What Wouldn't You Do For A Friend?

Book Discussion

Graciela "Ace" Jones is a powerful force. She's loud and tough. She's sassy. I'm pretty sure that Tyra Banks would say that Ace is "fierce." Ace is a lot to handle but one thing is clear in Stephanie McAfee's Diary of a Mad Fat Girl -- Ace is one heck of a friend.

As I read about Ace's exploits I frequently asked myself if I would do any of those things for a friend. Would I get arrested for a friend? I just might. If I saw one of my best friends in the hospital like Chloe? And I had to talk to her smug, butter wouldn't melt in his mouth husband who was insisting she just "fell down the stairs?" I don't know that I wouldn't try to rip his head off. Sure, I'd like to think that my more rational (and far more devious and vengeful) side of my brain would win out, but I can't say that with certainty. I remember my best friend's prom date made her cry at prom and I kind of wanted to rip off his arms and beat him with them. I didn't, because that would be have been a total overreaction, but if dirty looks could maim he would have had some serious wounds. I have been told I am quite good at dirty looks when the need for them arises.

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Would I sneak around in backyards and strip clubs to try to get incriminating photos of my friend's husband? Probably -- if she asked me to do it I'd have a hard time saying no. I'd like to think I'd be more subtle about it than Ace and Lilly were, though that would mean the resulting stories would be far less hilarious. I'd probably also learn how to use the flash on the camera before heading out. It's more likely that I'd hire a private investigator instead. It would be worth every penny if they got half the stuff that Ace and Lilly dredged up.

Ace's friendship with Lilly was also interesting to view from the outside. Would I forgive a friend for bailing on a road trip the night before we were supposed to leave? Probably, if they gave me a really good excuse. As for Lilly's job issue... that's harder. Under the circumstances I totally understood Ace's reaction and I probably would have jumped to the same conclusions myself. I thought the way they were able to set that aside and band together for Chloe said a lot about their friendship.

Was I alone? Did you find yourself comparing your friendships to the ones in the book? Is there anything you wouldn't do for a friend?

BlogHer Book Club Host Karen Ballum also blogs at Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.


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