Most Popular

When Bloggers Stop Blogging: Break or Break Up?

  • Share This Post
  • Pin It
  • 151
  • Sparkle (
    )
     

“A professional writer is an amateur who didn’t quit.” Richard Bach

Have you noticed the disappearing bloggers phenomenon?

They start off all eager, posting and commenting and following. Then (the writers especially) start complaining about how much time blogging takes. There’s often a post to strategize how to best utilize their time. For some, school gets in the way. Then there are those who take off for a couple of months or the summer or to work on a WIP.

And never come back.

I’ve noticed this with writers. They begin writing, bright-eyed and bushy tailed. The writers complete a rough draft and think, "That wasn’t so bad." Then they join a writing group or take a workshop or find a critique buddy. They submit pages. They’re told their manuscripts aren’t as awesomesauce as they thought. 

They back off.

Do they take the feedback (after some time spent in a fetal position under a table) and work to make their manuscript better?

Some stop writing.

And that’s a shame because it takes more than a first attempt at a rough draft for most mere mortals to become published. Others take a deep breath and work on it some more. Many, many times. They query. Most receive many, many rejections.

Some more stop writing after that.

Then there are the other ones who write something else. Writing is a process. Each word we put down makes us better. Each word we take away makes us better. We write by measuring words. There is so much to take into account with every word we put down on paper, let alone every sentence. Every page. Every chapter.

It takes a lot to stomach the life of a writer. The business is designed to shout: “NO!”

But we have to keep at it.

Missing BloggersBack to the bloggers: I wonder where they go. Have they stopped writing? Have they given up on making connections? Forgoing platform? Or has life gotten in the way?

To me, blogging and writing go hand-in-hand. It’s a balance. We blog to learn; lean. Blogging has provided information and opportunities I never would’ve obtained otherwise. But we can blog instead of writing. If we started blogging because we write and then stop writing, something is wrong. It’s time to reprioritize.

It happened to me. I was posting nearly everyday, and it was zapping my writing energy. When I slowed to three days a week, I began editing my WIP in earnest. Now I’ve been putting energy into writing something new and blogging a little less.

If writers stop blogging because they’ve given up on writing, then they’ve lost the support system that can keep them going.

Then there are those who land the agent or the contract. They blog. But they don’t comment on other blogs. They don’t even comment on the comments they receive. I’m sure they’re busy and with hoards of people reaching out to them, they don’t have the need to reach out. To me, they’re losing the part that’s special about blogging. It’s all become about platform instead of a relationship for some writers.

Elana Johnson seems to be able to do it all. She doesn’t post or comment everyday, but she makes an effort to be in touch by either responding to comments on her blog or leaving thoughtful comments on other blogs. She has an agent and a book (Possession) coming out next year. And Elana is writing another book. She is part of the Query Tracker Blog Team and The League of Extraordinary Writers. And is a co-founder of Write On Con. How does she keep up? Who knows? Maybe she has ten nannies and an intern named Fred who writes her comments. (I have no evidence of this, but you never know.)

Blogging hasn’t been around all that long. Will it go the way of MySpace? What will happen with Twitter? Facebook? Or will blogging continue to be strong, continuing to displace the more traditional forms of book promotion?

Personally, I miss bloggers when they disappear. I’ll realize I haven’t heard from a person in awhile. And I’ll find their blog, disappointed when the last post was months ago. If they’re writers, I wonder if they’ve taken a break from writing or left to immerse themselves in writing. If they disappear from the blogosphere, they don’t have to answer to anyone. If so, will they return to writing?

Not everyone can do it for the long haul. Not everyone is meant

  • 151
  • Sparkle (
    )
     

Comments

Post comment as twitter logo facebook logo
Sort: Newest | Oldest
lassothemoon 5 pts

I'm coming up on my 5-yr anniversary with my blog, and I would say that the thing that keeps me going is that I like it there. I have learned to make it a place that I like--not something that has to be marketable, or make an income, or compete with the mega-blogs. I see it as a legacy to my children, who might wonder someday what it was like for me when they were little. It's also a great way of marking time.

I have taken little breaks here and there, but I don't know if I'll ever quit. There is so much encouragement in looking through the past years' changes and growth.

Thanks for this thought-provoking article.

Anna

http://lassothemoon.typepad.com

Authentic Life 9 pts

My 2-cents...after blogging daily for nearly 2 years, I've achieved the first goal of posting daily, and attempting to build a community.

