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Budgeting - Constraint or Freedom?

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To many, the word budget often has the feel of a four letter word. What comes to mind is deprivation, lack, and constraint. Yet as we've seen throughout this economic crisis, those who have a budget and clear picture of their inflow and outflow are the people who have landed on sound financial footing at a most challenging time.

My personal relationship with budgets has been kind of odd. While I track every penny that comes in and goes out and I am diligent about reviewing this information regularly, I honestly can't say I have a bona-fide budget. Or at least not as I think of a budget - a chart that literally maps out how much I can spend by category each month. For my business I have income and expense projections, but I am not sure whether that truly constitutes a budget or not. My budget has been a more fluid dance with expectations, actual spending, and an ongoing desire to regularly review, adjust, and save where I can.

As you can see...even a financial savvy coach like myself can get caught in the trap of the semantics of budgeting. No wonder so many people avoid it like the plague. That is why in this article I plan to give you some tips on how to create, stick to, and evaluate a budget.

The hardest step is that first one. So, where do you start? Keep the process manageable. Take a peek at the Motley Fool 60-Second guide to Budgeting. The good news with budgeting is you get to start right where you are. No fancy math, no mysterious budgeting algorithms, you simply start with assessing what you earn and what you spend each month. This process will either take a little or a LOT of work depending on how diligent you have been with tracking your income and expenses. I created quite a stir a while back when I asked the question "Do You Balance Your Checkbook?" so it just goes to show that that not everyone is as detailed as I am when it comes to tracking and reviewing finances.

The article "20/10: Debt Free Series: How to create a budget, Rethink Necessity and Be Thankful" shares my take on budgets as a tool that frees you up rather than ties you down:

Based on my experience, I associate budget with the word freedom. I associate the word budget with peace, and knowledge.

And, when you're feeling overwhelmed by the state of the financial markets, the bills you have due, or even just the task of budgeting, take this article's advice and remember to be thankful:

Be thankful for everything you can afford.

This is something that I think is vitally important. Be thankful for everything you have, and everything you can purchase each month. You may have had to cut your cable and started using the library, but be thankful that you can use the library! Be thankful that you can pay all of your necessities. Be thankful that you are taking control over your future. You are gaining knowledge that will help you throughout your financial life.

Besides your income and expenses, it is important to know what your goals are. What really matters to you? The same household with the same income may have radically different budgets depending on what you are trying to accomplish. A Frugal Housewife gives us insight into this in "How to Create a Budget"

Another thing to consider before you start creating your budget is your goals. Do you want to save for a down payment on a new house? Are you working to reduce your debt? Is your main goal saving for retirement? Your goal or goals will help you determine how your money should best be budgeted. They will also help you determine what amount of discretionary expenses you’re comfortable allowing. If your savings goals are longer term, you may be willing to save a little less and let your nest egg build slowly. If your savings goals are short term, you may be willing to sacrifice a little more in the short term in order to meet your goal.

She also segeue's nicely into the next step in the process -- reviewing the budget.

Once you’ve developed your budget, try it for a month or two. Remember that a budget is just a guide, and that it can be tweaked to suit

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paulag01 5 pts

Wow - thanks so much for all the sharing of experiences. It reinforces what a charged topic money and budgeting is.

Kathleen makes a good point - how do you budget when you are  always a a shortfall?  I will flash a Suze Orman moment here & say that there are basically 2 elements to a budget -- income and outgo.  To make it work everyone has 2 choices -- increase inflow or reduce outflow --- to make it work.  Ideally work both sides of the equation.

Thanks for reading & especially for the conversation!

-Paula

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itsmarissa711 5 pts

We definitely have a budget.  My husband was having a hard time no just using his ATM card willie-nillie, so he gave it to me.  I spend a certain amount on food a week. Period.  Going over is not an option.  A certain amount on gas, clothes, fun, etc.  Money may have to be tight, but it teaches us not to go overboard and buy things we do not need.  Seems contraining, but it's realistic. 

This is hilarious:

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christinajeanne 5 pts

Me and my family almost lost our home. I think if we had a budget before this happend we would have not had to deal with almost losing our home in the first place. Now we are creating a budget and yes it's hard yes you have to make sacrafices but to keep your home and to have food on the table and take care of your family which is the most important thing makes it worth it. yes giving up stuff is no fun when you used to have that extra penny but now if we really need or want something we save for it. It feels rewarding knowing we can be in control of our finances and keep our home.

