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Braces: Vanity or Necessity?

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I have a feeling I am going to take a lot of heat for this post. I’m going to tell you all about braces and orthodontics, but I’m also going to talk about my personal opinion, and that always seems to get me into some hot water. Be gentle.

I have been told on more than one occasion that both of my children need braces. But, I’ve never actually taken either of them to an Orthodontist. The reason I never took them was; I have heard from many friends that when you take your child to the Orthodontist it is “free”, but once you are there you are basically put on-the-spot to make a decision to get the braces, or be charged for the visit. So, if you decide to agree to a payment plan at that moment, you avoid having to pay the $150.00 (or so) consultation fee. Bargain. Personally, I don’t know one person that has taken their child to an Orthodontist and didn't leave convinced they needed to get the braces. Since I didn’t have the money, even for payment plans, I figured avoidance of this particular office would be my best bet. I also think that even though my children's teeth may not be considered "perfect", they look just fine to me.

I’m not saying that I recommend this “avoidance” method for all parents, I know that there are many instances when braces are an “obvious” necessity. Basically, I have a two part problem with this whole “to get or not to get braces” thing. One, is the “money” factor, the other is the “guilt” factor.

I don’t have a problem with braces in general, but it seems to me that (practically overnight), necessity went from…baby teeth fall out, and permanent teeth are obviously “crooked”, to pull-out baby teeth and make sure the permanent teeth will be “perfect”.

Though early treatment may be the best approach for some conditions, there's controversy over the usefulness of putting braces on little ones.

From Star-Telegram...

The Freedonia Group, a Cleveland research firm, projects that the market for orthodontic devices will grow more than 6 percent a year to reach $3.7 billion by 2010.

Braces aren't cheap, and dental insurance usually covers only a small part of the bill.

So patients predictably have questions about the expense.

Packard estimates that orthodontic treatment typically costs $4,800 to $5,200 locally.

As a single mother, I found this quote by "Packard", a little offensive. Maybe I'm taking this too personally, but where does an orthodontist get off declaring what the "all-American family" should look like?

"The people that come to us are the ones that have three or four kids. Both parents work. Two of them are teenagers. They both need braces, and they don't want to spend 12 grand for those kids. They'll spend [$9,000] with us," Packard said. "Our market is the general run-of-the-mill, all-American mom and dad who are trying to make a living and take care of the family."

Am I not "taking care of my family" because I choose to wait and see if they will really need braces, or if I just can't afford to get them braces? This is where the "guilt" thing comes into play.

For me, as a single mother, I carry around enough guilt. So, I wasn’t going to let my dentist (brother in-law) make me feel guilty over not taking my kids to the orthodontist. Not he or anyone else could tell me that not correcting the small gap between my son’s teeth, would definitely become a problem as his later teeth came in. I was also told that there wasn’t enough room in his mouth for all his teeth…So wouldn’t that make the gap close up? I’m told maybe, or maybe it will make all his teeth crooked. That was about ten years ago. Today my son’s teeth are perfect, except for a (very) small gap between his two front teeth. He looks fine (perfect to me), and I can’t see how him having braces would have made much of a difference.

When children’s front incisors come in, between the ages of six and eight, a gap can develop between the two central ones. This is called a diastema. Dr. Richard Marcus, a Toronto orthodontist and president of the Canadian Association of Orthodontists, says the gap may go away on its own when children reach 11 or 12. The eruption of the adult eye teeth (the

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Olivia'sMom 5 pts

Thank you for your post. I just had my 10-year-old daughter to the orthodontist yesterday, at the urging of two different dentists, despite my sincere doubt that her overbite/ overjet is really a problem. She's beautiful and confident, and frankly has no issue with how her teeth look (which, by the way, look very much like her father's teeth, as well as her aunt and uncles and THEY never had anything corrected.) I look around at all these teenagers with gorgeous, perfect teeth. While they are beautiful, part of me is really happy to have a well-adjusted, beautiful child without her needing perfect teeth to achieve that. FYI that I CAN afford them, and am still having all the same doubts as you.

Catherine Morgan 5 pts

Thanks for sharing your story, I agree.

Contributing Editor Catherine Morgan
also at Women 4 Hope ( http://women4hope.wordpress.com/ ) and Informed Voters ( http://informedvoters.wordpress.com/ )

Catherine Morgan 5 pts

Thanks Anu. I appreciate your insight, and I agree. Thanks for your comment.

Contributing Editor Catherine Morgan
also at Women 4 Hope ( http://women4hope.wordpress.com/ ) and Informed Voters ( http://informedvoters.wordpress.com/ )

Catherine Morgan 5 pts

If either of my children had teeth that were horribly crooked, and they felt embarrassed about them...I would move heaven and earth to find a way to get them braces, even if I had to get a second mortgage on my house.

I feel blessed that my children have only minor problems with their teeth, and nothing that makes them feel self-conscious. The only time they ever felt bad about their teeth was when they went to the dentist, and he told them (and me) that they needed to go to the orthodontist and get braces.

Thanks for the comment Terri.

Contributing Editor Catherine Morgan
also at Women 4 Hope ( http://women4hope.wordpress.com/ ) and Informed Voters ( http://informedvoters.wordpress.com/ )

Another Gray Hair 5 pts

This reminds me of a debate I had with some friends a couple months ago about private vs. public schools. As a stay-at-home-mom in the South, I am hard-pressed to find another SAHM who actually chooses to send her kids to public school. My kids will go to public school, however, because I cannot afford private school. It's that simple. My forced advocation of the public school system makes me a vehement, principled defender of a public education. Would I be singing the same tune if I could afford to send my kids to the best private schools? Probably not.

The same concept applies to braces. Are they a racket? Probably. But if you can afford them for your kids and it brings you some comfort, why not?

Julianne Hale
http://www.anothergrayhair.com

Clamo88 5 pts

I have a few thoughts.

If you don't have the money, you don't have the money. So, I would not go into a debt I couldn't pay just to make a smile "perfect." I would consider going into debt if my children's teeth were horribly crooked. If it were something so noticeable that made them feel self-conscious and afraid to show their smile, I would move heaven and earth to find a way.

I would not get braces for any child until all their adult teeth have come in, unless there was a serious medical issue. Teeth are very malleable. What may seem horrible when they are growing in, may turn out just fine as a child continues to grow and get new teeth.

I also would ask my child, who would have to be about 12 or 13, what they wanted to do. Some kids don't want braces. They would rather have a couple slightly crooked teeth than have to have metal wired to their mouth for a couple of years. Either way, I would consult with them and get a feel for what they felt about the situation.

Wheat Among Tares ( http://wheatamongtares.blogspot.com )

geminianu 5 pts

Hi Catherine,
I m not a mom yet but I had braces for a few years so here is my personal experience wid dem if u decide braces for your kids:

1. Getting braces is very painfull (for one week i was on liquid diet as I cud not chew).
2. Braces, give a kind of self confidence
3. Also, get braces in the formative years and not at the age of 20+

Dats all I have to say...looking forward to wht others have to say.

Anu, India
(these r my personal suggestions n I m not an orthodontic)