It's a "blog eat blog" world out there and hard to earn an income - even as a member of the BlogHer publishing community.

I get discouraged and have lost some of my pep for it.

The writer within is itching to write a first novel.

As soon as I find time for a day job, a blog and a book - not to mention my family and social life.

I marvel at folks on their 10th book and a successful large blog.

The secret?

I have no idea.

Perhaps luck, hope and a little bit of karma all mixed together.

Sure hope the book fairy taps me on the shoulder soon, inviting me into her kingdom!

Thanks for the thought=provoking post.

Sylver Blaque 8 pts

Great post, Theresa. I've followed some wonderful blogs that suddenly disappeared. I, too, missed them. But now that I'm blogging myself, I understand the disappearing acts. Blogging is a pac-man of time and energy, especially - as stated by autismarmymom below - without compensation. But it's also fulfilling, does wonders for honing writing skill, and opens us up to a world of viewpoints we may never have access to otherwise. When I see blogs posts from bloggers who need to take time off, I completely get it now.

Here's another reason I think bloggers throw in the towel: new blogs take quite awhile to get off the ground. It takes a long time to develop a following and see those rewarding comments on your posts. Blogging for long months with nothing but tumbleweeds rolling through your Comments can easily become discouraging. You wonder, "Is anyone out there? Or am I blogging in the wind?" So, I really admire bloggers who hang in there alone, persevering to build a community.

Thanx for this wonderful post!

Blog: SylverBlaque.wordpress.com

autismarmymom 5 pts

There are too many comments to read through, so I don't know if someone has already said this...but to me the obvious reason to stop is that it's a lot of work for no pay. That's the part that I can't get my head around. I worked for 20 years for pay, so, call me crazy, but I guess I got used to getting paid for my work :) I would love for free content to go the way of the dinosaur. It's really not fair and there are a lot of very talented people who give up because they need bring home the bacon.

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

Having to take a break after a baby and health issues is completely understandable. I don't know how I'd view a blog if I'd had one when I had my children.

Hope you're feeling better and glad you're back!

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

Love the name, by the way.

You are right - the more we write, the more we want to write. I've had to slow down in my fiction and blog writing and it's depressing me.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

I hope your eagerness continues too. Finding all writers in the same stage as me has been so encouraging.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

Bloggers represent people everywhere, so the fact there are suicides in the blogging community doesn't surprise me. I hope anyone who is that worried about follower count is seeking help.

So many teachers are encouraging students to create blogs, I fear soon everyone will have one.

And if something happens to me, I hope my family can update my blog and let everyone know.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

I'm glad you enjoyed the post. I am also disappointed when I find a good post and see the blog is inactive. Blogging has definitely made me a better writer. And a better editor. Now I can mercilessly delete paragraphs. Every word is not precious.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

ladyofthebarn 5 pts

Great post. I really did not mean to stay gone this long from my blog. I just had a baby 4 weeks ago (my third), and had hoped to be back up and running within a week, two at the max. Sadly, I ran into a lot of health problems after this last one and haven't quite fully recovered. Just these last two days I have been able to get back to the computer.

I had just recently started blogging too! I felt like my readership was just starting to grow some and I was doing better and making a better blog. Then kaboom! I quit for a month. Oh twell. Just gonna have to go back out there and take that bull by the horns again, huh?

Thank you again. It really made me want to get back at it with your post.

RoxanneR 5 pts

I've allowed myself to be stopped by many of those obstacles you listed above. This is a wonderful post and a great reminder to those of us who have thrown in the towel at some point.

I started blogging back in 2005 and I have often been missing in action. This year I started blogging again and I am keeping posts more consistent, but I've also made a commitment to make my writing a priority. Funny how that goes hand in hand. :-)

RoxStar
Blog: MindfulBanter.com

Toast - Mairi 6 pts

I am new to the blogsphere & currently very eager,,,I hope it continues. And most definitely I hope blogging sticks around as I have discovered so many great bloggers and a lot of like minds out there and love feeling part of the ever growing community.
M

MommyBlogExpert 6 pts

Janis Brett Elspas, MommyBlogExpert.Blogspot.com

Thx for a thought provoking piece. I've been mommy blogging less than 2 years after a corp & agency PR career spanning more than two decades

This is fascinating phenomena to observe.

I too am often curious when an influential blogger drops off the map mysteriously. Sometimes it's just temporary, but I think more and more bloggers stop writing altogether because they just burn out. Partly I'd guess it's due to fatigue, partly to the fact that the competition just keeps getting more challenging and therefore more daunting.

