The Importance of Letting People Know You Care
One of the most important things that Gal learns in Margaret Dilloway's The Care and Handling of Roses with Thorns is how to show people that she cares about them. Gal is a prickly character and being a giving person doesn't come easily to her. She tends to give the impression that she thinks everyone else has it easier than she does and that she shouldn't have to try as hard. Almost losing her best friend Dara is the kick in the pants she needs to move beyond her own problems.
"Maybe you don't realize it, but you only call when you want me to do something for you, Gal. I'm the one who takes you to your appointments, helps you when you're sick. And I don't mind doing it because you're the closest thing I have to a sister." She wipes her nose with the back of her hand. "But I felt like I gave and gave, the more I gave, the more you wanted. I want you to give a little bit, too." Page 251
Gal realizes that she was taking from her friend and not giving in return. It makes her more open to not only opening more of her live to Dara, but to others as well. Throughout the book Gal learns the importance of not only accepting friendship, but giving it in return.
I think most of us have encountered someone like Gal, or perhaps been a bit like her ourselves. I frequently forget that people can't hear my thoughts and don't know that I'm thinking of them. I have to remind myself that I have to pick up the phone, write the email or poke someone on Facebook. Being someone's friend means doing more than just thinking about them -- you need to let them know you are doing it.
Are you good at letting your friends know that you care about them?