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Hi everyone!
So I was thinking the other day that no kid likes to be criticized. Frankly, I don’t know too many adults
who enjoy it either. However, as parents, we know we need to redirect
our kids, to teach them and correct them and guide them. Trouble is,
we’re often so busy we fail to take the time to gently redirect, or
teach or correct them…there is a technique to doing this that makes
this medicine go down a whole lot easier.
Have you heard of the sandwich method of communication? It works like this:
think of a hamburger in a bun. Your bun represents positive comments
that reinforce what your teen is doing well. In order for your teen to
sink her teeth into the hamburg patty – where the corrections lie – she
has to go through the bun first. In other words, when your corrections
or criticisms are surrounded on both sides by positive reinforcement
and references to what she does well the corrective comments are a
whole lot easier to swallow.
A colleague of mine was just today recounting her recent review at
work. She was appalled that her supervisor gave her only criticism – no
positive comments at all. And I know she’s a smart woman and good
worker. People simply forget sometimes to take the time to take
feelings into account, to consider how information will be received,
and to pursue a kinder way to present it.
As parents, I know you care deeply about your teenager’s
feelings….so while you are teaching, correcting and guiding your teen,
make sure that you provide regular and even frequent positive comments
that build on his strengths.
http://www.parentingteensinfo.com/blog/2008/09/19/2-min-tip-build-on-your-teens-strengths/
Thanks for listening everyone!
~
Sue
