Boundaries Within Marriages
A little less than a year ago, I sat down and made a list of all of the different roles I have in my life; employee, wife, daughter, friend, student, etc. and then I set at least five boundaries or rules in each of those areas that have helped me stay more sane, be more productive and find better balance in my every day activities. Recently it occurred to me that my husband and I could set boundaries together to make our relationship easier and help prevent conflict.
As part of this weekend's date night, it might be fun to sit down with your spouse and set some boundaries. Maybe one of you absolutely hates to take out the garbage, and it becomes an argument every time. You might decide that the other person will always take out the garbage, as long as they don't ever have to clean the toilet. Be sure to also set boundaries that will protect your marriage from outside conflicts. I admire people who have a no electronics in the bedroom rule. It's the perfect boundary to guarantee quality time together, better sleep and a happier couple.
Make a few goals for how you want your marriage to improve and set boundaries that will make those goals more achievable. Be aware of each other's limits and work together to stay within those. Don't be afraid to revisit and change some of the boundaries you've made from time to time. If one isn't working, try something new. When life changes, adjust your boundaries accourdingly. Take control of your life and your marriage and you'll be happier, I promise!