Were You a Disobedient Girl?

When I was young, I was just a good girl. As I got older and in High School, I learned how to retain the appearance of being a good girl, but I actually got away with a lot without getting caught/in trouble.

I was very obedient because it had been drilled into me early that I was to do what I was supposed to do. Also, I went to Catholic school, where obedience was further drilled into us. I don't mean that my parents were particularly fierce or stern, but my mother made it clear from the get-go that we were to obey her will and do what was expected of us.

In fifth grade, I was going to approach a book report assignment in an unusual, creative way, but when I'd gotten partway through I knew that such an approach wouldn't be permitted, so I scrapped it. I should have just turned the damn thing in and never looked back; I wish I'd been that kind of person.

I was an obedient girl on the outside, but on the inside I didn't want to be obedient -- I just wanted to do what was expected of me. Classic oldest child!!!

I was a Sue on the surface, but very Shoko in the shadows. Definitely a dual personality!

I was most definitely a Sue. I never wanted to make any waves or make anyone dislike me.

I'm still naughty. :)

I was very disobedient. I got kicked out of Honors classes, and thrown into detention a lot. But, at the same time I never tried drugs or alcohol and I didn't chase boys or anything. I was more about railing against the oppressive system. I read a lot of Gloria Steinem and bell hooks.

I was obedient on the surface but what my parent's didn't know didn't hurt them. Now...I'm a rule follower and wouldn't dream of being disobedient.

I went back and forth as far as obedience went over my childhood - I lashed out against my mother at times because I wasn't handling their divorce well. When I was older, I was much more "obedient" ... I'm not a "by the book" rules sort of girl, I suppose! In that sense, I guess you'd say I am more of a rebel!

I would say I'm very similar to you - I was very obedient in school - always trying to do my best. And even at home...most of the time. Well, at least until I got to be a teenager. Then, I think my parents would probably tell you that I appeared to be obedient. I say that because I think they probably had a better idea of what I was doing behind their backs than I thought they did...and let me get away with it. Maybe it was because it was the same sort of stuff they did as teenagers, maybe they figured I was due for some rebellion after such an obedient childhood.

I think of myself as more disobedient now than I really was - probably because of my independent spirit. Interesting to think about now...

Depends who you ask.

Oh, tough question. Depends on my age. Overall, I was obedient, but I had a stubborn streak like Shoko and usually got my own way. Maybe I should ask my mother... (Is it wrong to hope I'm more like Shoko?)

I was rather obedient. My mother would tell you I was, at least. I was quiet. I didn't do homework. I tricked my sister into doing chores. I did all sorts of things that I suppose were disobedient, but not in the way that disappointed my mother really.

Ok, middle school there might have been some serious disobedience.

I tried to be obedient. Sometimes I succeeded. Sometimes I didn't. I knew which rules could be bent or broken. I pushed the limits whenever and whenever I could when I was a teenager. Sometimes I paid for it dearly.

If I could do it over again I don't think I would want to, but I wouldn't do anything different either.

What I did made me who I am today and I am okay with that.

No, I was not a disobedient child at all. Perhaps it was because I grew up in a home where Mom and Dad would say there is a reason behind every rule and would change the rule if we could show a fault in their reasoning. I never did find fault with their reasons so happily obeyed the rules.

Like you it completely depends on who you ask. I would say I was definately obient with caution. Is that possible?

Uh, I don't know.

It depends. I knew how to please people, what they wanted to hear. And I wasn't BAD even when I wasn't overly obedient. I fell somewhere in the middle, as most people do.

I am probably closer to Shoko than Sue, but ... I was very much a rule follower, so long as I understood the purpose of the rules. I would hope that like Shoko I would have bit the hand of the nanny and run with my little brother, but ... I was also sometimes naive, so who knows!

That said, there are definitely things from my teen years that it's best my parents don't know - that hearing stories from my friends... I was still a VERY well behaved child! :)

I am far more like Shoko than I am like Sue. I am belligerent, stubborn, hard-headed, disobedient, opinionated, hard to get along with, and a rather large pain in the ass. Like Shoko, I sometimes feel very solitary and isolated. But, it was very telling that Sue felt the same way... Perhaps that's just part of the human condition.

I like who I am and I'm glad that Shoko didn't suffer fools gladly.

I absolutely LOVED this book! As for who am I more like, I'm not sure. I definitely made things happen like Shoko did, sometimes I was disobedient, but I only got into trouble when I was caught. ;)

I'm loving these answers because it's making me think more about words like disobedience/obedience, defiant, and rebellion -- traits I tend to find positive rather than negative.

I think I'm a choose your disobedience, defiance, rebellion wisely kind of person.

I was all of those and am now wondering when I chose wisely and when I did not.

Denise