Do You Have A Guidebook For Life?

Book Discussion

In Margaret Dilloway's How to Be an American Housewife, Shoko uses a book by the same name as her guidebook to American life. Sometimes she likes the book, other days she hates it. But it's there for her when she needs it to offer advice, comfort or just the recognition that she's not the only woman in her position.

"When you marry and integrate with Americans, it is only natural not to have friends. Most American women will dislike you. Perhaps looking for other Japanese women will be possible, but probably not. Expect to be alone much of the time. Children help relieve this melancholy." p. 46

I don't have a guidebook for life. Sometimes I wish I did. Sometimes I think life would be easier if it came with an instruction manual. Then I remember that I used to write instruction manuals for a living and well, they do tend to be on the boring side and no instruction manual is complete. There's always a question you didn't think someone would ask, a scenario you didn't anticipate. And if we're being honest, I've never been particularly good at following the rules or following the expected path.

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Some people have books that they turn to for instruction, be it the Bible or Emily Post's Etiquette. Some people have mantras. Other people have personal theme songs. I think we all have something we turn to. I don't have a guidebook for life, I have a whole lot of guidebooks. All those books I read and re-read? They are my guides. I visit places I'll never see, live lives I'll never live. Each book teaches me something new.

Do you have a guidebook for life?

BlogHer Book Club Host Karen Ballum also blogs at Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.


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