Sadly, I'm nearly certain that I'm not the only one who has heard about more than a few suicides committed by bloggers in our community. Whether or not those who take their own lives is related to the success or non-success of blogging, no one knows. And let's not forget those who either die from illnesses, long-term and sudden, or after suffering a debilitating stroke or heart attack they are forcibly prevented from returning to our ranks.

Like any other industry that experiences exponential growth blogging will likely follow the same law that what comes up must come down eventually. So, I think that there will continue to be bloggers dropping out as the fittest continue to survive. Almost for certain there will be a shakeout eventually, because the blogosphere can only support so many bloggers.

In the meantime, I predict that there will continue to be a whole new generation of younger, more technically savvy bloggers coming in at the ground level.

In summary, blogging is not dead yet and if my gut feelings are correct, may have a few more good years ahead.

HopeDespiteDepression 5 pts

I get disappointed when I see a link to a blog that catches my interest but then see that it's been inactive for a couple of years - or that the link is no longer available.

I too wondered if Blogging would go the way of MySpace... not so worried about Facebook since it's still going strong :) I have met so many wonderful people - and you're right - it is about the connections we make!

In regards to people not giving themselves enough time to develop their writing - I have to say that I'm proud of how my writing has changed in the short time that I've been blogging. I write from the heart and that's what matters most to me with my blog. I've had quite a bit a practice (and positive feedback) when I wrote my numerous college papers!! :)

I enjoyed your post - you brought up things that I've been thinking myself!

Take care!
Christine

www.hopedespitedepression.blogspot.com ( http://www.hopedespitedepression.blogspot.com )

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

I follow a few blogs with two or more authors. It must take some of the pressure off for posting and commenting. The blog is going, but it doesn't always have to be because of you.

Disappearing bloggers - not everyone is meant to keep at it, I guess.

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

It's good you don't change what's working for you. If blogging once a week is what you can manage, your audience will expect it, and you'll probably be in it for the long haul.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

I could see how a baby could take your time. 18-months is such a fun age.

I didn't begin blogging until my kids were older, so that was never an issue for me.

Glad you're enjoying your return to blogging.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

Sounds like you're having fun figuring it all out. I guess you'll have to see if you're audience has time to visit everyday or has more time for shorter posts rather than reading a long one.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Barbara-The Middle Ages 5 pts

With two of us tag-teaming each other in our blog posts, we're hoping that one person's lag time won't coincide with the other's! We've been blogging for about 7 months and love it, but it is a commitment for sure.

As for reading blogs, I've read lots of apologies for not posting and a couple blogs go by the wayside. Surprising ones. I guess that's life, huh?

The Middle Ages ( http://themiddle-ages.blogspot.com/ )      Two Friends--different ages, different husbands, different opinions

JLLopez1006 5 pts

As a newer blogger (since 06/2010) that is still learning the ropes, I found this post to be of interest. I have wondered if I would get burnt out eventually and question, "WHY am I doing this again?" I have read other bloggers say that you should post very often, even at least 3 times per week, and I have decided to write at my own pace rather than try to meet expectations that may cause me to get overwhelmed later. My posts are normally informational and extensive, so I try to post once per week, and make sure that I have something really to say when I do vs. just putting a group of words out there. However, I am still learning all the time, so I appreciate posts like this that teach a newer blogger like myself what to do and what not to do. Thanks for your post!
www.livesimplylivethriftylivesavvy.wordpress.com ( http://www.livesimplylivethriftylivesavvy.wordpres... )

diethood 5 pts

stop blogging :) I love writing on my blog and I love reading other people's blogs, but when the baby came it was time to stop. Fortunately I didn't miss it all that much because I was sooo into my munchkin! Love that little peanut! But now that she's approaching the 18 month mark I find that I can squeeze an hour, sometimes two hours, during the day to get back into my hobby. I just now realized how much I missed it. I am so glad to be back in it. And blogging is bigger than ever. I can't believe all the blog tools out there that I used to wish for and now we have them! Amazing! Happy Blogging everyone!

and

Happy Eating!

Kate Pet

http://www.diethood.com

diethood@gmail.com

Funkidivagirl 5 pts

I'm still here, but barely hanging on by a thread. Barely.

