  Those beautiful flowers opened wide on a nice cool morning.  Reaching for the sun.  Happy flowers....more

The Sweetest Pain

There are times when people around me think I’m the strongest person they know; how my resilience has empowered them. Some even ask me for advice on various personal issues when the truth is – I’m still a work in progress, struggling with my own issues and half the time, is scared to death of myself. Don’t misunderstand me, I love life and the many blessings it brings but there’s a story behind these eyes that one would never be able to fathom and a fact that will never change no matter how hard I pray, meditate, exercise or help others:My mother has schizophrenia....more

Dr. Romance video: Do men have biological clocks?

Dr. Romance on men and biological clocks:To watch video, click hereYes, a man can feel the need to grow up and have a family, especially when he finds a woman who inspires those feelings in him.  The problem is, how can you be sure the match is a good one?...more

Need Another Reason to Exercise, Eat Well and Maintain a Healthy Weight? How About High Blood Pressure?

A few decades ago, we had a totally different definition of "high." Today, as Baby Boomers, we often associate "high" with body temperature (translation: hot flashes), numbers when we step on the scale and, for some of us, blood pressure....more

Help Wanted: How to evade the empty nest

 It’s no secret that I will be an empty-nester in just 3 weeks. I’ve talked a lot about giving thought to whether or not I should continue blogging. I started this blog for a few reasons, some (two actually, who shall remain nameless) of which are flying the coop or leaving the nest   or something....more

Once Upon Another Time

I lost the baby pool by 4 hours. The man who is technically still my husband has a new baby as of 4:00 am yesterday. I have spent the last 24 hours trying to decipher what it is that I am feeling. I think the answer lies somewhere in the haunting Sarah Bareilles song that has been running through my head on a loop since yesterday afternoon, "Once Upon Another Time"......more

Growing Old Gracefully (or NOT)

Ah, aging. If you have hit 40, possibly even your late 30's, then you are familiar with the feeling of dismay that comes when a new sign of aging appears. These signs come in a variety of ways, both physical and mental. Gravity kicks in. You lose your tolerance for Rap music. Hangovers last a minimum of 2 days. Your kids start having theme parties based on the decade you graduated from High School. The list is endless really....more