Kathy333 5 pts

My husband and I are very much alike in that we believe inf ollowing budgets, making budgets and trying our best to save money and live the best we can within our means. For the most part it works, and it is great to not have to worry about debt and not paying bills because we can meet ends meet by watching what we spend. I guess sometimes, though, I get frustrated with always having to watch what I spend at the grocery store, say. Or not getting a new shirt. It's really tough where I live, where everyone seems to 'have it all.' Believe me, I understand that having it all does not mean having the newest and the best and the most expensive, and now I am seeing what is happening to those people who believed they could afford it all when they really couldn't, and it is scary. Yet sometimes, just sometimes, I'd like to feel okay about splurging on a blouse or a new pair of running shoes. Instead, I often feel guilty  . . . even when it is written in the budget! So, definitely a necessity, and it is something I write about all of the time on Allbusiness. But, still, sometimes, I really would like to just go out, blow a ton of money, and feel good about it lol!

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kmcdade 5 pts

First, two words:  Never enough.

As in, we never have enough to cover everything, so trying to budget is discouraging and disheartening.  I should probably put my time into increasing our income instead!

Kathleen

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PatriciaPangea 5 pts

I was watching Oprah yesterday and she had a segment on families budgeting. These children growing up are not learning the value of the dollar and are getting a wake up call. Guess what things come with a price tag. And I really believe that you appreciate things so muh more when you work for it. Just feels like you earned it and there is a pride that goes with that.

The reality is everyone is on a budget, some are just much bigger than others. I don't look at it as contraining or freedom but rather a reality. 

Plus it makes me feel good when I shop and get a good deal on something, much better than if I paid a premium price - but that's me. 

Patricia Pinkney

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Golden_Girl 5 pts

I'm an avid listener of The Dave Ramsey Show.  I learned all about the "B" word from his popular book, The Total Money Makeover.  I would highly recommend his books to anyone who is struggling with debt and money. 

 Following a budget is hard but worth it because of the power it gives you, not only over your money, but the rest of your life as well.  You feel empowered and that gives you more self-confidence in yourself!

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Wilma Ham 5 pts

I love the tone of your post, Paula.
There are so many things that can frighten us and money seems to be the one thing in life that scares us most and as a result we are not very smart with it.

Money rules most of us and in your post you show us that it is the other way round and that we are the master.

As you indicate, don't make yourself a slave of the budget, just look at what is so, adjust it, make it a living and breathing document that serves you, rather than polices and imprisons you.

And to do that we must be careful not to get caught up in the emotions around money at a personal and at an economic level.

The relationship with money is weird and we seem to be very irrealistic about it.
It is great to be encouraged to get freedom around money as I think it will carry on into other areas of your life.
We hide behind money to stop being courageous in life.
We stop travel, get a divorce, share income with partners, look after your health, get education you need, because we lack money.
Most of the time it got nothing to do with money.

It is an interesting topic and thanks for talking about freedom around money. Loved it.

Wilma Ham

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Candelaria Silva 5 pts

All of my working life, I have paid my bills - most always on time, put something in savings - most of the time, and paid cash for the few other pleasures.  My husband just influenced me to install Quicken.  He and another friend of mine get joy from checking on the money damn near daily.  For me, the sound of the cash register that the software makes is depressing. 

I already know what I do or don't have in my mind and I haven't found that checking the check book more frequently or having the software does anything for me. 

Looking at money more closely reminds me of the money I don't have.  And while I extremely grateful for the things in life I do have, money has never been something that life or my efforts has brought me in abundance and therefore, I just don't like looking at it more than I have to when I pay the bills.

Bah-humbug!

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Vered 5 pts

I'm with Miranda on this one: I track my net worth. However, I agree that having a budget and sticking to it is freeing rather than limiting, especially since it can help you prevent credit card debt. 

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MMarquit 5 pts

Thank you for this post! I like the idea of keeping general track of what you're doing, and of setting goals. I'm leaning more toward the networth mentality, though. This is where you concentrate an making sure that you are growing your networth, and making sure that your expenses do not exceed your income. There is room for specfic goals you want to reach (x amount for retirement, a cruise, etc.).

But I guess that's why it's called personal finance. Because we can all do it "our" way. :)

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