Keep it funki.

denibell 5 pts

I just started blogging a few months ago. I doubt I will have a shortage on things to say :-) shortage of time? Probably. Mine is a Lifestyle blog mixed with a lot of useful mommy information I have been trying to figure out how to share for years and this was right in front of my nose! I've got about 30 drafts of articles (and adding everyday) I just need to figure out how to get some short on there everyday versus once per week! I figure even short tidbits are enjoyable, so I need to work on that! Here we go, Single Serving Saturdays anyone?

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

Thanks for sharing your story.

When I began, I was a 6 or 7-day a week blogger. Then I went to a more realistic 3 or 4 days. Now with work, I'm shrinking to 1. I try to reconnect with readers on the weekend. It all feels much like an experiment right now.

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

Blogging is about building a community. I've made friends through other blogs and I know other bloggers have become friends through my blog.

At first I didn't tell many people I was blogging, but I figured what was the point? My name is on the URL anyway.

It's good to hear readers return.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

How great your blog helped you get out of debt. I'm sorry you can't devote the same time now and things are sliding financially.

I'm in a similar situation, having gotten a full-time teaching job in the last month. I don't have to time to blog, write, and can barely keep up spending time with my family, cooking, and chores. It's all about lesson plans and grading now. I miss being underemployed sometimes.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

YaY for three months! I agree, the connections are awesome. When I was three months in, I learned so much from more experienced bloggers, which helped me figure out what was best for me.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

4 blogs. How do you find the time? And how does one recycle fruitcake? I'm going to have to check out your blogs!

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

You're right, people who aren't writers often struggle more with blogging. Both my blog writing and regular writing do come pretty easily.

How impressive you can blog after a 17-hour day.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

I totally agree. Blogging is a different writing exercise. And the immediate ability to communicate is wonderful.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

I don't get too upset if someone doesn't comment back. Often, they read but don't comment. There are plenty of lurkers out there!

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

You sound like you'd achieved balance and have a great perspectives. I love your last line - it says it all.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Miriyummy 5 pts

I started blogging in April 2010 after 5 months of unemployment and slow spiral into depression. Blogging took me out of that and gave me something to look forward to every day. And because my blog combines family life with a recipe, I got to play in the kitchen instead of just everyday cooking.

In September 2010 I found full time work and my blog got relegated to the back burner, both figuratively and literally. Instead of posting twice or three times a week, I aim for once a week.

I still look forward to blogging, but instead of it being something to take me out of a negative slump, it's something I look forward to at the end of a long day. And I find myself still looking forward to playing around in the kitchen, and finding the stories to connect to the recipe.

parentsreinvented 5 pts

The one thing that true 'bloggers' or even those new to blogging should understand is that it's not all about blogging. It should be more about building a particular community. I've been blogging for over 5 years but just recently came out of the closet, online if you will to my friends and family. Depending on your audience, that should help determine when you should blog and how often. It can take a toll if you are doing it alone, but that is when you have bigger expectations for your site. But in order to build a community, you have to give it time, give yourself time. Your readers will see that while reading your blog! They will return! ;)

realsimplesavingmethods 5 pts

I started blogging in February 2009. I absolutely love blogging and it actually helped me get out of $7,000 in consumer debt. I felt that blogging kept me honest -- how could I blog about living frugally and saving money without actually doing it?

In August of this year I began student teaching for my final year in college. Between being in the classroom and taking college classes I just don't have the time to blog anymore. I miss blogging so much and have tried to come back from my "break" a few weeks ago, but I just don't have the time anymore. I was spending way too much time sitting at my computer after school and not paying attention to other important things in my life, like my family and friends. I felt like I had to blog rather than do other things I enjoy because others who I didn't even know were counting on me for the information I was providing. I felt guilty for a while after deciding to take a break, but now I feel so much better about myself.

I would love to come back from my break and continue blogging, but I don't see it happening once I start teaching full time. I need to focus my time on my students and lessons when I have that free time after work, not blogging. And unfortunately since I've stopped blogging, I've fallen into the trap of credit cards again and have racked up some debt. If anything, I would go back to blogging just to help me financially -- not necessarily for the commissions or free products for reviews, but to start being "honest" with myself again. I feel out of touch. I hope some day I can find my financial peace without relying on blogging.

twelvedag 5 pts

great topic! and loving the responses.

my blog is entering its third month. woo-hoo! maybe i am still in the newbie phase but i am still enjoying the ride. sure, it's challenging from time to time, but ultimately it's been a great experience. it has allowed me to come in contact with so many people i would never have been able to connect with otherwise...including all of you!

AjGentry 5 pts

Thanks Theresa. I was amazed that I posted 3 times in the last two weeks and my numbers shot up again. It's nice to know they still care. :) But I do think that it works best if fresh peeps are always coming to my blog. Best, Alana

babbsela 5 pts

I started blogging about 8 years ago, but I didn't know that's what it was called until 2 years later when I moved my website over to blogger. I now have 4 blogs, and can't imagine stopping. Writing is too enjoyable to stop!

I'm a mom, wife, entrepreneur, and blogger. I love chocolate, and often drive too fast. My holiday site: http://FruitcakeRecycling.com

That Girl At The Party 5 pts

The ability to write is a talent and a gift. The problem for many bloggers that give up is they are not truly writers and thus it does not come to them with ease. It becomes, instead, a chore.

Oprah once said that you know you are doing what you are supposed to do in Life, when you can do it for hours and not tire or even notice the time going by. Another sage person said that you have found your true calling when everything connected to it just flows and you do not feel like you are swimming upstream. I know that I have finally found my calling through my blog/online magazine. Started as a side to my TV producing career, That Girl At The Party has taken on a Life of its own and I hope to be in it for the long haul!

Do I sometimes get exhausted after a 17-hour day? Sure. But is it a better and happier exhaustion than anything I have ever done? Damn skippy!

http://thatgirlattheparty.com

hisern 5 pts

Great article...and it took me a while to find the right balance. Now, blogging and writing are inseparable, operating as an athlete's fast and slow twitch muscles. For me the short blog spurts fuel my immediate urge to communicate. Once that is done I can focus on something longer term that requires more endurance.

Heidi
www.theuntakenroad.com ( http://www.theuntakenroad.com )

Sweetbearies 6 pts

I blog and comment on other blogs when I can. I realize other people are busy, so I never take it personally if people do not comment back.

IWantThursdays 5 pts

I started a blog a few years ago and that just didn't work. I dedicated too much time to it. So I took some time off from it, had a child and now I am back.

I strive to find balance - I work outside the home, I have a toddler, I love to knit, to read and now to blog. There really are only so many hours in the day.

So I promised myself I didn't have to blog everyday, or knit everyday or read everyday. It was ok not to do everything all the time. I think that has really helped me.

So while I may not have as many blog entries as other bloggers, I find the posts themselves to be more meaningful to me, and hopefully, to those who might read me.

tara

http://iwantthursdays.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

How great you're getting paid to write.

The way I look at it, blogging has opened up several opportunities and provided great friendships and critique partners. I hope I can continue to have it led to other endeavors.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

Yes, having more readers is nice.

How great you've been devoted to one blog for so long. I miss my blogging friends when I'm away too, wondering what they're all up to.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

I had the same problem as you! I let blogging take over my writing life for awhile because spending time writing a post felt like writing. But it's a different type of writing. Once I realized the problem, I stopped posting everyday.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Theresa Milstein 6 pts

Don't stress yourself out. There's no need to blog everyday. I know that I have a hard time keeping up with daily bloggers, which frustrates me if I like those blogs. If you do every other day you won't lose readers and you'll have more time for the other stuff.

http://theresamilstein.blogspot.com

Lorren 5 pts

I've been writing to my current blog for 3 1/2 years. In that time, life changes. I started writing professionally nearly 2 years ago. My other work makes a lot more money than my blog. After spending my working time writing articles and web pages that make money, I don't have as much time for anything else. In this economy, I don't have the luxury of spending a lot of time on things that don't make money (or homeschooling, which I do for my family).

I still blog, just not as much as I otherwise would. Perhaps that's what happens to other people. Things change in their life, and they take a break, or write considerably less.

mamashake 5 pts

I've been blogging every weekday since 2006. It's become so much a part of my life that I think in little bloggy bytes.

I started other blogs while this one was running but I've abandoned them. I think it's because the other blogs were gimmicky (one baking and one photo a day thing) but they just weren't completely me.

I love blogging and I really miss it when I can't (due to travel) or even just when I blog late in the day.

I only wish I had a few more readers for my own personal validation LOL!

LoveandPaella 5 pts

I blog nearly every weekday, but I find myself running out of energy when it comes to more serious writing, which is my first love. Hmm...this article has been really thought-provoking! Thanks for writing it!

Boy meets girl. Girl goes to Spain.  Boy comes too.  Hilarity ensues.  ( http://www.loveandpaella.com )Love & Paella ( http://www.loveandpaella.com )